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Old 06-07-2011, 09:47 AM
 
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Oh, I feel ya, I'm having the same problem. I've been teaching MissFR that it's rude and disrespectful to say "No Mummy" every time I say something.

I understand totally, she's also very detail specific, so if I say "Go get that blue cup and put it in the sink. please" she'll say "No Mummy, it's a turquoise cup" and although she's right, it's aggravating to say the least. So I try and frame my questions correctly.

It's tricky, but I've been telling her that people will phrase things differently than she might, and that it's rude to correct somebody at every turn, even if she thinks she's right and needs to say so. Or at minimum, that it PO's people to have every sentence you say to them start with "No".

Of course, I'm completely non argumentative, so she must get it from MrFR.
Do you have a clone of my DD?
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Old 06-07-2011, 10:04 AM
 
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Wife and I have one 4 year old. Scores of people ask if we are going to have another one. That does not really bother me as its just curiosity and so forth. But there are a select few who upon hearing the answer (no), dismiss that and state that we will. And a couple have even said its not our choice, but God's.

My answer has been that God is welcome to try to circumvent the birth control.
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Old 06-07-2011, 06:45 PM
 
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Oh, I feel ya, I'm having the same problem. I've been teaching MissFR that it's rude and disrespectful to say "No Mummy" every time I say something.

I understand totally, she's also very detail specific, so if I say "Go get that blue cup and put it in the sink. please" she'll say "No Mummy, it's a turquoise cup" and although she's right, it's aggravating to say the least. So I try and frame my questions correctly.

It's tricky, but I've been telling her that people will phrase things differently than she might, and that it's rude to correct somebody at every turn, even if she thinks she's right and needs to say so. Or at minimum, that it PO's people to have every sentence you say to them start with "No".

Of course, I'm completely non argumentative, so she must get it from MrFR.
I think my ODS is somehow related to your DD. LOL He does the same exact thing! His teachers also cannot believe when I tell them he gets in trouble at home, gets mouthy, etc.
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Old 06-07-2011, 06:57 PM
 
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Oh, I feel ya, I'm having the same problem. I've been teaching MissFR that it's rude and disrespectful to say "No Mummy" every time I say something.

I understand totally, she's also very detail specific, so if I say "Go get that blue cup and put it in the sink. please" she'll say "No Mummy, it's a turquoise cup" and although she's right, it's aggravating to say the least. So I try and frame my questions correctly.

It's tricky, but I've been telling her that people will phrase things differently than she might, and that it's rude to correct somebody at every turn, even if she thinks she's right and needs to say so. Or at minimum, that it PO's people to have every sentence you say to them start with "No".

Of course, I'm completely non argumentative, so she must get it from MrFR.
OMG, do you have my DD's twin? She does the exact same thing! If I say, "Look at the alligator!" she says, "No, Mommy. It's a crocodile." In this very condescending voice, like she's really saying, "you fool." Or, when I tell her something she feels she already knows, she says, " I KNOW that already, Mommy. I'm a smart kid." It's SO annoying. I keep telling her that, yes, she is smart, but she'd be even smarter if she listens instead of thinking she already knows everything. She's FOUR. What are we in for when they hit 16?
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Old 06-07-2011, 07:00 PM
 
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OMG, do you have my DD's twin? She does the exact same thing! If I say, "Look at the alligator!" she says, "No, Mommy. It's a crocodile." In this very condescending voice, like she's really saying, "you fool." Or, when I tell her something she feels she already knows, she says, " I KNOW that already, Mommy. I'm a smart kid." It's SO annoying. I keep telling her that, yes, she is smart, but she'd be even smarter if she listens instead of thinking she already knows everything. She's FOUR. What are we in for when they hit 16?
My DD's favorite phrase at 16 when I'd point something out or ask about something? "Mom....I've got it under control!" . Until of course, it became apparent at some point that she did not have everything under control. (Although, to be honest, she often did!)
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Old 06-07-2011, 07:08 PM
 
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Very few things annoy me as a parent more than hearing other parents say things like these to their (or any other) kids:

"Billie, you see that man up on the cross? He died for your sins."
That's the whole basis of Christianity. It shouldn't be horrible for us Christians to say this to our own children.
You can disagree w/ my belief system all you want but it's ridiculous for you to state that we shouldn't remind our own children of the core of our belief. Thanks.

One of my big peeves is hearing/reading (usually in women's magazines) "Jane Doe, a busy mom" or "Jane Doe, a busy working mom"

-- We're all busy. We're all working. Some just leave the house to do it. But every mom is a working mom.
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Old 06-07-2011, 07:31 PM
 
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OMG, do you have my DD's twin? She does the exact same thing! If I say, "Look at the alligator!" she says, "No, Mommy. It's a crocodile." In this very condescending voice, like she's really saying, "you fool." Or, when I tell her something she feels she already knows, she says, " I KNOW that already, Mommy. I'm a smart kid." It's SO annoying. I keep telling her that, yes, she is smart, but she'd be even smarter if she listens instead of thinking she already knows everything. She's FOUR. What are we in for when they hit 16?
LOL, my nephew does that too. He's turning seven, going on 17.
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Old 06-07-2011, 07:59 PM
 
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I had boy/ girl twins first. I kept hearing "Oh, one of each, you are lucky, you won't have to go again!" and also "urgh twins, rather you than me!" (yes, quite!). When they were 15 months, I got pregnant again, so then I got "oh are you wanting to be like those Duggars?" and "you do know how to use birth control, right?" (our third was a miracle baby- it took us 3 years and 3 rounds of fertility treatment to get pregnant with the twins!).
Ah yes...twins: "Are they natural?"...or occasionally, "did you use drugs?"
Yeah honey, a six-pack of Coronaa and some ecstasy.
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Old 06-08-2011, 07:35 AM
 
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Ok. I am probably going to get flamed for this, but I have to get it out there.

The supermoms who make their own food (organic of course), volunteer at the school 4 days a week, their kids are still in a 5 point harness when they are 11, etc, etc, etc. They don't bother me until they look down on you for not doing all of the things that they do. I am sorry, but I guess I am a much more "go with the flow" style of parent. My parenting style isn't affecting you. My child is not in danger. So butt out! I am not trying to force my style on you. Don't force yours on me.
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Old 06-08-2011, 08:14 AM
 
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Do you have a clone of my DD?
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I think my ODS is somehow related to your DD. LOL He does the same exact thing! His teachers also cannot believe when I tell them he gets in trouble at home, gets mouthy, etc.
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OMG, do you have my DD's twin? She does the exact same thing! If I say, "Look at the alligator!" she says, "No, Mommy. It's a crocodile." In this very condescending voice, like she's really saying, "you fool." Or, when I tell her something she feels she already knows, she says, " I KNOW that already, Mommy. I'm a smart kid." It's SO annoying. I keep telling her that, yes, she is smart, but she'd be even smarter if she listens instead of thinking she already knows everything. She's FOUR. What are we in for when they hit 16?
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LOL, my nephew does that too. He's turning seven, going on 17.
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My DD's favorite phrase at 16 when I'd point something out or ask about something? "Mom....I've got it under control!" . Until of course, it became apparent at some point that she did not have everything under control. (Although, to be honest, she often did!)
What??!! You mean my daughter is not the only bossypants - knowitall - argumentative kid in the universe?! But I thought she was so special!

No really, I'm glad to hear it's not just me. Good to know you are all getting schooled in how the sky is NOT blue it's azure, on a daily basis.
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