Getting guilt for only wanting one child (babysitting, diabete, pregnant)

[eastwesteastagain]

Originally Posted by fallingwater

My MIL actually said, "what if your child gets hit by a car? You will be really upset you didn't have more."

Wow! That might be one of the worst things I've heard, ever.

[fallingwater]

Originally Posted by eastwesteastagain

Wow! That might be one of the worst things I've heard, ever.

Ya she has that affect on people. Like if something happened to my child I would be so happy I had a spare. :roll eyes: I am so glad we do not live by the ghastly woman anymore.

[num1baby]

Originally Posted by eastwesteastagain

Wow! That might be one of the worst things I've heard, ever.

The sad thing is that I have heard the same thing. Except mine was bing hit by a bus not a car.

[eastwesteastagain]

Originally Posted by fallingwater

Ya she has that affect on people. Like if something happened to my child I would be so happy I had a spare. :roll eyes: I am so glad we do not live by the ghastly woman anymore.

Originally Posted by num1baby

The sad thing is that I have heard the same thing. Except mine was bing hit by a bus not a car.

Holy cow - don't people THINK before they open their mouths???

Never mind, don't answer that, I already know they don't!

[max's mama]

Originally Posted by eastwesteastagain

Wow! That might be one of the worst things I've heard, ever.

I've been told similar things. "G-d forbid something happens to one, at least you will have another"...type of things.

[SkiScree]

At least you guys have one.

[lauramc27]

As if having another woud replace the one who got hit by the car Open mouth, insert BOTH feet

[Sweetbottoms]

Thanks guys.. I guess I worded my topic wrong I don't feel guilty I ment more they try and make me feel guilty about it. Like I'm doing something wrong but I'm perfectly happy with my daughter (plus we're in that two year old phase you know the one) and I don't even feel the need for another. I tkdishik because I'm still relatively young they think I should be popping them out left and right (both our grandparents had large families 5-7 kids and our parents are from large families too) but I feel like I'd rather focus on my career as well as my daughter and people seem confused by that for some reason.

I feel i can give my daughter all she needs and do wonderful things with her such as trips and sports and give her all my personal time. I'm one of 4 and I love my brothers and sister dearly but I remember my mother stretched thin and a little more mom/dad time is something I think most of us want. Anywho I think if my husband just gets the big V that'll solve the nagging from others in the family and such. Then I won't have to keep explaining anything they'll get the point!

[Sweetbottoms]

Originally Posted by max's mama

I've been told similar things. "G-d forbid something happens to one, at least you will have another"...type of things.

Right I'm not having another as "insurance" incase something happens. Who the hell thinks like that! WHY would you even suggest something would happen to my daughter.

[Sweetbottoms]

Originally Posted by SkiScree

At least you guys have one.

It took me 4 years, one miscarriage and 6 rounds of fertility drugs to have her.. I'm am BEYOND grateful.