My sons dad is dating around my son (custody, parent, girls)

[needadvicepleaseplease]

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Please help me. I have no idea what to do. The father of my son and i were together for 5 years. My son is now 3. We broke up about a year ago. Him and i just see things too differently. I have never been able to get him to understand my point of view on any situation.
Anyways, he is starting to see other girls now, nobody serious. I recently found out that he had a girl stay the night with him while he had his son. (They share a room). Him and i got into a rather bad blow up about it. I think it is highly inappropriate to have someone that you are seeing around your children until the relationship has become serious. He does not believe it to be an issue and i do not know how to get him to understand that it is not good for our son. Advice anyone, please??!!

[Mt-7]

Why do you think this person would choose to be reasonable now?
It is up to you to protect your child. Get to it.

[txtqueen]

It doesn't sound like he wants to seriously date.
He just wants to hook up and doesn't want it to be serious.
If you don't like it petition for sole custody.

[jeepgirl27]

Originally Posted by needadvicepleaseplease

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Please help me. I have no idea what to do. The father of my son and i were together for 5 years. My son is now 3. We broke up about a year ago. Him and i just see things too differently. I have never been able to get him to understand my point of view on any situation.
Anyways, he is starting to see other girls now, nobody serious. I recently found out that he had a girl stay the night with him while he had his son. (They share a room). Him and i got into a rather bad blow up about it. I think it is highly inappropriate to have someone that you are seeing around your children until the relationship has become serious. He does not believe it to be an issue and i do not know how to get him to understand that it is not good for our son. Advice anyone, please??!!

What? how dare you to tell him...he can't date because he has a child?
He isn't with you anymore...Just because you think a certain way doesn't mean he does..Lots of poeple date with kids..Thats a part of life...Dont act like you can't date and have someone around your kids. Thats is one of the dumbest things I heard of?
It seems like a jealousy issue to me
I hope he told you it was none of your business
And no dating doesn't harm your kids..

So no its not an issue..only your controlling issue..

[Mt-7]

anything that takes time and attention away from your child harms them...

[needadvicepleaseplease]

Originally Posted by jeepgirl27

What? how dare you to tell him...he can't date because he has a child?
He isn't with you anymore...Just because you think a certain way doesn't mean he does..Lots of poeple date with kids..Thats a part of life...Dont act like you can't date and have someone around your kids. Thats is one of the dumbest things I heard of?
It seems like a jealousy issue to me
I hope he told you it was none of your business
And no dating doesn't harm your kids..

So no its not an issue..only your controlling issue..

Seriously....... You think it is ok to have a sex partner in your bed with your 3 year old kid 5 feet away...... I'd say it's you that has issues......

[Justin Time]

Originally Posted by needadvicepleaseplease

I recently found out that he had a girl stay the night with him while he had his son. (They share a room). . . . Advice anyone, please??!!

This is the real issue: Is he having sex while a three-year-old is in the same bedroom? You need to make sure that he understands that this is not acceptable behavior. Many three-year-olds can retell elaborately detailed accounts of what they see.

You may need to talk to your lawyer about his visitations if this is still a concern.

Also, I can imagine the stories at preschool. Children often tell their playmates and teachers about EVERYTHING that goes on at home.

[jeepgirl27]

Originally Posted by needadvicepleaseplease

Seriously....... You think it is ok to have a sex partner in your bed with your 3 year old kid 5 feet away...... I'd say it's you that has issues......

Who said anyting about having sex with your kid in the same bed with you..??
If your kid is a sleep in his own room...what you do with an another adult is a different story. If the couple are watching television with the kid...that child isn't being hurt
Its what you do and don't in front of your kids
Im talking about dating..
And yes..if you are both adults and you want to have sex and the child who is 3 is sleeping in his own room..than have sex..your child isn't going to be traumatized for life?
It may shock you but people who are no longer with their childs other parent do have sex with other people?
This post wasn't about oh this woman he is seeing is beating, or abusing my child..?

[jeepgirl27]

Originally Posted by needadvicepleaseplease

Seriously....... You think it is ok to have a sex partner in your bed with your 3 year old kid 5 feet away...... I'd say it's you that has issues......

How do you know anyway..they didnt leave the kid in the bedroom and had sex somewhere else..not in front of him..like the livingroom or kitchen..
and what if they just slept???

[steelstress]

Originally Posted by jeepgirl27

How do you know anyway..they didnt leave the kid in the bedroom and had sex somewhere else..not in front of him..like the livingroom or kitchen..
and what if they just slept???

Wow... you're really narrow in your views, aren't you? Read the thread again. He didn't deny it, he just thinks it's not a problem. And it is.