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Old 10-06-2011, 04:34 AM
 
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My interpretation.

BTW, your whole "14 and 15 year old get married" argument is pretty volatile IMO. No, I wouldn't think that is OK, and no that is not backpeddling. For one thing, it lacks common sense.

And no, didn't you get the memo? I live in Mayberry. Please read the "Glee" thread.
I literally have NO IDEA what you are talking about. I never mentioned 14 and 15 year olds getting married.

I suspect that people are people everywhere even where ever it is you live and that means they disagree. On the other hand your bizarre "interpretation" that we who disagree with you are being "volatile" and your "interpretation" that your conservative christian status matters to anyone here may mean that people who would disagree with you would just as soon avoid you. I can see how a simple disagreement escalates quickly in your presence into a religious debate. Super fun!
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Old 10-06-2011, 04:49 AM
 
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Pregnancy is not the only consequence of intercourse at 14,a girls reputation if she sleeps around even with protection,also exposing her still developing body to HPV,STD's can have dire health risks.Can a 14 yr old really make informed choices on such big issues??I rather they think about what to wear for homecoming or when to sign up for the PSAT! There is plenty of time ahead of them for all the sex they desire but jumping from A to Z sex wise will not serve them well in life!! Don't rush through childhood to get to adulthood...enjoy all stages of your life!!
She's 19 not 14. I think the average 19 year old is capable of making those decisions.
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Old 10-06-2011, 04:52 AM
 
Location: tampa bay
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She's 19 not 14. I think the average 19 year old is capable of making those decisions.
Sorry confused thread with other...yes I agree at 19 she is much more capable.
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Old 10-06-2011, 07:14 AM
 
Location: maryland
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yeah, right.

Once the barn door is open, honey. Ain't no way you're gonna keep those horses in.

20yrsinbranson
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Old 10-06-2011, 07:34 AM
 
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WOW- I had no idea this many would reply. I appreciate all of the positive and negative responses- she is very involved in school and I doubt she has time for sex every day -she said once or twice a week- No I don't like it but it is her life and she is being responsible. I know it isn't reality these days to wait until marriage- She of course thinks this is her life partner and i doubt it is but it could be-you never know. I am proud that we have a relationship that she can tell me- I would have never told my mother back in the 80's....
I do think it's great that you and your daughter have such good communication with one another, however..

Maybe it's just me, but I can't see myself ever having a conversation like that (how often? ) with my grown, college aged kids. That's just way TMI, IMO.

In my view, sex is a private act between two consenting adults who (hopefully) care about each other. It isn't respectful to share private details about such a relationship with other people - even your own mom.
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Old 10-06-2011, 07:54 AM
 
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I do think it's great that you and your daughter have such good communication with one another, however..

Maybe it's just me, but I can't see myself ever having a conversation like that (how often? ) with my grown, college aged kids. That's just way TMI, IMO.

In my view, sex is a private act between two consenting adults who (hopefully) care about each other. It isn't respectful to share private details about such a relationship with other people - even your own mom.
I think that whether the daughter shared TMI depends on what she told her mother. I don't think that just discussing that she had sex is all that private whereas revealing all the little details would definitely be revealing TMI.
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Old 10-06-2011, 07:59 AM
 
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I think that whether the daughter shared TMI depends on what she told her mother. I don't think that just discussing that she had sex is all that private whereas revealing all the little details would definitely be revealing TMI.
Yes. It's the number of times per week that seems TMI to me.
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Old 10-06-2011, 08:20 AM
 
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I do think it's great that you and your daughter have such good communication with one another, however..

Maybe it's just me, but I can't see myself ever having a conversation like that (how often? ) with my grown, college aged kids. That's just way TMI, IMO.

In my view, sex is a private act between two consenting adults who (hopefully) care about each other. It isn't respectful to share private details about such a relationship with other people - even your own mom.

it was very brief-I asked do you still need BC- (that was me asking if she was having sex I guess in a discreet way) and she said Yes Mom we do it 1x or 2x a week- it wasn't like I was asking details or anything...I would rather know that than have a "Mom, I'm pregnant" and have no idea it was going on (which apparently seems to happen often these days). this is a forum and from the replies many people seem to have varying opinions ....
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Old 10-06-2011, 08:25 AM
 
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it was very brief-I asked do you still need BC- (that was me asking if she was having sex I guess in a discreet way) and she said Yes Mom we do it 1x or 2x a week- it wasn't like I was asking details or anything...I would rather know that than have a "Mom, I'm pregnant" and have no idea it was going on (which apparently seems to happen often these days). this is a forum and from the replies many people seem to have varying opinions ....
That doesn't sound intrusive to me at all. Not all parents of adult children respect the boundaries that you clearly do, though.

At 19 she should be up to handling the BC logistics without parental help, but it's good that you checked with her to make sure of that.

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Old 10-06-2011, 10:45 AM
 
Location: maryland
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See, this is exactly what I mean.

I guess biological urges are completely overwhelming to everyone.

Why should I even bother teaching my children morality, since they won't be able to control their urges?

What in heaven's name is wrong teaching my children to wait?

I know I can't put an exact number on it, but there is a big difference in the emotional maturity of a 23 year old vs. a 19 year old.

What I'm hearing from a lot of you is, well high school is not OK, but college is.

So am I expected to believe there is a huge difference between a 18 year old HS senior and a 19 y.o. college freshman?

I don't believe it.

You can teach them morality....but your morals will not always be your childrens. And the fact is almost not one waits for marriage, so it's better to teach them to be safe then bury your head in the sand in the belief they will be part of that 1% who waits.
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