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Old 07-21-2011, 12:03 AM
 
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I say marriage and kids are both worthwhile, the only problem is once you get married you think you know your spouse, then you have kids and find out you made a mistake because theres a whole other side to them you didnt know about based on the way they parent. This can cause enormous friction, and errupts the relationship. I say go for it but first find out what your spouses views are in depth before you leap.
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Old 09-13-2016, 06:03 PM
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Location: Pac. NW, but my heart's in SoCal
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My parents would both exclaim "NO!!"
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Old 09-13-2016, 09:13 PM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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I say marriage and kids are both worthwhile, the only problem is once you get married you think you know your spouse, then you have kids and find out you made a mistake because theres a whole other side to them you didnt know about based on the way they parent. This can cause enormous friction, and errupts the relationship. I say go for it but first find out what your spouses views are in depth before you leap.
Trust me, if I do get married, I'd want to know pretty much everything...LOL
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Old 09-13-2016, 11:35 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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married and 4 kids later...yes, definitely worth it. Do some days i wish i were single and could sleep all day? Yes!

I know unconditional love.
I know what it feels like to love something so much it hurts.
I know that i'd give my life for my child.
I know that some days i wish they would just be quiet.
I know that someday i'm going to miss that noise.

I have 4 beautiful kids. I cry when they receive awards. I cry when they reach milestones. I miss them terribly when they are away, but wonder when they're going back when they come home.

But that's me and my husband. Do i sometimes want to mainline prozac and xanax before i go grocery shopping with them all? Yes!

I cannot speak for others...i certainly never saw myself with 4 kids, but now, it's really remarkable. Each day i surprise myself and each day is a new test of patience.




you said it perfectly!!!!
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Old 10-27-2016, 04:58 AM
 
Location: CA
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Depends on the individual. For me, marriage may be worth it but kids on the other hand, no. Some may call me selfish, but it's not worth giving up my freedom for.
That's not selfish at all. If anything, you are the opposite. You are realistic about knowing that you would be a crappy parent and are sparing yourself
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Old 10-28-2016, 05:23 PM
 
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I think having kids is worth it
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Old 10-28-2016, 07:35 PM
 
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It's the hardest thing I've ever done, but I cannot imagine my life without my children in it. The only regret I have is that we don't have 48-72 hours in day so that i can enjoy my family slowly and more deliberately.
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Old 10-29-2016, 06:42 AM
 
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OP, This is a nearly 6 year old thread. Did you ever get married, and/or have children??
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Old 10-29-2016, 09:45 AM
 
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I know you didn't ask me, but what CMP says is true. I know it because my mother worked in a nursing home when she returned to her nursing career after SAHM.
I agree. My grandfather is in a home and most of the patients (yes they had kids) didn't get anything from their kids for Christmas. They were ignored, on Christmas! And they were all nice and sweet, and there were a LOT of them so none of this "Oh one or two people they were probably bad parents" nonsense.

My mom and I went out and bought them presents
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Old 10-29-2016, 09:49 AM
 
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Totally disagree. It's entirely possible to contribute to humanity and society without having children. And it could be successfully argued from many different angles that not having children is directly contributing to humanity, such as the world is overpopulated, some people shouldn't reproduce due to genetics, some people's values/knowledge/heritage is deterimental to society, etc.

I'm a parent, but it makes me sick when others treat childless people like their lives are purposeless.
Thank you! Most parents are too busy to do anything else, and just because you pop out an infant doesn't mean a contribution. All the humans who grow up to be murderers, rapists, pedos, in jail, etc, wow yeah that's really some contribution from their parents!

I work and pay taxes for schools and roads, and I volunteer to help those in need.

To answer the OP, since I obviously don't have children, it's about personal choice and doing whats best for you. Since I don't have kids, a lot of parents feel comfortable telling me they regret their decision and if they could do it again, they wouldn't have kids, or maybe they would have stopped a kid or two short of what they did.

If you feel in your heart/gut that you don't want to do the marriage/kids thing, then don't.
If you are still young, wait awhile, there isn't any rush.
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