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Old 06-20-2013, 03:43 PM
 
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Perfectly normal. It is ok to be hurt....You will get over it.
My first experience....My daughter was 11, she was having her golden mass....and I took her baby brother to mass. The school they attended was right across the street from the church. So, I attended her golden mass, her classmates and she were there....We sat in the back. Afterwards I ran over to the school, I had a small gift for her...and I was waiting just outside the see thru divider at the hallway to her classroom. As the class filed thru....I heard her say, out loud as she came down the hallway...."Oh No There's my Mother" and she pretended not to see me...as I walked out of the building feeling like Charlie Brown's Lynus....It crushed me..
Get tough skin, it will be a few years and you'll be the light of her life again

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Old 06-23-2013, 12:59 PM
 
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I give as good as I get. My DD, 11, has started becoming embarrassed by me, and the more she acts out about it, the more I try to embarrass her. (All in good humor, of course, teasingly). She almost went through the floor at a school event when everyone had to walk from one building the other and I was walking with her (it was an event FOR moms, so she was kind of stuck with me) ... and I called her snowflake and cupcake in front of her friends.

She was mortified.

"I have spent all YEAR establishing my cred," she tells me later.

LOL. She used to always think I was pretty cool. I'm not bothered by it, though if she was hostile, as in the OP's case, there would be A Talk Right Quick.
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Old 06-23-2013, 05:54 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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Is it normal for tweens to be embarrassed by their parents?

Yes
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Old 06-23-2013, 06:46 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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It's the obligation of every parent to embarrass the hell out of their kids. I learned of this obligation when I was a kid, and I learned all the best techniques.
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Old 06-23-2013, 08:14 PM
 
Location: New Hampshire
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I have an 11-year-old daughter and lately she's hurt my feelings by telling me that I embarrass her.

Last weekend she went to "teen night" at our local ice rink. They serve pizza and play music and a lot of the local middle and high-school students go to hang out with their friends. Our church youth group takes kids from our church and parents pick them up.

I told her I'd pick her up at 9:30, but when I arrived she wasn't waiting outside for me. I called her on her cell phone, but there was no service inside the rink so I went inside to find her.

Once inside I saw one of the church youth leaders and she offered to find my daughter. As soon as my daughter saw me she said, "I don't know you," and walked past me. I followed her to the lobby where the kids change out of their skates and she told me to go away because I was "embarrassing" her. When she got into the car she started complaining and asking why I had to go inside the rink.

Tomorrow is a school dance and the principal is looking for parent chaperones. She didn't give me the sign-up sheet they sent home. Instead, my husband saw it on the school website. When he mentioned that one of us would like to chaperone she threw a fit. Then she said that if we had to chaperone, he should do it because he is less embarrassing.

Is it normal for tweens to behave like this? I don't do anything to embarrass my kids. I'm soft-spoken, definitely not the type to talk loudly to her friends or make inappropriate jokes. I take care of myself physically, dress fashionably yet appropriately for my age, etc.

The only thing I can think of is that she's complained that I blend in with the kids at the middle school when I come to school functions because I'm short and thin, and look much younger than my age. But, these aren't characteristics I can change. Besides, is being short and thin any worse than being an overweight or obese parent, or a parent that looks older than her age?

Can any parents of tweens or teens share similar experiences or offer advice on how to effectively communicate with my daughter when she's accusing me of being embarrassing? Thanks.
Why the hell does an 11 year old have her own cell phone?
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Old 06-23-2013, 08:20 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Why the hell does an 11 year old have her own cell phone?
Many kids here start at 10. A lot to do with split parents or one parent. Multiple activities. Hanging with friends over at their houses. Many kids go go go. It's not old times anymore. The 70's, 80's, 90's are gone.
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Old 06-26-2013, 03:18 PM
 
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Why the hell does an 11 year old have her own cell phone?
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Many kids here start at 10. A lot to do with split parents or one parent. Multiple activities. Hanging with friends over at their houses. Many kids go go go. It's not old times anymore. The 70's, 80's, 90's are gone.

I've been a parent for 14 years and my daughter got a cell phone at 10. What's the big deal? It's 2013 and if you want to be able to communicate with your child when she isn't home, she needs a cell phone.

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Old 06-26-2013, 10:35 PM
 
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Kids here are getting cell phones younger then 10 (I did not give my kids their first until middle school, about age 12). With all the after school and other activities, it's just easier for them to call mom and say "time to pick me up", or whatever.

It's a new world.

Of course, I'm floored when I see the 8 year old with a damn IPhone LOL. My kids are teenagers and until they can PAY for the Iphone, they will have to deal with what our provider is offering as a cheap phone...

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Old 06-27-2013, 01:56 AM
 
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Let's get back to the topic folks..."Is it normal for tweens to be embarrassed by their parents?"
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Old 06-27-2013, 08:39 AM
 
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Just wanted to point out that this thread began two years ago - so the daughter in question is now an official teenager and I hope, a perfectly lovely girl in all ways.
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