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malamute · 03-31-2011, 08:47 PM

It would really depend on the circumstances. Physical assault if it was just some kid teasing or using words wouldn't go over with me. However if a big kid was picking on a disabled kid or physically assaulting another, then yes, I could see it.

mermaid825 · 03-31-2011, 08:51 PM

Bully or not, "bloodying" someone will land you in jail as an adult and possibly as a minor as well. I would not allow it or condone it.

If it was self defense, that is different.

Houston_2010 · 03-31-2011, 08:52 PM

Just thinking completely hypothetical here, I would like to think that prior to a suspension all other avenues have been exhausted (talking to teachers, parents, etc). Also, I think that I wouldn't necessarily "reward" my girl, but just leave as an experience to talk to and hopefully will not happen again. In my ideal world I would like to have the kids "hug it out" after so that there are no bad feelings from either side (but I know this is probably asking too much).

Pruzhany · 03-31-2011, 09:05 PM

It shouldn't have gotten to that point. But we go from one extreme to another and end up with zero tolerance rules that don't exist in the real world (post HS world). Teachers can no longer intervene due to years of getting injured. Principals are now Judge and Jury.

So I would start with finding out why he didn't tell his parent/guardian or a teacher/dean/etc and work from there. To punish or to reward are extremes. You need to end up with a little of both or somewhere in the middle depeding in the situation.

syracusa · 03-31-2011, 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by mermaid825

Bully or not, "bloodying" someone will land you in jail as an adult and possibly as a minor as well. I would not allow it or condone it.

I would. Then I would get a lawyer who would very beautifully explain to the jury why my son HAD TO do the bloodying".

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!

Beans&Cornbread · 03-31-2011, 09:23 PM

If my child was being bullied and all appropriate steps were taken/exhausted - and the bullying continued - then, yes, I would fully back and support my child 100%. I would also make sure the school administration and board understood how their policies (or lack thereof) or procedures (or lack thereof) completely failed my child and is most likely failing others as well.

Asheville Native · 03-31-2011, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by mermaid825

Bully or not, "bloodying" someone will land you in jail as an adult and possibly as a minor as well. I would not allow it or condone it.

If it was self defense, that is different.

I suspect you haven't had to deal with a bully, one that once they can see you are scared of them, feed on that and can make a child's life hell, to the point the commit suicide.

It's called self defense, and can be the only thing these mental midgets understand.

Kibbiekat · 04-02-2011, 12:05 PM

I would have them take the school punishment, but not further punish at home.

magoomafoo · 04-02-2011, 12:20 PM

We HAD a town bully-My son (at the age of 10, the bully 13) was bullied everyday at school and after. One day after school, my son was walking home with a girl from his class. The bully proceeded to try and run them over with his bike. My son pulled him off his bike. The bully then called the girl some very terrible names. It was at that point that my son beat the ever living crap out of the kid. Blood all over. His mother threw a fit. A few weeks later at school, the bully called my son and the girl more names. My son again let him have it. My son got in trouble as he threw the first punch but even the Principal seemed relieved that a student had finally let the kid have it. His punishment was not as severe as normal. The bully is no longer a threat to the younger kids. Sometimes you have to take the punishment for something right to come out of a situation.

MoNative34 · 04-03-2011, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by magoomafoo

We HAD a town bully-My son (at the age of 10, the bully 13) was bullied everyday at school and after. One day after school, my son was walking home with a girl from his class. The bully proceeded to try and run them over with his bike. My son pulled him off his bike. The bully then called the girl some very terrible names. It was at that point that my son beat the ever living crap out of the kid. Blood all over. His mother threw a fit. A few weeks later at school, the bully called my son and the girl more names. My son again let him have it. My son got in trouble as he threw the first punch but even the Principal seemed relieved that a student had finally let the kid have it. His punishment was not as severe as normal. The bully is no longer a threat to the younger kids. Sometimes you have to take the punishment for something right to come out of a situation.

Your son corrected a problem. Kudos to him.

I like it when the good guys win.