Second Baby Showers (party, babies, pregnant, parents)
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I think that going in on a gift certificate for a nice baby consignment shop is a good idea if people want to do something. That way people can give $1 or $20 and not feel pressured to do more.
I agree, but they specifically asked for gift cards in the $20-$25 range and department/grocery stores. Yes, baby items can be purchased there, but that is just as tacky as asking for monetary gifts.
Because generally co-workers dont like being put in an obligatory position of purchasing gifts for other co-workers.
I agree here - especially if you aren't particularly friends with the person. If someone at the office is good friends with a co-worker having a baby, then they should just do something nice for them outside the office environment.
To send an email to everyone puts them in an awkward position.
Why does gifts make it tacky? Are wedding gifts tacky? Birthday gifts? Anniversary gifts?
I would never expect a gift for a second wedding. I also don't ask for gifts for my birthday. If someone buys me one, fine. But I don't expect my friends to take up a collection for me every year.
I do now there was some grumbling at my office a few years ago about this same thing. Kids were only a couple of years apart and both were boys. I didn't know her very well at all and hadn't been here for the first one, so I just have her some baby socks or something, but didn't attend the actually shower her.
I'm not really appalled, but I do find it unneccessary. Also, I think it does put co-workers in a awkward position. If you are having a second shower, it really should just involve your closest family and friends and the guest list shouldn't be as wide-ranging as it was for your first.
Her FRIEND is doing this for her. She is not asking for herself. This is no different than any other celebration IMO.
But she's doing it through work, and co-workers aren't necessarily true friends. I find the email tacky, too. When we have showers here, the host simply posts signs that mention where the person is registered. No one is hit up over email and told what to buy and how much to spend. That is tacky in general, no matter what the event!
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