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Old 04-13-2018, 08:45 AM
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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Originally Posted by mommy2be1053 View Post
For me, it would depend on several factors. if the grade years are important ie 6th grade for example, it means first year of middle school for the next 3 years. so missing 2 weeks would hurt my kid socially as a lot happens in first few weeks in starting new school year. Particularly so if it's a large middle school with several different elementary schools feeding into that MS, cuz by time your kiddo return from vacation; cliques and groups already set up!

likewise for start of HS. if its just a regular year in their schooling years like 3rd grade, 8th grade, etc. I would go for the trip.
Some people I know took their kids out of 7th and 8th grades for a week in October to go to Hawaii. The same drill- better prices, less crowded, etc. Once they were back for a while, the kids told them to never do that again, it took too long to make up all the work. A week's absence is a lot by middle school when earning credits becomes important.
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Old 04-13-2018, 11:00 AM
Location: Watervliet, NY
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Originally Posted by jamary1 View Post
My granddaughter was a nationally-ranked athlete in elementary and middle school and had to occasionally miss school for out-of-area/out-of-state events.
Same with my oldest nephew. He spent a week in Utah last month competing in Junior Nationals for Nordic skiing. He's also an Honors student as well as being co-captain of his high school ski team.
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Old 04-13-2018, 06:36 PM
Location: Dfw
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I remember going on several trips, even to Mexico, during school. School will always be there. Taking trips and having experiences don't always happen.
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Old 04-13-2018, 08:04 PM
Location: Florida
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One of the reasons we homeschool is because the school year does not fit well with our travel schedule, particularly my son's. He is gone one or two 4-5 day long weekends most months of the year.

The one year the kids went to school and each year when we've had exchange students, we always took them out for a week or two to travel as a family. We always did Disney (we are Florida residents, though, so it was usually a day or two here and a day or two there to coincide with the weekend) and we took most of them up north for a week at some point. I do think that travel is, in general, more important than a single week at school. We were careful to schedule around important tests.

I don't think it's an all-or-nothing situation. On any given week, the kids will be able to make up whatever they've missed while enjoying a vacation with their family. That doesn't mean I think it's fine to do it every month, but a week each year? It's really not a big deal. If they are getting college credit or taking an accelerated course at the high school level, that's different. This upcoming year, my daughter might do the culinary arts program at the local technical college; if she does, I don't believe she can just miss a week, so we'll have to rearrange our fall travel plans. I'll talk to the instructor to find out, though.
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Old 04-16-2018, 07:53 AM
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We often take our kids out of school to go on vacation, although mine are much younger than yours. 6 days is long though and your kids are much older. As long as they are OK with missing school, I say you should go for it.
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Old 04-16-2018, 09:42 PM
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I did it when my kids were in elementary school. It didn't hurt them at all. You might feel alittle guilty, but
when you come back you will be so glad you did.
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Old 04-18-2018, 12:45 AM
Location: 60630
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I am taking my son out for a month! We are going back to my home county and we only go 1 time every 2 or 3 years. My mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and both my parents are older, 70s. May is the time to go because that is when we can get the time off. Now, I told my sons school months ago. I gave them heads up so they know. They don't seems to have an issue with it.
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Old 04-18-2018, 06:33 AM
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Originally Posted by glass_of_merlot View Post
I am taking my son out for a month!
I think family issues get special dispensation. I believe most of the negative connotations with taking kids out of school for vacation is for "vacation" - you know, going to the beach, grand canyon, etc. Not for family stuff. That's generally more acceptable.
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Old 04-18-2018, 06:33 PM
Location: Saint John, IN
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We have taken our kids out of school every year so far for 4-5 days. They are currently in 6th and 4th grade. The absences were unexcused of course, but due to my husband job, it's when we can travel. I have always received all of their work that they would miss ahead of time and made sure they were caught up!

Every state is different, but ours only allows 10 unexcused absences in a year and then the parent can be held accountable. I would never take my children out that many days, but I'm sure some people do. Unexcused basically means taking kids out for vacations. Being sick or going somewhere due to a sick relative or funerals are excused. I have always received all of their work that they would miss ahead of time and made sure they were caught up!

As children get older it's harder for them to miss school and catch up. Since my oldest will be in 7th grade next year we probably won't take them out anymore and do our best to go on vacation during times they are on break. However, if we had an opportunity like the OP I would totally due it! Missing a few days is NOT the end of the world! Everyone will survive as long as you don't make a habit out of it!

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Old 04-20-2018, 07:33 AM
Location: Brooklyn
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Mine's in 4th grade and I wouldn't dare take him out for vacation this year. I know middle school admissions take tardies and absences into account so we've pushed any school year vacation plans back to next year when he'll be in 5th grade and it doesn't matter as much. That said, I don't have any sort of moral qualms about taking them out of school for vacation in general. We all appreciate a break sometimes.
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