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Old 06-21-2011, 02:33 PM
 
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Our Pediatrician has always done a quick look during check-ups as well. I don't think it is at all unusual.
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Old 06-21-2011, 05:03 PM
 
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Some people use low-cost clinics for shots instead of a regular doctor, and some get shots at neighborhood clinics or even the public schools themselves (clinics on site). If a low-income family is on WIC or other public assistance they can also receive shots through those services. And some families choose not to do vaccinations for various reasons.

We have boys and our doctor always checks their private parts when they have their well child checkup. Our boys are not circumcised so I actually have requested in the past that the doctor talk to the boys about how they should keep their privates clean and cared for. As most parents know - what a mom or dad says often goes in one ear and out the other but hearing it from a different respected adult often helps!

When our oldest turned 13, the doctor suggested I leave the room (didn't demand that I do, but left it up to me) so that he may be examined without me present and so now he goes in alone for his visits and the doctor briefs me afterwards how everything is going. We've been seeing the same family doctor for years and have built up a good relationship with him, so it doesn't feel like a big deal. We trust him and his good nurse, too.
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Old 06-21-2011, 05:10 PM
 
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i asked my wife this and she said she had her genitals checked out by the pediatrician all the way up to 18 years old.
what????
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Old 06-21-2011, 05:21 PM
 
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Our pediatrician has always checked our daughters' genitals, including pulling apart the labia. I asked why she does this, and she explained that fair skinned babies / toddlers are more prone to labial adhesions. One of my daughters did actually end up with this, so I am glad that the pediatrician checked. I have a friend who had a labial adhesion as a child and they found it around age five and had to perform surgery. It was traumatizing for her. If it is caught early, there are non-invasive treatments.
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Old 06-21-2011, 05:47 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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Just curious - if this was a check-up, what were your expectations? Maybe the child's distress was because her daddy was in the room ! I would have asked, nicely, "Mr ___ , would you please step out for a minute", respecting the modesty of this 5 y/o. Why did everyone have to be in the room with mom and 5 y/o? No wonder she was freaked out....
My husband has been at all of our daughters' checkups up until this point. My oldest is 9 and her doctor has never checked anything that personal...none of us imagined that this doctor would be doing anything that required the underpants coming off. Even so, if I had a son, I would definitely still need to be in the room with him for a checkup at 5 years old...so why wouldn't my husband come along when my daughter has a checkup?
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Old 06-21-2011, 06:18 PM
 
Location: 60630
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NO WAY would I ever put my daughters through anything like that.I would absolutely NOT let that doctor do that again....I mean wow, she's only 5...that's a great way to make her hate doctors, and totally unnecessary. None of my children went for "well" visits as they were always well...they only saw a doctor to set broken bones or to get antibiotics...that's all.

What do you implying that these doctors are doing? We are not talking a full blown OBGYN test here.
How old are your children?
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Old 06-21-2011, 06:20 PM
 
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what????


LOl, now that's more of a "wow" haha
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Old 06-21-2011, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Geneva, IL
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What do you implying that these doctors are doing? We are not talking a full blown OBGYN test here.
How old are your children?
Yeah the innuendo bothers me too. A pediatric doctor doing a visual exam of genitals as part of a standard well check-up somehow becomes a creep.
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Old 06-21-2011, 06:41 PM
 
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I don't know about creepy - but sure sounds unnecessary - especially with a room full of people! Sounds like better judgement could have been used - an explanation - time for Dad to leave the room . . .

I wouldn't be happy and not because of innuendo - everyone was taken by surprise and that's not good - especially for a five year old.

I would choose a doctor who was a little smarter than that.
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Old 06-21-2011, 06:47 PM
 
Location: Geneva, IL
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Well this is another good reason to keep on talking to your kids. Hopefully people talk to their kids before going to the doctor, and hopefully people are also talking to their kids about who does what and looks where? Just the other night before a sleep-over we were talking to the kids about their bodies and good and bad touch, and the subject of doctors came up. They understand if you explain it to them. Some kids don't like to be touched by strangers, but by 5 they should be okay with it.

As far as the appropriateness with a room full of people....I'm sorry, but this was a doctor's visit, not a birthday party. Do people really not anticipate that being naked is a distinct possibility when seeing a doctor?
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