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Old 05-23-2011, 01:18 PM
 
Location: You know... That place
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I do think it can be awkward for our 6 year old DD to go into the restroom with Daddy (on the few occasions I am not with them). They only do this now if there is no family restroom and if something just doesn't feel comfortable. Otherwise, Daddy stands outside of the bathroom and lets her go in by herself. If they are out and Daddy needs to go, he will do 1 of 2 things. He will either send her into the women's room to go while he is next door (men can get it done so much quicker than a 6 year old girl) and then wait for her outside of the women's room. Or, he will pick her up and carry her to a stall in the mens room while she has her face pushed into his shoulder. They go into separate stalls and do their business. It depends on where they are and how safe the situation feels. In Target if the Family RR is out of service, they do option 1. If they are at a truck stop right on the interstate, they will probably do option 2.

She has always been an independent child. Because of this, I have taught her to keep a watchful eye out and to trust her instincts. For my family, I think this is the best way to go. I feel more secure knowing that she will know how to take care of herself. Even if we are out together, I will occasionally let her go to the restroom by herself. Again, it depends on the situation. It started at 5 at a small restaurant that we used to frequent. There was a single room unisex bathroom. We could always see the bathroom from where we sat. If she needed to go, I would let her go by herself when I knew the bathroom was empty.

I think it is all about comfort level.
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Old 05-23-2011, 03:55 PM
 
Location: Australia
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Who here has separate sex bathrooms at home?
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Old 05-24-2011, 07:07 AM
 
Location: You know... That place
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Who here has separate sex bathrooms at home?
I wish we did. *staring dreamily into space*

I don't think that is the issue as much as people worrying about what their kids might see.

I am also more worried about the moms who have no control over their kids and they crawl under the stall and come into mine. Yuck. They are crawling on a bathroom floor and now they are in my stall where I have to at some point stand up to pull my pants up. Same thing goes for dressing rooms. btw... I don't care what sex the kid is. He/She should not be looking at someone else in either of those situations.
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Old 05-25-2011, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Here and There
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my son is 13. i bring him into the ladies room with me. if he refuses i drag him in there and spank him. that way he never refuses because he knows he will get a bare bottom hairbrush spanking in the stall. 10 spanks sends him wailing and that is why he rarely says anyting objective about using the womens restroom. it is just not safe. i will not permit him ever to use the mens restroom until he is 16. dont go off saying stuff about self esteme because he is captain of the wrestling team. he has never ever used the mens restroom and he will continue to use the womens until he is 16.
You should seek help, seriously. Your son will need mental help for years to come. What you are doing is abusive, both physically and mentally. I feel very sorry for your son. If I saw you in the ladies room doing that, I would have to restrain myself from taking matters into my own hands and just call the police.
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Old 05-25-2011, 10:28 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn New York
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You should seek help, seriously. Your son will need mental help for years to come. What you are doing is abusive, both physically and mentally. I feel very sorry for your son. If I saw you in the ladies room doing that, I would have to restrain myself from taking matters into my own hands and just call the police.

Yes, I agree with you. I think the boy is ready to use the men's room himself.

I have a problem with the boy being spanked like that, I really do......
so much so, that I will not be able to make a comment, because I will get banned. I only hope the boy is strong enough to know that his mother is a nut case.
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Old 05-25-2011, 10:31 AM
 
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You should seek help, seriously. Your son will need mental help for years to come. What you are doing is abusive, both physically and mentally. I feel very sorry for your son. If I saw you in the ladies room doing that, I would have to restrain myself from taking matters into my own hands and just call the police.
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Yes, I agree with you. I think the boy is ready to use the men's room himself.

I have a problem with the boy being spanked like that, I really do......
so much so, that I will not be able to make a comment, because I will get banned. I only hope the boy is strong enough to know that his mother is a nut case.
lolz
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Old 05-25-2011, 10:45 AM
 
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I'm hoping that one post was a joke. If not...wow...so many issues going on there. FWIW, I thought Dew's response was the best and I certaonly lol'd.

It's all a judgement call and it really depends on where you are at and the individual child. I don't think there is an age that is or isn't approrpriate. I guess it's a little like pornography, you know it when you see it, lol. As for me my son at 6 1/2 has started saying he wants to use the bathroom by himself. If we're somehwere I don't think will be a problem, I let him, as does my wife.

FWIW, I wouldn't judge anyone with an older child in the circumstance as you simply don't know the reasons why they are doing what they are doing.
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Old 05-25-2011, 12:31 PM
 
Location: Bolingbrook, IL
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i have a six year old daughter. if we're out by ourselves, yes, i'll try to find a family bathroom. if not, depending on where it is, she's either going in by herself and i'm waiting outside or i'm taking her into the men's bathroom.

sometimes she doesn't want to go by herself even if the situation is completely safe and there's no reason for either of us to think something could go wrong.... if i had a choice, she'd go into the ladies bathroom by herself all the time but sometimes it's just not an option.
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Old 05-25-2011, 01:29 PM
 
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I'm hoping that one post was a joke. If not...wow...so many issues going on there. FWIW, I thought Dew's response was the best and I certaonly lol'd.
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Old 02-20-2015, 10:24 AM
 
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Even back in my day when I was little boy my mom usually took me in the ladies restroom with her to go to bathroom and Sometimes get a bare bottom spanking.
Now days it's even worse for children too many perverts so you got to do what it takes to keep your kids safe
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