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Old 02-14-2011, 02:30 PM
 
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Am I the only one who doesn't care what people do with my pictures online?
I don't know about...it doesn't bother me.
If I came across my face posted on some porn stars naked body, more power to me then I guess, I know thats not me, if my friends saw it they sure would know it wasn't me but thanks for posting my face on some hot chicks body.

I guess I am laid back in that aspect, I know if my picture were to pop up somewhere or turn into a herpes ad, my friend, family and I would know that wasn't me and that's all that matters.
Future colleges and employers will care even if you do not.

http://wiki.nus.edu.sg/display/Socia...cebook+Profile

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20202935/

http://articles.latimes.com/2009/apr...l/me-college29

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Old 02-14-2011, 05:27 PM
 
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I can assure you that wealth, social status, color, the position of the parents in the community, religion, sexual identity, or type of dog they have has absolutely nothing to do with kids doing stupid things. I've known kids of tremendously wealthy parents who didn't have any sense what-so-ever. Zero. Zilch. Zip.

This would have surprised you less if it had taken place in the barrio?
I agree. That was the point I was trying to make, maybe my wording came off wrong or something.

In my experience, it seems like the wealthier a family is the less of a clue they have as to what their kids are really up to. There seems to either be some form of denial taking place, or there's a false sense of security based on the more "upscale" lifestyle or something. Something along the lines of, "Those things don't happen here..." Just because both parents have two or more college degree's and both have great careers doesn't mean anything if the kids are home alone bored with too many gadgets to keep them busy while mom and dad are off working.
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Old 02-14-2011, 05:40 PM
 
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I agree. That was the point I was trying to make, maybe my wording came off wrong or something.

In my experience, it seems like the wealthier a family is the less of a clue they have as to what their kids are really up to. There seems to either be some form of denial taking place, or there's a false sense of security based on the more "upscale" lifestyle or something. Something along the lines of, "Those things don't happen here..." Just because both parents have two or more college degree's and both have great careers doesn't mean anything if the kids are home alone bored with too many gadgets to keep them busy while mom and dad are off working.
I'm glad you responded. I was going to PM you because I was afraid I came off as rude and snarky and I wanted to apologize. But...

We agree! It's often the bored kids who are given everything but parental guidance that pull off these stunts. (The one you described was a new one to me BTW. Sheesh!)
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Old 02-15-2011, 06:02 AM
 
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Does anyone know if there is a way to monitor the instant messaging on Facebook ?
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Old 02-15-2011, 07:29 AM
 
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I agree. That was the point I was trying to make, maybe my wording came off wrong or something.

In my experience, it seems like the wealthier a family is the less of a clue they have as to what their kids are really up to. There seems to either be some form of denial taking place, or there's a false sense of security based on the more "upscale" lifestyle or something. Something along the lines of, "Those things don't happen here..." Just because both parents have two or more college degree's and both have great careers doesn't mean anything if the kids are home alone bored with too many gadgets to keep them busy while mom and dad are off working.
Generalize much?
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Old 02-15-2011, 10:09 AM
 
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Does anyone know if there is a way to monitor the instant messaging on Facebook ?
There's parental control software you can purchase that allow you to do this. I'm not aware of anything through Facebook itself that allows you to. Parental control software has really come a long way, there's all kinds of tools for parents now that we didn't even have 3 or 5 years ago. Norton is a good brand that we've used.
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Old 02-15-2011, 10:21 AM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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we have 6 kids and I haven't seen a reason yet to allow any of the kids to have one. My oldest is 19 and he can do what he wants. Then again he has his own web site so what can I say. Also he is considered an adult now. The other kids are to young. We do have 2 other teans and don't see a reason for them to have a facebook site. We did find out from them that some of their friends have hidden sites. They use a fake name. Saying that maybe one of our kids has one anyway and we don't know it. Still the computer is in the living room and we monitor what happens there. As a parent you do what you can to protect your kids.
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Old 02-15-2011, 10:25 AM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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I agree. That was the point I was trying to make, maybe my wording came off wrong or something.

In my experience, it seems like the wealthier a family is the less of a clue they have as to what their kids are really up to. There seems to either be some form of denial taking place, or there's a false sense of security based on the more "upscale" lifestyle or something. Something along the lines of, "Those things don't happen here..." Just because both parents have two or more college degree's and both have great careers doesn't mean anything if the kids are home alone bored with too many gadgets to keep them busy while mom and dad are off working.
Funny, it would seem that those that are wealthy would not need to be at work as much as those that have little. My wife is home with the kids during the day. We do OK financially. I would think the opposite, that the less money a family has the more that mom and dad are out working and the less time they will be spending with the kids. I know of families where both mom and dad are working a couple jobs and the kids are home alone.
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Old 02-15-2011, 11:39 AM
 
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Funny, it would seem that those that are wealthy would not need to be at work as much as those that have little.
For the really wealthy I knew when my kids were growing up: Dad was at work (or on the golf course) all day. Mom did charity work, lunched with her friends, visited the plastic surgeon, got her hair done, got a mani-pedicure, got a massage, planned the dinner party (and possible movie screening) for that night, went shopping, played tennis, had a golf lesson, met with her decorator, played bridge (or mah jong) with friends, went to her committee meetings, etc., etc., etc. It's a full life, apparently.

The nanny/housekeeper/pool guy kept an eye on the kids.
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Old 02-15-2011, 12:10 PM
 
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Exactly. And then there are the families who have gotten themselves into a situation where both mom and dad must work to afford their lifestyle/mortgage/debt/bills/two car payments/name brands lifestyle/etc.

I'm not saying it's only the higher income families who don't seem to know what their kids are doing online. I'm just saying that from my own experience it seems like the families that have more money (or who appear to have more money, often it's that they have more debt but want to keep up appearances) seem to have a higher risk of these types of problems. Kids from higher income families usually have more gadgets to begin with because they can afford more of them, and it's pretty common for either both parents to be working to support that lifestyle, or for the SAH parent to be busy doing other things (as Dew Drop mentioned) and not really paying attention. I see this all the time.

I've had a weird life where I have been very very desperately poor at times, mostly while I was growing up, and very financially comfortable at other times. (Thankully we have been very comfortable for over 8 years now.) I've also been a member of the poorest family in the wealthiest "old money" neighborhood at one point in my life. There was also about a year when my husband was laid-off and I was working but not earning very much and we went from cushy life to me applying for WIC to help us out until we found our feet again. So, I feel like I've lived all different walks of life. It has helped me understand all different types of family situations, because I have personally experienced so many different situations. If I was generalizing, I apologize if that's offensive to someone. I feel like I was just speaking from my past life experiences.
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