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I really need help. Cut to the chase, the neighbor's son recently returned from out-of-state rehab for a heroine addiction. It didn't work. Son told me the other day that he's using again. It took three conversations to get some details out of him; said that he was so upset that he had trouble discussing it.
They live just a few doors away. I've spoken with her (Mom) only a few times so we are not really friends. I can't go up there when he or his sister are at home. I'm a little worried about the neighborhood teens noting my (unusual) visit.
I need to inform her of what's going on. I don't want my son to be targeted or suffer any repercussions from my actions. I don't know her phone number.
I don't quite know how to handle this.
I'm going to be really, really busy for a day or two. I don't want all of you to think that I've abandoned my thread.
why do you need to do anything? If you've only talked to the mom a few times, and don't consider her a friend, and your son doesn't hang with this kid, it really isn't your business. I have trouble seeing the neighbor teen telling you about his drug use anyway
I really need help. Cut to the chase, the neighbor's son recently returned from out-of-state rehab for a heroine addiction. It didn't work. Son told me the other day that he's using again. It took three conversations to get some details out of him; said that he was so upset that he had trouble discussing it.
They live just a few doors away. I've spoken with her (Mom) only a few times so we are not really friends. I can't go up there when he or his sister are at home. I'm a little worried about the neighborhood teens noting my (unusual) visit.
I need to inform her of what's going on. I don't want my son to be targeted or suffer any repercussions from my actions. I don't know her phone number.
I don't quite know how to handle this.
I'm going to be really, really busy for a day or two. I don't want all of you to think that I've abandoned my thread.
Thanks for any help that any of you can give.
Late, Tired, Gerania
I will assume everyone is a minor? Then just tell your son that the kid and his house is off-limits.
Then just leave it alone, his family will see that the use has started again.
why do you need to do anything? If you've only talked to the mom a few times, and don't consider her a friend, and your son doesn't hang with this kid, it really isn't your business. I have trouble seeing the neighbor teen telling you about his drug use anyway
They hung in middle school and high school. Mom's a divorced librarian trying to make ends meet. I just felt badly for her.
I will assume everyone is a minor? Then just tell your son that the kid and his house is off-limits.
Then just leave it alone, his family will see that the use has started again.
why do you need to do anything? If you've only talked to the mom a few times, and don't consider her a friend, and your son doesn't hang with this kid, it really isn't your business. I have trouble seeing the neighbor teen telling you about his drug use anyway
Agree. You don't seem to be close. Not sure why it's your place to insert yourself. And you are assuming she doesn't know. She very well might.
It is MYOB time. And CYA for your son...he should not hang with this kid, he won't help this kid get his life straight, it does not work that way...the drug addict will only take others down with him. Drug addicts use everyone, lie, and finally have to hit rock bottom before they turn around.
BTW, the Mother probably already knows the son is using again...and into some serious denial about it, she will hate you for making her face it. And probably blame you for interferring. You won't have a functional conversation with someone you barely know about her son's drug use. Don't go there. However, if you would like to reach out to her...that might be a positive thing to do, if you would like to do that...have her over for coffee, but don't talk about the drug addict.
She probably already knows. The last thing she needs is a nosey neighbor talking to her about drugs. Heroine addiction isn't an easy fix. One time in rehab won't solve the problem. Sadly, there might not be a damn thing the mother can do about it. That one time in rehab probably maxed her health insurance policy limits for inpatient treatment for the year.
Years ago, I had neighbors who tried to battle their daughter's heroine addiction. She was in and out of rehab many, many, many times. They lost their house trying to save her. They couldn't make the mortgage payments because they were paying for rehab. The bank foreclosed. I ran into the mother a few years later at the store. The daughter and family still struggle with it.
Her son confided in you that he is still using but is embarrassed about it. To me it sounds like he was asking for help in a very indirect way. I would tell the Mom. I would knock on the door or catch her outside when the kids aren't home and make some small talk. Then say something like, "I have something important that I feel that I need to share with you...I was talking to your son the other day and he told me....I wasn't sure if or how I should bring this up but I care for your son and thought that if the roles were reversed, I would want to know....".
Her son confided in you that he is still using but is embarrassed about it. To me it sounds like he was asking for help in a very indirect way. I would tell the Mom. I would knock on the door or catch her outside when the kids aren't home and make some small talk. Then say something like, "I have something important that I feel that I need to share with you...I was talking to your son the other day and he told me....I wasn't sure if or how I should bring this up but I care for your son and thought that if the roles were reversed, I would want to know....".
The OP is confusing. I think she meant her son told her that the neighbor boy is using again.
If these kids were 13, I'd say tell the mother. He's 21. I'd stay out of it and make sure your kid doesn't hang with this guy.
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