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How many kids do you think is too many? Is it two? Three? Seven? Thirteen???
Back in the day, it was common to see a woman have five or six kids (between my two grandmothers, they had sixteen children!). Now, the average woman has two, MAYBE three kids.
I personally would love to have four to six kids (would probably try to adopt some). How many kids do you have or do you want to have? And would you be willing to sacrifice luxuries to have more children than "normal"?
How many kids do you think is too many? Is it two? Three? Seven? Thirteen???
Back in the day, it was common to see a woman have five or six kids (between my two grandmothers, they had sixteen children!). Now, the average woman has two, MAYBE three kids.
I personally would love to have four to six kids (would probably try to adopt some). How many kids do you have or do you want to have? And would you be willing to sacrifice luxuries to have more children than "normal"?
Thanks in advance. I know, lots of questions!
In this day and age of overpopulation ? My answer: more then one is too many.
As much as people like to pretend it doesn't exist, overpopulation and dwindling of resources are REAL facts that need to be paid attention to otherwise we. Are. Screwed.
Yes. I am a card carrying member of zero-population growth. I say put birth control into the water supply, please.
I think 2-4 kids is ideal. I personally want to have 4 kids (two boys and two girls) myself, but want 5 at the most. 6 kids would be pushing it a bit, but 7 and more is too many for me.
My Great-grandmother (born in 1918) had 8 girls, no boys. They tried but no luck.
Most young people I know want around 3 kids, but many want 4 or 5, a couple of my friends want 6. I even have a couple of friends that want 8. Very few want none or one. I would say an equal amount want 2 kids though compared to the amount that want 4 or so.
for me, 2 is perfect. 3 would be too many. I know a few people who have 4. That seems like too many to me, but isn't so uncommon. Any more than 4, and I'm overwhelmed just looking at them. I have a cousin with 5, and I just got the booklet from my 20-year HS reunion and I can't believe how many people have 5 kids! All of them are Mormon FWIW. I think 1 or 2 even had 6 kids.
Honestly, my first thought when I find out someone is pregnant with #3 is "why?" I don't say that out loud of course.
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MY DH told me he wanted 6 kids. I told him, great - I'll have the first three. After our third child, he realized that financially we simply could not afford a large family. Both of us worked, usually two jobs apiece, until our youngest graduated from college. We took in foster children, but they were mostly teens with problems, not babies to adopt. We had 'enough' - no one starved or did without - but we didn't have a fancy house or brand-new cars. We never went on public assistance; instead, we'd just go get another job. We had chickens in the back yard, my children were used to wildkill meats, and they worked in the garden to produce our vegies and fruits.
I think affording kids is the biggest problem. People who produce children and expect others to pay for them and their needs shouldn't have children at all; they are not an income resource, they are people who need to be educated, disciplined, loved, and cared for. Again, too many folks talk about 'having kids' as if they were status symbols or as if they always would remain babies, "someone to love me back!" IMHO, none of these peoples' attitudes make them fit to be parents. You don't have to be Bill Gates to have children, but you should be able to provide for their basic needs without expecting other people to pay you to raise them, or to fulfill their educational and disciplinary needs. If you can do that with 1, or 4, or 10, and still maintain not only your sanity but a consistent and satisfactory lifestyle that provides basic needs and helps the children to grow in a stable, ever-maturing, supportive lifestyle, more power to you!
Completely depends on your circumstances- and I don't mean just finances! I know plenty of women who are great moms to one or two kids, but would be overwhelmed with 4. Then there are those who can manage 14 or more.
For me, I always wanted 5 or 6; I grew up an only child and hated it, and my now husband is the youngest of six and loved it. But then it took me a while to find the right husband, and then we had difficulty conceiving at first (took us three years and three rounds of fertility treatment). So now I am almost 38, 3.5 year old toddler twins and a 1.5 year old. We are thinking one more, but I am not even sure of that because pregnancy- and babies- are more difficult to handle when you are older. Plus we have a really nice house in a great neighbourhood, but it only has 4 bedrooms. I know kids don't *need* their own room but I do think it's good for them, so having more would likely mean moving.
people with lots of kids use the older ones to "mother" the younger ones freeing up the mom to do whatever she does..cook..clean...doesnt seem fair to those kids. i also dont think i should have to pay for your kids..cant afford them then do not have them..but then that brings up the question of if you know your unbaby is disabled and will need public assistance should you give birth? sounds like another thread to be had.
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