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Old 03-04-2011, 06:58 PM
 
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Hey all,

My wifey is pregnant I am new to the whole delivery experience thing.

I was told it is pretty much standard for the Dads to be in the delivery room now when wifey is giving birth, Is that true or is it considered an option?.

I know this might sound bad, but, I was kinda hoping it would be like the good ole days were the dad sits in a waiting room and a doc or nurse comes in and says "it all went well , congradulations". But I dont think thats gonna happen .

What role am I to play in all of this? Besides like you see in the movie were the dad says "push, you can do this".
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Old 03-04-2011, 07:02 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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Well...you won't know until you get there what you actually will be needed for. I'd suggest attending childbirth classes with your wife so you can be prepared for all kinds of things. She may want you to simply comfort her - she may want you to shut the **** up and stop BREATHING on her (ahem...or so I hear....)....She most likely mainly wants to know she's not alone. You will most likely be expected to cut the umbilical cord once all is said and done.....Now...quit whining and man-up!
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Old 03-04-2011, 07:03 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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Get in there and support the woman you love. Nuff said!
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Old 03-04-2011, 07:13 PM
 
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she may want you to shut the **** up and stop BREATHING on her (ahem...or so I hear....



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Now...quit whining and man-up!
Ha Ha, yeah, I know. I plan to be right there with her. I just really dont know what The Dads role is in the delivery room. The birthing classes you mentioned are probably the way to find out and be able to do the right thing when the time comes .
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Old 03-04-2011, 07:19 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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You'll be fine.....but our senses can be heightened....In my case, I had a very long arduous labor. DH had been up all night drinking coffee, supporting me....at some point, several hours later, all I could smell was his stale coffee breath in my face while he was trying to encourage me. I couldn't stand it - cannot begin to tell you how annoying it was. Poor guy...He was running all over the hospital trying to find breath mints. I think someone at the nurses station had some cinnamon bears.....My advice? Bring breath mints...you just never know! LOL
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Old 03-04-2011, 07:51 PM
 
Location: Chicago's burbs
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If you have a queasy stomach, stay by her head! That's what my DH did!
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Old 03-04-2011, 09:00 PM
 
Location: Michigan--good on the rocks
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You'll mainly just be there for moral support. Hold her hand, let her swear at you, whatever. She's doing all the hard work.

I was there when both of my kids were born, and you couldn't have chased me out of that room with a stick. Enjoy it, it's a very beautiful thing.
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Old 03-04-2011, 09:11 PM
 
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Well, I'm kind of a sick and curious person so I'd want to see what birth would look like. haha But it's up to your wife. If you both are close, you can just ask if she'd want you in there or not.
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Old 03-04-2011, 09:27 PM
 
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MrFinsterRufus would give you one piece of advice, raggy - if your wife gets a c-section, don't look over the curtain in the middle of it.
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Old 03-04-2011, 09:33 PM
 
Location: Geneva, IL
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Congratulations! I'm sure you'll get a lot more information from childbirth classes.

MrZimbochick would give you one piece of advice, even though your wife has said she's not keen on using pain meds or an epidural, once she is being induced and asking for ANYTHING to take away the pain, please do not remind of that fact, and ask her if she wouldn't rather tough it out for a little longer.
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