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Old 08-13-2013, 03:50 PM
 
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Did you have an unwanted child because you were careless and now regret it?
seriously

If you are the parenting forum, I doubt your in the camp of hate their children and the burden they have on your life


Though evidence suggests that the biggest driver of lower crime in the US is availability of abortion so. . theres that

 
Old 01-12-2014, 01:09 PM
 
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I'm sure most children are unwanted and most parents end up regretting them when they start causing trouble (during teenage years, especially).

Actually, kids will cause you headaches for life. Obviously no parent would ever openly admit they regret their children but I'm sure most do.
 
Old 01-12-2014, 01:39 PM
 
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I'm sure most children are unwanted and most parents end up regretting them when they start causing trouble (during teenage years, especially).

Actually, kids will cause you headaches for life. Obviously no parent would ever openly admit they regret their children but I'm sure most do.
That's ridiculous. This is an anonymous Internet forum, if the majority of us did regret our children we have exactly zero reason to not admit it. But most of us don't regret our children, including the surprise ones, as proven by the overwhelming lack of anonymous regret.
 
Old 01-12-2014, 01:55 PM
 
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That's ridiculous. This is an anonymous Internet forum, if the majority of us did regret our children we have exactly zero reason to not admit it. But most of us don't regret our children, including the surprise ones, as proven by the overwhelming lack of anonymous regret.
I have a hard time understanding why people don't regret their kids even when they bring so much trouble.
 
Old 01-12-2014, 02:19 PM
 
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Because many of us have children who have not caused us heartache. Even with the ocassional blips while they mature, the positives FAR outweigh any disruptions.
 
Old 01-12-2014, 03:05 PM
 
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I have a hard time understanding why people don't regret their kids even when they bring so much trouble.
Ok. You don't understand it.

That doesn't mean it isn't true.

My child was a "surprise" at the ripe old age of 22. Despite a graduate degree, some awesome jobs, and a few fairly impressive accomplishments, she is still the best thing that I have ever done IMO.

You really appreciate the things in life that come after hard work, stuff that you have to real work at, wouldn't you agree? There is no harder work than parenting. So it just makes sense that most of us take a real sense of accomplishment in doing it, and having our kids turn out great despite that time we dropped them on their head, or the time they coated the dog in a fine layer of vaseline and we had a screaming hissy fit in response.
 
Old 01-12-2014, 03:13 PM
 
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I have a hard time understanding why people don't regret their kids even when they bring so much trouble.
The parent-child bond is an interesting thing.
 
Old 01-12-2014, 03:19 PM
 
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My child was a "surprise" at the ripe old age of 22. Despite a graduate degree, some awesome jobs, and a few fairly impressive accomplishments, she is still the best thing that I have ever done IMO.

You really appreciate the things in life that come after hard work, stuff that you have to real work at, wouldn't you agree? There is no harder work than parenting. So it just makes sense that most of us take a real sense of accomplishment in doing it, and having our kids turn out great despite that time we dropped them on their head, or the time they coated the dog in a fine layer of vaseline and we had a screaming hissy fit in response.
My mother says the exact same thing but still the 3 of us were a lot of work. We didn't get into drugs, crime or serious issues but it still was a lot of work. Spending nights awake when we were sick, having to make sure we did our homework, had a shower, dressed properly, worrying when we started going out at night, etc. I get tired just by the thought of it.

But she still says she would do it all over again.

I get the impression men regret their children more often than women.
 
Old 01-12-2014, 03:36 PM
 
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I get the impression men regret their children more often than women.
My husband would say his kids are the best thing that ever happened to him, after myself of course. Perhaps more men do regret having children, especially if the financial burden falls only on them, but I doubt, really, really doubt, most men feel that way.
 
Old 01-12-2014, 03:49 PM
 
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I have a hard time understanding why people don't regret their kids even when they bring so much trouble.
Oh! Here's a solution. Raise em up right so that they don't bring so much trouble. Problem solved.
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