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 View Poll Results: Am I over-reacting, or is this a good punishment? Yes, you should not punish your son for getting bad grades. 24 24.00% Yes, some punishment is necessary, but you went overboard. 73 73.00% No, seems appropriate to me. 3 3.00% No, I don't think you're being strict enough! 0 0% Voters: 100. You may not vote on this poll

06-03-2011, 09:08 PM
 Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA 25,648 posts, read 40,067,784 times Reputation: 14389
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Hey buddy,

Solve this:

48÷2(9+3) = ?

Let's see if you know math.

06-03-2011, 09:10 PM
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Quote:
 Originally Posted by Charles Hey buddy, Solve this: 48÷2(9+3) = ? Let's see if you know math.
lol that's a good one to test, basic principles at work.

Spoiler
48÷2(9+3)
48/2(12)
48/24
2
Right?

I failed all 4 years of HS math and made them up in summer school :P

06-03-2011, 09:12 PM
 Location: Brooklyn, New York 1,180 posts, read 517,781 times Reputation: 1670
Agrees with everyone on the tutor comment.

06-03-2011, 09:13 PM
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 Originally Posted by Charles Solve this: 48÷2(9+3) = ? Let's see if you know math.
Since all you have to do is put it into google and the answer comes up, you have to tell him to SHOW HIS WORK!

06-03-2011, 09:13 PM
 Location: Arizona 1,183 posts, read 667,782 times Reputation: 1438
This IMO is way overboard. Since you knew math was difficult for him why did you not get proactive and get him a tutor. For some, no amount of studying, even 8 hours, will make them understand. Get him signed up for Summer math or a tutor.

Having his siblings tell him about all of the fun they are having and having him watch you all eat dessert is just cruel and will not teach him anything. Making him stay home on the family vacation will again, not teach him anything.

As his parent, finding a way to help him in his struggles is what you should be doing.

06-03-2011, 09:15 PM
 Location: Brooklyn, New York 1,180 posts, read 517,781 times Reputation: 1670
Quote:
 Originally Posted by Charles Hey buddy, Solve this: 48÷2(9+3) = ? Let's see if you know math.

Parentheses
Exponents
Multiply
Divide
Subtract

Lol

06-03-2011, 09:17 PM
 29,533 posts, read 27,058,748 times Reputation: 15417
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 Originally Posted by Jabronie lol that's a good one to test, basic principles at work. Spoiler 48÷2(9+3) 48/2(12) 48/24 2 Right? I failed all 4 years of HS math and made them up in summer school :P
Good try, but wrong.

Hint:

Spoiler
The answers to the two problems are multipled together after they are calculated separately.

06-03-2011, 09:17 PM
 Location: Earth 151 posts, read 102,852 times Reputation: 119
extremely overboard

06-03-2011, 09:19 PM
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 Originally Posted by WWH Thank you, justin Time. Unfortunately, I can't make him take a summer school math class, as they cut summer school in our district to save money. Believe me, he would be in summer school if it were an option! However, my wife and I are considering hiring a tutor for him. I am concerned about the cost but it will be worth every penny if it gets him to pass math, so I suppose that's what we will do. I often withhold desserts as a punishment, since my son has a sweet tooth and likes dessert very much. I make him sit and watch the rest of the family eat dessert whenever we have dessert to add to his punishment and remind him of what he is missing out on. I don't think it's cruel at all, just an appropriate punishment for a very serious lack of effort in school. I take school and grades very seriously, and there are consequences for doing poorly in school in our household.
No, my friend, you are being too tough and you're still not going to achieve your goal. Quick story for you: Freshman year high school for me, Algebra class ... I felt like the biggest idiot in the world. I just could NOT for the life of me grasp the concept. I still remember the teacher's name and her long red hair. I dreaded walking into that classroom. I was failing. Funny enough there was a teacher's strike that year and all lay teachers walked out. On the first morning of the strike, I went to my Algebra class and who was waiting for us but Sister Edward Thomas. I'm talking an OLD SCHOOL nun. By the end of the second class, it was like a light bulb had gone on for me. I got it! I understood how it worked. It was an absolute BREEZE to me. By the way, when the teachers settled their strike, I went down to the Guidance Department and had myself transferred into the nun's class on a full-time basis!

Your son is not failing on purpose. He hates it as much as you do. More actually, because he feels stupid. Get him a tutor. It'll be money well spent. And if it makes you feel better, have your son do chores which will have a dollar value so that he can "pay down" the cost of the tutor. And listen - get a tutor who comes with recommendations and make sure your son is happy with the tutor and making progress.

Best of luck to you and your son.

06-03-2011, 09:19 PM
 Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA 25,648 posts, read 40,067,784 times Reputation: 14389
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 Originally Posted by Jabronie lol that's a good one to test, basic principles at work. Spoiler 48÷2(9+3) 48/2(12) 48/24 2 Right? I failed all 4 years of HS math and made them up in summer school :P

You are grounded for the entire summer.
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