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Old 02-20-2011, 10:30 AM
 
Location: Back in MADISON Wi thank God!
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without turning them off/ driving them away?
Just feeling alittle down right now about some things. How do you get across to your kids that need to succeed, the will to do something 100%, whether it's a sport, schoolwork or mowing the lawn?
My husband and I always try to do our best. We talk about the importance of putting all your effort into something. I feel like other kids get it, mine don't, so it must be something I'm not doing or am doing wrong.
I appreciate all opinions, it's just been a bad day.
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Old 02-20-2011, 10:50 AM
 
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How old are they?
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Old 02-20-2011, 11:13 AM
 
Location: Louisiana
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How old are they?

Thats a big theme, it was so much easier when they were younger but now that mine are late teens its hard because of the stage their in.
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Old 02-20-2011, 12:24 PM
 
Location: maryland
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without turning them off/ driving them away?
Just feeling alittle down right now about some things. How do you get across to your kids that need to succeed, the will to do something 100%, whether it's a sport, schoolwork or mowing the lawn?
My husband and I always try to do our best. We talk about the importance of putting all your effort into something. I feel like other kids get it, mine don't, so it must be something I'm not doing or am doing wrong.
I appreciate all opinions, it's just been a bad day.

You give em cash
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Old 02-20-2011, 12:25 PM
 
Location: maryland
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How old are they?

21 and filled with angst! Usually found texting on a mobile device such as a blackberry.
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Old 02-20-2011, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Back in MADISON Wi thank God!
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without turning them off/ driving them away?
Just feeling alittle down right now about some things. How do you get across to your kids that need to succeed, the will to do something 100%, whether it's a sport, schoolwork or mowing the lawn?
My husband and I always try to do our best. We talk about the importance of putting all your effort into something. I feel like other kids get it, mine don't, so it must be something I'm not doing or am doing wrong.
I appreciate all opinions, it's just been a bad day.
boys, 11 and 14
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Old 02-20-2011, 03:26 PM
 
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21 and filled with angst! Usually found texting on a mobile device such as a blackberry.

If they're 21 kick 'em out! You have no legal obligation to pamper them anymore, they will "do their best' when its that or not eat! Just like you "do your best" because you're responsible for yourself, no work, no pay, let them now learn what it means to be an adult! childhood is over!
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Old 02-20-2011, 03:28 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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If they're 21 kick 'em out! You have no legal obligation to pamper them anymore, they will "do their best' when its that or not eat! Just like you "do your best" because you're responsible for yourself, no work, no pay, let them now learn what it means to be an adult! childhood is over!
I don't think pm was being serious. Her kids are much younger. I believe she was teasing another poster...
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Old 02-20-2011, 03:35 PM
 
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Thats a big theme, it was so much easier when they were younger but now that mine are late teens its hard because of the stage their in.

Well, $hit, I'm in a "phase" too, I'm in a phase where I'm pretending I'm not the maid in the Hilton! wonder how long it will take for me to outgrow that "phase"?
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Old 02-20-2011, 04:29 PM
 
Location: S. Florida
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When my son was six years old, he wanted to join the Cubscouts. We signed him up, and my husband took a very active role and volunteered as a leader. It was a great experience. My son is now 12 and has begun his second year in the Boyscouts. He was just promoted to Assistant Patrol Leader, and has grown so much in terms of his sense of confidence, teamwork and leadership abilities.

I can't say enough good things about the program. It is BOY run and, if you haven't checked it out yet, I would highly recommend it for your 11 year old and or your 14 year old to get involved. They age out at 18. These boys go on camp outs, they sell their own camp cards/popcorn/chocolate to help pay for summer camp and other activities. They cook their own meals, take hikes, go to "merit college" (earning merits) and so much more. Of course there are adult leaders to guide them. But it is so empowering for these boys to do things independently.
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