I'm concerned with a few issues:
1. At 2.5, your child is not bad. She may be acting out, rebelling, misbehaving, but she is not bad. I know you are considering it as a phrase of speech, but it is reflective of a mindset. It is important to distinguish the behavior from the child. She "does bad things" or "does not obey".
2. Screaming in the night MAY BE night terrors or it may be behavioral manipulation. She has already learned how to get her way with you. There are a few ways of dealing with this, but I strongly urge you to seek the advice of a behaviorist (behavior therapist, child therapist) - specifically a professional who is trained in changing behavior through the use of conditioning.
3. Parents permitting a child to control what goes on. Your child is in control. That is very frightening to a young child who needs to know that she can depend upon you. By allowing her to control situations (even just for a few minutes) she is not feeling secure.
As other posters have said, it is not necessary to scream or yell at her. In fact, a quiet voice will get better results. It is a look and a tone of voice. My husband WAS a platoon sargeant and he has perfected that look and tone of voice. I loved watching him with his son through the teen years. We didn't have yelling in this house, we used behavioral methods to elicit the desired behavior.
Routine: What worked for my sons and grandsons was to have bathtime followed by reading time. First it's a bath - 20 min or more. Then it was a drink, kisses and hugs, getting settled into bed, then being read to.
Rewards: given for appropriate behavior especially when trying to change behavior. Since your daughter is giving you a hard time about getting her jammies on, it's time to introduce a reward for the nights when she does it without fuss. Something small - BUT IMMEDIATE - perhaps a special doll to hold, blowing some bubbles.
Screaming and neighbors. You live on a base, go to your neighbors and let them know you are planning a new routine and are intending to permit your daughter to scream for attention. Betcha they've all done it before.
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Good luck to you.
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Originally Posted by Deez Nuttz
I wonder how many of you who had a toddler so bad she woke up at 1 am screaming and wouldn't even let her mother leave the room (after going in) at night without screaming her head off plus wanted to stay up all night long with the lights on. I'm serious. If her mom even tried to leave the room she would literally throw herself on the floor and go into a huge tirade, screaming her head off. The sad fact was the household also had 2 other adults that needed sleep to drive 80 miles the next day to catch a flight. That meant mom literally had to sleep on the floor while the child played in her room so others could sleep. It's enough to make you either give in or want to strangle the kid. The mom is an emotional mess because of it. This can't be normal.
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Originally Posted by Deez Nuttz
No she doesn't play in the playpen. We use it solely for when she's bad. However it won't be much longer that "time out" playpen won't suffice b/c she can almost crawl over it now. Not sure what to do next for a time out place. She wouldn't stand in the corner at this age. Or sit in a chair. I'd like to find a place away from everything where she can't see what's going on because it's out of sight of everything else.
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