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We paid for part of the prom costs. But I told them they were responsible for their dates' flowers. Just seemed like something the "young man" should pay for. We split limo costs with the other parents. They went from house to house before prom so all the parents could take photos and movies. After prom was at the home of one of the girls for two of the DS's. Huge house. Parents decorated and showed movies and generally put on the dog. There was a strict no booze rule. (The father was well-known for "going to meetings" and he took sobriety seriously.)
I didn't go to my prom. Back when I was in high school we were all protesting something terribly world-changing and proms were considered tools of the bourgeoisie. Sixties.
But I told them they were responsible for their dates' flowers. Just seemed like something the "young man" should pay for
I like that idea. Since we paid for DD I feel it's only right to do the same for DS but I do like the idea of him paying for the flowers. DS did pay to have her nails done....I thought that was something I didn't need to pay for.
I didn't go to prom either.....We moved across country the summer between my jr. and senior year. When I was a Junior (West coast) the prom was only for Seniors....when I was a Senior (East coast), I didn't really know anyone (rough year)....I made up for it in college though...
Same here - we paid for the tux and his 12th of the limo rental. He paid for dinner and flowers. That seemed fair in my world.
The after party was a breakfast at school. We put our foot down to an "after-after party".
My biggest worry was "no driving and no riding with other kids". That wrecked "Prom Car" outside of my high school all during the month of May must have left a lasting impression!
1) Did you pay for, or help with paying for, your daughter's dress or son's suit? Did you get yours paid for?
2) What about after-prom: would / did you let your kids attend an after-prom party? What if alcohol is served there?
1) Yes. I paid for my daughter's dress. I never went to a prom so the second part is N/A.
2) In our area, the tradition is to go down to the shore after the prom and stay for the weekend. Drinking is usually the standard plan. My daughter and her boyfriend wanted to go see the Boston Pops play, so they got tickets and went to Boston that weekend instead. I lent her my car. They both don't drink and are actively anti-alcohol, so I wasn't worried about that. I raised a nerd.
I always paid because my kids had no money, they were students and if they did work it was low wage jobs that wouldn't cover the costs anyway. I considered it a right of passage, probably because I never went to dances or proms myself (private school...no choice). We did it on the cheap but nobody would know that because we do cheap well .
The after party was always held at the school and sponsored by the parents. The kids who wanted to drink went elsewhere. When my D was a Jr she went to the Sr Ball with a boy and the day AFTER a group of them went and spent the night on the beach and had a bonfire. That was a semi-tradition for many kids but one she didn't reapeat her own Sr year, nor did my son have an interest in doing that.
I am lucky, I none of my boys were interested. Yay !!
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