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Old 01-22-2011, 08:20 PM
 
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Do you want the sperm donors side?

They got what they wanted from me, genetic material and money.
Exactly. That's why I would tell the prospective father. These dumb, stupid, and crazy girls today need to be stopped.

This is what I warn my nephews about. Wear their own condom and DON'T wear one she may offer.
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Old 01-22-2011, 11:18 PM
 
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Okay, so we have hadperspectives from the momma's side and the daddy's side. Both could be extreeme and hurtful. Maternal rights and paternal rights... responsibilities and money. But we're forgetting someone here. The child. I have a dear friend who doesn't know who her father is. Her mother refuses to tell her. I know who my father is and he chooses to not be a part of my life. We have sit many a night talking about our our situations. We have been friends since 8th grade. We know each other's history and we shared pain of abandonment. In all our conversations on the subject, we cannot answer the burning question: Which is worse, knowing your father doesn't want you or not knowing who he is?

There can be justification from the momma's side and the daddy's side. There can be explainations and reasons. But there will always be this big hurt for the child.

So go ahead.... blame the momma, blame the daddy.... blame the man in the moon. But whatever situation you put yourself into, your child didn't ask to be there. If you aren't ready to be a parent, then don't have sex or take precautions. If you find yourself a parent, grow up and be a parent, because your child didn't ask to be born.

I know that this isn't the OP's situation, andI just went off on a little vent. For that I apologize. But I see the pain from a bastard child in my friend's eyes and have felt the pain of being an ignored child. Both cut deep into your soul.
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Old 01-23-2011, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Manhattan, Ks
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Okay, so we have hadperspectives from the momma's side and the daddy's side. Both could be extreeme and hurtful. Maternal rights and paternal rights... responsibilities and money. But we're forgetting someone here. The child. I have a dear friend who doesn't know who her father is. Her mother refuses to tell her. I know who my father is and he chooses to not be a part of my life. We have sit many a night talking about our our situations. We have been friends since 8th grade. We know each other's history and we shared pain of abandonment. In all our conversations on the subject, we cannot answer the burning question: Which is worse, knowing your father doesn't want you or not knowing who he is?

There can be justification from the momma's side and the daddy's side. There can be explainations and reasons. But there will always be this big hurt for the child.

So go ahead.... blame the momma, blame the daddy.... blame the man in the moon. But whatever situation you put yourself into, your child didn't ask to be there. If you aren't ready to be a parent, then don't have sex or take precautions. If you find yourself a parent, grow up and be a parent, because your child didn't ask to be born.

I know that this isn't the OP's situation, andI just went off on a little vent. For that I apologize. But I see the pain from a bastard child in my friend's eyes and have felt the pain of being an ignored child. Both cut deep into your soul.
+ 1,000 Thank you for your insight.
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