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Originally Posted by no kudzu
I don't think you are being controlling at all. You are the boss and you have every right to determine where your child will go and when. Perhaps you could make a list of possibilities and let her know which you would prefer for that day and let her chose between 2 or 3. But even then you are within your rights to tell her what you want.
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Over controlling was probably an over statement. Sure, employers have a right to tell nannies what to do, but they won't have happy nannies if they don't allow them choices. They aren't slaves. They are people.
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Originally Posted by Houston_2010
I'm not complaining that she took my daughter to the children's museum...but just that I had given her a plan for the day (this was a Monday. The prior Friday they had already gone to the museum..trying to vary things a bit). I myself love the museum...just not too much of it.
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I know most nannies hate employers who hand out 'plans for the day' that don't offer some flexibility. As I said, nannies are just like other people who have moods---good days and bad days. They have days they feel like going to the zoo and days they don't. They have their own personal weather preferences for outdoor activities too.
You need more than 5 activities per week to rotate. Few adults like going to the zoo or children's museum once a week. Just like you, the nanny isn't going to love 'too much' of one thing. Once a week at the zoo might be too much zoo for her. It might just have been the outdoor temperature too.
Your nanny probably had good references because her previous employers allowed her to take the reins. Instead of asking future nannies specific questions when interviewing them, I recommend asking their references if they were employers who were more 'hands on' like you. People will tell you anything while they are interviewing. Getting a better idea of the type of people they worked for previously will give you better insight into if they are a good fit for your household.
I agree with fallingwater about the temporary nature of the job being a factor. If you and your daughter were wonderful to work with, it woudn't be a big factor, but the two things together are definitely changing the dynamic. Since the job is ending in June, I wouldn't replace her though. It's difficult for children to have constant changes in childcare providers. It's best you try to work things out with her so your daughter doesn't have to go through the loss of a childcare provider and the adjustment of a new one in such a short time period.