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This post is weird. There is some serious dysfunction going on within your household. I have a 14 yr old that wears hoodies and I have not had CPS get involved. He does wear a coat after it starts to get very cold though but it has to get REALLY cold for him to switch to a coat. You should see the kids at the bus stop. Looks like a bunch of eager tourists heading to Florida. There is a neighbor boy that wore shorts up until November. The kid made me cold just looking at him.
I understand your son is calling CPS but why? You have said before you have problems with him. Does he realize he could be taken away from you? Being reasonable with CPS will make their visits stop. They are quite busy with real cases (if yours is not) and will quickly leave you alone. But if you are being hostile then it gives them just cause to keep showing up after a phone call. I think there are bigger issues at hand than designer clothes and hoodies.
Please let CPS take your children and place them in a foster home. It would be hard to put them in an environment as awful as your home. Good Lord, I hope you really are just an internet persona and this is not real.
I can't wrap my head around this situation. What is missing here? What is the history with these children? Are they in need of counseling? Why do they run to CPS for everything? Something doesn't seem right.
This post is weird. There is some serious dysfunction going on within your household. I have a 14 yr old that wears hoodies and I have not had CPS get involved. He does wear a coat after it starts to get very cold though but it has to get REALLY cold for him to switch to a coat. You should see the kids at the bus stop. Looks like a bunch of eager tourists heading to Florida. There is a neighbor boy that wore shorts up until November. The kid made me cold just looking at him.
One of my son's friends showed up to go skiing with us wearing only shorts and a hoody. Sure, I thought his parents were insane, but not neglectful. They clearly were letting him "learn by natural consequences." I opted to dig through my attic and give him some extra winter gear. He wore shorts all winter and CPS never bothered that family.
There has to be something serious going on for CPS to be regularly involved. Few children call CPS to report their parents for absolutely nothing. And even fewer parents are crazy enough to be hostile with CPS.
Please let CPS take your children and place them in a foster home. It would be hard to put them in an environment as awful as your home. Good Lord, I hope you really are just an internet persona and this is not real.
Yep, its a real #ell hole here!
BTW, my ds is in counseling, for what purpose, I can't see. We pay, he goes, he gripes, then counselors turn us over to CPS, school turns us over to CPS, the kid calls CPS, all in all there's been 20+ CPS cases over the last 2 years, all ruled out. So, even CPS can't figure out what's going on. Perhaps nothing is going on? Don't you think after 2+ years and 20+ investigatons, they would find something?
What you have is a kid who's determined to get his own way, and a system that encourages it. Parents aren't supported by "the system" any more, they're vilified.
There's nothing going on here but a decent, normal home. I've even told CPS to take ds if they want him, but they "declined". Ok, so, we continue to provide a decent home, and ds continues to whine to any authority that smiles at him, and...........the beat goes on.
That's why I refuse to talk to them anymore unless and until they come up with something factual, not just more gripping from a spoiled rotten kid. Seems anytime there's a "confiict" (ie, we don't buy him something, don't let him go somewhere, etc) he makes another complaint to CPS. They investigate all complaints, but I'm sick of the attitude that he's being abused. Hey, he's the one abusing us!
BTW, my ds is in counseling, for what purpose, I can't see. We pay, he goes, he gripes, then counselors turn us over to CPS, school turns us over to CPS, the kid calls CPS, all in all there's been 20+ CPS cases over the last 2 years, all ruled out. So, even CPS can't figure out what's going on. Perhaps nothing is going on? Don't you think after 2+ years and 20+ investigatons, they would find something?
What you have is a kid who's determined to get his own way, and a system that encourages it. Parents aren't supported by "the system" any more, they're vilified.
There's nothing going on here but a decent, normal home. I've even told CPS to take ds if they want him, but they "declined". Ok, so, we continue to provide a decent home, and ds continues to whine to any authority that smiles at him, and...........the beat goes on.
That's why I refuse to talk to them anymore unless and until they come up with something factual, not just more gripping from a spoiled rotten kid. Seems anytime there's a "confiict" (ie, we don't buy him something, don't let him go somewhere, etc) he makes another complaint to CPS. They investigate all complaints, but I'm sick of the attitude that he's being abused. Hey, he's the one abusing us!
I don't know why counselors would turn you over to CPS unless he told them you did something to him and they believed him over you.
Have you sat in family counseling with him and had him explain just what he thinks he is doing and why?
What is your honest explanation? Did anything traumatic happen to him? Has he always been difficult? WHY does he have a chip on his shoulders? What is the reason? It can't be that he is JUST SPOILED. What do his aunts and uncles and grandparents say? What do his teachers and school counselors say about him? What does your daughter and husband think?
Is he just a born sociopath? If not, something must have happened.
I do pity you if you are really trying to provide a good home for your kids and this is the result. I can't imagine the stress of living like this. I think ONE CPS call would have made me insane - I can't even imagine 20 . . . that is just outrageous. CPS must have some theory of what is going on in the home after 20 calls. What have they told you is their theory?
Please provide some more background. Do you resent your son now? I know I would. Can he go live with someone else?
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There is a neighbor boy that wore shorts up until November. The kid made me cold just looking at him.
