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It depends on the nature of her job. She's doing shift work, and the very few details that she's given, gives me a sense that she might be working retail or call center or other customer service work. If it's retail or direct c-serv, then the boss needs to know he can rely on his crew.
If the boss already has given her vacation time this week, then he needs to know she can be relied on -not- to ask for more time off this week. The shift has to be covered, and every time one person doesn't show up, someone else has to do their own job and the job of whoever isn't there. One cashier has to serve the customers of two cashiers; one burger-flipper has to flip enough burgers for two burger-flippers. One waitress has to double up on tables, etc. etc. etc. This can not only cause resentment (she already HAS a vacation, and now she wants another day too? The nerve! is what her co-workers will think), but it makes the boss hesitant to pick her for the better hours in the future, because he'll think she's just going to try and get out of them anyway.
That's it exactly. I work in customer service and if I am late for my shift, especially around lunch time, this put more strain and workload on my colleagues' shoulders. Plus I already have the vacation time coming up (too bad it couldn't be bumped up earlier to include Monday but it is what it is).
The more I think about this situation, the more I'm thinking of emailing my supervisor tomorrow and asking if it would be a problem if I was let's say 30-60 mins late to attend my sister's ceremony and then surprise everyone in my family and just show up to the event, but leaving before the lunch.
It would put a strain on my relationship with my supervisor and colleagues though and I do realize work commitments come first. More likely than not however is the scenario where I'll be sleeping when the ceremony starts, just do my usual morning routine and go to work as if it were a regular Monday.
Still, I'm torn about what to do and what to do, there are so many suggestions and I actually agree with several viewpoints
I'm sure she means lunch, and I'm sure mom wants it Monday because of the boyfriend's parents. I'm also pretty sure mom is trying to create the picture of a close, happy family for boyfriend's parents. I'm also pretty sure this is not a close happy family, or the OP would be attending at least the graduation, if not lunch. They should do something to celebrate when dad is back in town and the OP is available, and forget about trying to impress the boyfriend's family.
I think you are right.
And I also think it is a control thing with the OP.
That's it exactly. I work in customer service and if I am late for my shift, especially around lunch time, this put more strain and workload on my colleagues' shoulders. Plus I already have the vacation time coming up (too bad it couldn't be bumped up earlier to include Monday but it is what it is).
The more I think about this situation, the more I'm thinking of emailing my supervisor tomorrow and asking if it would be a problem if I was let's say 30-60 mins late to attend my sister's ceremony and then surprise everyone in my family and just show up to the event, but leaving before the lunch.
It would put a strain on my relationship with my supervisor and colleagues though and I do realize work commitments come first. More likely than not however is the scenario where I'll be sleeping when the ceremony starts, just do my usual morning routine and go to work as if it were a regular Monday.
Still, I'm torn about what to do and what to do, there are so many suggestions and I actually agree with several viewpoints
Decide what you want to do and if you want to go, see if you can get off work. If you can't, you can't. If you can, then go and enjoy.
If you don't want to go, that is your choice. There is no right or wrong. It's up to you whether you want to attend or not. Your decision is the right choice.
Uh oh...I just checked my cell phone and guess what? A missed call from none other than my mom!
Her voicemail was not about Monday, it was about tomorrow. She asked if I wanted to go appliance shopping with her. She doesn't think the used fridge+stove I bought last year are worth moving to another apartment. If I say yes, I'm sure she'll corner and pressure me into the Monday event.
She's expecting a call back tomorrow.
Uh oh...I just checked my cell phone and guess what? A missed call from none other than my mom!
Her voicemail was not about Monday, it was about tomorrow. She asked if I wanted to go appliance shopping with her. She doesn't think the used fridge+stove I bought last year are worth moving to another apartment. If I say yes, I'm sure she'll corner and pressure me into the Monday event.
She's expecting a call back tomorrow.
Is she going to try to bribe you with appliances??? Appliances don't come with your rental???
Uh oh...I just checked my cell phone and guess what? A missed call from none other than my mom!
Her voicemail was not about Monday, it was about tomorrow. She asked if I wanted to go appliance shopping with her. She doesn't think the used fridge+stove I bought last year are worth moving to another apartment. If I say yes, I'm sure she'll corner and pressure me into the Monday event.
She's expecting a call back tomorrow.
The chicks are out of the nest. Your mom needs to get a job.
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Uh oh...I just checked my cell phone and guess what? A missed call from none other than my mom!
Her voicemail was not about Monday, it was about tomorrow. She asked if I wanted to go appliance shopping with her. She doesn't think the used fridge+stove I bought last year are worth moving to another apartment. If I say yes, I'm sure she'll corner and pressure me into the Monday event.
She's expecting a call back tomorrow.
Stop being passive aggressive! Stop being avoidant! Grow a pair! Speak up!
Is she going to try to bribe you with appliances??? Appliances don't come with your rental???
What do you mean is she going to bribe me? She thinks my choice of appliances (I bought them last year for $400 for the pair) was bad and she wants to help pay for newer ones. And no, appliances don't come with the rental.
What do you mean is she going to bribe me? She thinks my choice of appliances (I bought them last year for $400 for the pair) was bad and she wants to help pay for newer ones. And no, appliances don't come with the rental.
And in a previous post you said "She asked if I wanted to go appliance shopping with her".
The header of your post shouldn't read "demanding mom", it should read "controlling mom".
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Uh oh...I just checked my cell phone and guess what? A missed call from none other than my mom!
Her voicemail was not about Monday, it was about tomorrow. She asked if I wanted to go appliance shopping with her. She doesn't think the used fridge+stove I bought last year are worth moving to another apartment. If I say yes, I'm sure she'll corner and pressure me into the Monday event.
She's expecting a call back tomorrow.
Here it is down front, say to your mom, my appliances are in fine working order and I don't want or need to buy new ones. Key to the whole thing, sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to say the word, NO to those you love.
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That's it exactly. I work in customer service and if I am late for my shift, especially around lunch time, this put more strain and workload on my colleagues' shoulders. Plus I already have the vacation time coming up (too bad it couldn't be bumped up earlier to include Monday but it is what it is).
