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It was not my choice to be childless . I wanted to get married and have a few children but unfortunately that was not in the plan for my life. I was not blessed with my husband until I was 51 (married for the first time. Previously I only had 2 long term relationship : the first - lasted for five years in the '80s was pretty non committal ( on his part) and told me If I ever got pregnant he would want us to put the baby up for adoption and the second that lasted just over a year in the early 2000s had many physical issues and couldn't have children . Plus he was also verbally abusive and an alcoholic and I had to get away from him. Worse he had passed away a few months after I left him due to one of his most serious ailments ( that relationship was seriously toxic and I am still trying to heal from it). Neither man were good candidates to be the father of my children. Otherwise I have spent the majority of my child bearing years ALONE and for me dating was not an easy option for me. It was hard for me to meet someone who clicked and no I was not all that picky -I was very shy and could not initiate a conversation with a guy and all the guys I would meet were already married. I could not be a single parent because of finances and plus I would receive no support what so ever( not even emotional much less financial from my family- my parents are very old school and I would be afraid of being disowned. However I am very thankful that I now have my husband and he does have a 20 something son that he raised as a single father during his son's teen years ( the son's own mother had a serious drug and alcohol problem).
I hope no one is talking down to you!
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad you found happiness with or without kids.
Is it because people with children get offended? Or simply projection on the part of people who do like children?
There is a general impression that people who don't like kids and animals have something wrong with them - that they lack empathy, are cold or just anti-social.
I'm 43 and in my short time on this planet, I have not seen much to convince me that this idea is wrong...frankly.
EDIT: And the posts on this part of the board have only reinforced my opinion.
There is a general impression that people who don't like kids and animals have something wrong with them - that they lack empathy, are cold or just anti-social.
I'm 43 and in my short time on this planet, I have not seen much to convince me that this idea is wrong...frankly.
EDIT: And the posts on this part of the board have only reinforced my opinion.
oh, I love animals..sometimes I like animals more than some people
I think some people don't like children because they have a hard time talking or relating to them, not necessarily because they are cold and unempathetic (although that is sometimes the case.) Kids take a lot of patience. Some people just don't know how to respond to them.
I do think the way the OP was describing them (those icky little people) sounds very cold. I don't see anything wrong with not liking kids, but I see no reason to be so disgusted by them.
You can enjoy children without denying the reason many humans breed. People like me adopt children from breeders who bite off more than they can chew.....so leave me alone! I love kids, I dont agree with making breeding like a spider...your life goal or hobby.
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