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Old 03-26-2011, 10:45 AM
 
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What age do you think it's appropriate for a teen to wear make up ? I have a daughter who will turn 17 in April who is not allowed to wear make up. I found out that she has been sneaking and wearing make up behind my back. She is allowed to wear lip gloss only and this is because without any make up she looks older than her age and i know that make up will age her even more. The young ladies that she hangs around with also wears so much make up that they look like clowns and i know my child loves lots of color so what should i do?
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Old 03-26-2011, 11:17 AM
 
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I can't believe your daughter is 17, and you don't allow her to wear makeup.I was going to say, if you don't allow it, at her age she'll probably just sneak it with her and put it on when she's out the house....but I see that's already happening. Why don't you allow her to put makeup on at your house?? I think that if she could apply makeup (if she wants), in your home, you could at least see how well, or not well, a job she's doing....You are not showing much trust in your daughter, she is a young adult now, and she really shouldn't need your permission to do what almost every other young woman out there is doing.
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Old 03-26-2011, 11:21 AM
 
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You're creating an problem. Your kid at 17, is not so much a kid anymore, and will shortly be able to tell you to go up creek. Better start loosening those reigns and treat her with respect and enforce rules that are ... well ... excusable and reasonable otherwise I foresee some backlash. Because I'm your mother, because I said so, because I pay the bills, because I know best won't work anymore. You would not accept that BS on something pointlessly infringing on your individualism or freedoms, don't expect your daughter to.
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Old 03-26-2011, 11:28 AM
 
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I would think by 17 there shouldn't be an issue with her wearing makeup, she is probably only a year away from graduating from high school if not graduating this year and most girls do wear makeup. I don't think your daughter should have to conform to what others are doing but obviously since she is wearing it behind your back she wants to use it.

If you think she will wear to much makeup, take her and have a professional makeup session with someone who can explain more color is not necessarily better and show her how to play up her assets with the right colors. I do agree that alot of teenagers and some women wear way to much makeup and instead of playing up their beauty it can make them look like a little girl who got into her Mom's makeup case.
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Old 03-26-2011, 11:31 AM
 
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Honestly, your daughter is way past the age for being allowed to wear makeup. In a year you won't be able to tell your daughter what to do with her makeup. You'd be wise to allow her to wear it now, while you have some input. Take her to a makup artist at the department store so she can get a lesson on how to apply makeup appropriately. Stop being overcontrolling. You could lose your daughter to rebelllion. Actually, that's already starting if she's sneaking behind your back. It's time for you to change your ways before you lose complete control of your daughter.
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Old 03-26-2011, 11:48 AM
 
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Dads have a genetic prerogative to disapprove of their baby girl wearing makeup until baby girl is 37 and married, which won't happen since baby girl will be a virgin forever. It is dad's god-given right.

However, it is mom's prerogative and god-given right, AND responsibility, to trump Dad on this particular topic. Mom not only needs to trump dad, but mom needs to help baby girl learn how to put makeup on appropriately. This is her god-given responsibility. Mom, you've been slacking. It's time to hit the department store make-up counters with baby girl and teach her how to choose responsibly. If you don't know how to do it yourself, then turn it into a Lesson For Two. I recommend Origins or Bobbi Brown, because both tend to be on the "undramatic" side, and encourage natural looks.
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Old 03-26-2011, 12:14 PM
 
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What age do you think it's appropriate for a teen to wear make up ? I have a daughter who will turn 17 in April who is not allowed to wear make up. I found out that she has been sneaking and wearing make up behind my back. She is allowed to wear lip gloss only and this is because without any make up she looks older than her age and i know that make up will age her even more. The young ladies that she hangs around with also wears so much make up that they look like clowns and i know my child loves lots of color so what should i do?
I was wearing light make-up in 6th grade and by 8th grade my mom never told me things like "you're wearing too much" or ever told me to go wipe some off.

Your daughter is just over a year from being an adult and she can't wear make-up, that's not right.
Kudos to her to taking control of her life a little, if she's already doing it, admit defeat, just let her wear it.
So what if she looks older? Is she a smart kid? Is a little make-up going to turn her into the town bike?

*hands you a pair of scissors*
*points to the umbilical cord*

It's time....
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Old 03-26-2011, 12:20 PM
 
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what a great reason for this almost adult young woman to rebel against her mom. 17 and no make up? loosen up mom
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Old 03-26-2011, 12:35 PM
 
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what a great reason for this almost adult young woman to rebel against her mom. 17 and no make up? loosen up mom
I feel more sorry for the mom than I do the daughter because to think the way she does is very sad, to be one of "those" parents who is oddly strict and their kid basically lives a prison life, its sad because people who think like that are such a waste of mind and space.
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Old 03-26-2011, 12:50 PM
 
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What age do you think it's appropriate for a teen to wear make up ? I have a daughter who will turn 17 in April who is not allowed to wear make up. I found out that she has been sneaking and wearing make up behind my back. She is allowed to wear lip gloss only and this is because without any make up she looks older than her age and i know that make up will age her even more. The young ladies that she hangs around with also wears so much make up that they look like clowns and i know my child loves lots of color so what should i do?
I think that teens are old enough to wear makeup, even young teens. What do you think will happen if she wears makeup?
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