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Old 03-10-2011, 08:54 PM
 
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I see a lot of people are mentioning "school". A 12 year old is in 6th or 7th grade. A 16 year old is in 10th or 11th grade. Highly unlikely they're in school together.

I still say OP and spouse should go to the boy's house, speak with the parents. If it doesn't stop, get the authorities involved.

 
Old 03-11-2011, 11:33 AM
 
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I didn't read this whole thread, but I am the father of a 12 year old girl.

If a 16 year old boy were even in the same VICINITY as my daughter with some sort of "romantic" intention, I'd be all over that.

A 16 year old going for a 12 year old? Are some of you people nuts to think that this is even close to normal? That's basically a 10th grader and a 6th grader. This isn't some silly, innocent little misunderstanding or hapless puppy love. That boy has no idea what boundaries mean, and in more than one way.

My advice to the OP-Go see that boy's parents and tell them in no uncertain terms that if he even looks are your daughter cross-eyed, that you're going to the police.

I am shaking my head at this and imagining my daughter being approached by a 16 year old...and heck my daughter is 5'9" and looks older, and I STILL wouldn't put up with anything CLOSE to this.
 
Old 03-11-2011, 08:58 PM
 
Location: Englewood, FL
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Do you all find it odd that the OP hasn't been back in on this thread since the OP????
 
Old 03-11-2011, 09:05 PM
 
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Do you all find it odd that the OP hasn't been back in on this thread since the OP????
Yes, I find it odd.......and kind of rude too.
 
Old 03-12-2011, 07:45 AM
 
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Yes, I find it odd.......and kind of rude too.
Yeah, I hope she wasn't making stuff up. I used to post on another forum, and trolls would always come up there and post made up stories, especially relationship ones.
 
Old 03-12-2011, 11:10 AM
 
Location: Englewood, FL
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That's really awful if this was fake---there are a lot of people here who were worried about this 12 YO girl, too. What is a troll anyway?
 
Old 03-12-2011, 11:13 AM
 
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We moved into a new area 3 weeks ago. I have a young 12 year old daughter who is as cute and friendly as can be. She has a 16 year old boy who wants to be her boyfriend. My daughter has told him numerous times that she is not interested in have any boyfriend. This guy says hateful things when he is rejected and my daughter cries. She wants nothing to do with him. He calls and stalks her. What should I do? This is scaring both of us. What does a 16 year old want with a 12 year old anyway?
1)Contact law enforcement! Since this is basically sexual harrassment a restraining order should not be difficult to obtain.

2) Have an attorney send a letter to the parents telling them to keep their son away from your daughter and your family until the restraining order is issued.

3) Get your daughter enrolled in self-defense classes ASAP. She should not be walking places alone with this possible sexual predator stalking her.
 
Old 03-12-2011, 11:36 AM
 
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Yeah, I hope she wasn't making stuff up. I used to post on another forum, and trolls would always come up there and post made up stories, especially relationship ones.
Why would someone make up a story like this? Someone would need quite the imagination to do that.

But it would be nice if the OP posted again.
 
Old 03-12-2011, 01:52 PM
 
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Do you all find it odd that the OP hasn't been back in on this thread since the OP????
Not odd at all. Happens enough around here. Someone conjures up some situation that is bound to result in a heated discussion, throws it out here and sits back to watch the fireworks. They definitely scored with this thread.
 
Old 03-12-2011, 02:28 PM
 
Location: maryland
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No way! He just sounds like a clueless -- and lonely 16 year old boy. I'd go the parent route first. Calling the cops this early may escalate the situation -- who knows, the parents may side w/ him b/c you called the cops on him (since getting the cops involved may indeed lead to charges and money spent on lawyers and a son who can't get a job for the rest of his life) and this may incite him to get angry, when he wasn't angry to begin with and then it may go on a downward spiral from there. I'd definitely talk to the parents first and asap.

Not to mention that without proof of actual stalking they wouldn't do anything.
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