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Old 11-02-2011, 06:41 AM
 
Location: Wallis and Futuna
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One of the things that I guess I failed to do here in my posts, is to address the "stealing" Halloween from kids. For the record, my kids LOVED for us to get dressed up for Halloween. In fact, it was our kids who talked us into dressing up with them. There were many times, once they got older, when we'd be working our tails off, getting the house and yard finished off, when our kids would say, "Mom/Dad", aren't you going to get ready!!?? I/we can finish up! The TOTers are going to start coming soon and you're not even ready!!"

We never stole anything from them. Halloween was a very important family time for us....one of the few times of year when we did something really fun together as a group. Even as an adult, my oldest son would show up for a while, put on a costume, and join the "yard display" as a live actor, all of my older kids did it.
My mom is a retired kindergarten teacher. When she was teaching, she would dress up for Halloween every year, at school. If it was on a weekend she'd dress up on Friday. She'd sit with her class and have silly spooky storytime. She'd start off with something, tell the kids to make it scary, and each kid would have a turn adding in something outrageous.

Then after supper she'd refresh her makeup and be ready to greet the trick-or-treaters at the door, in full halloween regalia.
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Old 11-02-2011, 06:48 AM
 
Location: Eastern time zone
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It was always a childrens day. It's only in recent years that adults started making it theirs too. I swear it almost seems it's rebellion, along with wanting what the children get to have, against religion of all sects making it such a big deal to dress up in a costume.
Well, no. It was first a pre-Roman New Year's celebration and Day of Judgment, then later evolved into a tradition intended to keep the souls of those who'd died during the previous year safely where they belonged. And Jack-O-Lantern's were, often as not, carved from turnips.
The times have been, and indeed still are, a-changin'.
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Old 11-02-2011, 06:50 AM
 
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Oh, good grief! 30+ years ago, my office held Halloween parties, at people's homes, outside of work.
Indeed. I made one heckuva Divine Miss M back in the day.
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Old 11-02-2011, 06:53 AM
 
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My mom is a retired kindergarten teacher. When she was teaching, she would dress up for Halloween every year, at school. If it was on a weekend she'd dress up on Friday. She'd sit with her class and have silly spooky storytime. She'd start off with something, tell the kids to make it scary, and each kid would have a turn adding in something outrageous.

Then after supper she'd refresh her makeup and be ready to greet the trick-or-treaters at the door, in full halloween regalia.
I forgot about that! My older girls' kindergarten teachers did, as well. It was a little disconcerting to see Clifford the Big Red Dog teaching dipthongs, but the kids loved it and apparently he had hidden talents (and a woman's voice).
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Old 11-02-2011, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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I came from a household whose parents wouldn't have dreamed of dressing up at Halloween. If my father would have married someone who was "playful", I think Dad would have gone all out. LOL To my mom, it was utter nonsense, "Who has time for such sillyness!?....adults acting like children!?" It's funny though, that woman was astounding in her skills at making costumes. They also did square dancing (off topic, I know)...when I was a young child and the "costumes" she made for my father and her were out of this world....just amazing! That was about as close to dressing up in costumes as she ever got.

It's uncanny that I would marry a man whose mother would never have dreamed of NOT dressing up on Halloween. My MIL would have had to have been too sick to WALK, for her to miss out on the fun. After gradeschool, I didn't dress up again until I was in my early 20's and I think my MIL had everything to do with it. I continued with my rigid way of thinking, "I'm too mature to dress up like a child", until I realized that it was okay to have fun...even as a grown up. It's one day!.....one day to let your inner child out to play, before locking her inside again for the rest of the year.
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Old 11-02-2011, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I think the schools take a lot away from the fun for kids today... Our elementary school does not allow te kids to wear any type of costumes and their parties are called " Fall celebrations" with no candy allowed!
?... I can understand wanting to put a limit on things and even applying a dress code for costumes, such as; nothing scary,etc.. But to basically take away all of their fun is ridiculous.
I loved Halloween at school when I was a kid! My mom made our costumes almost every year & I was always sonproud to tell people
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Old 11-02-2011, 08:52 AM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan and Sometimes Orange County CA
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I came from a household whose parents wouldn't have dreamed of dressing up at Halloween. If my father would have married someone who was "playful", I think Dad would have gone all out. LOL To my mom, it was utter nonsense, "Who has time for such sillyness!?....adults acting like children!?" It's funny though, that woman was astounding in her skills at making costumes. They also did square dancing (off topic, I know)...when I was a young child and the "costumes" she made for my father and her were out of this world....just amazing! That was about as close to dressing up in costumes as she ever got.

It's uncanny that I would marry a man whose mother would never have dreamed of NOT dressing up on Halloween. My MIL would have had to have been too sick to WALK, for her to miss out on the fun. After gradeschool, I didn't dress up again until I was in my early 20's and I think my MIL had everything to do with it. I continued with my rigid way of thinking, "I'm too mature to dress up like a child", until I realized that it was okay to have fun...even as a grown up. It's one day!.....one day to let your inner child out to play, before locking her inside again for the rest of the year.
I agree. Unless your inner child is a hooker, axe murderer, pedophile, or beatialist. Then it is probably better to keep them inside. You children do not need to see that inner child.
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Old 11-02-2011, 09:00 AM
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Location: Foot of the Rockies
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I came from a household whose parents wouldn't have dreamed of dressing up at Halloween. If my father would have married someone who was "playful", I think Dad would have gone all out. LOL To my mom, it was utter nonsense, "Who has time for such sillyness!?....adults acting like children!?" It's funny though, that woman was astounding in her skills at making costumes. They also did square dancing (off topic, I know)...when I was a young child and the "costumes" she made for my father and her were out of this world....just amazing! That was about as close to dressing up in costumes as she ever got.

It's uncanny that I would marry a man whose mother would never have dreamed of NOT dressing up on Halloween. My MIL would have had to have been too sick to WALK, for her to miss out on the fun. After gradeschool, I didn't dress up again until I was in my early 20's and I think my MIL had everything to do with it. I continued with my rigid way of thinking, "I'm too mature to dress up like a child", until I realized that it was okay to have fun...even as a grown up. It's one day!.....one day to let your inner child out to play, before locking her inside again for the rest of the year.
Your mom sounds a lot like my mom (may she rest in peace). Plus, my mom grew up on a farm during the depression, and the contsraints of living in a rural area plus having no money meant Halloween wasn't a biggie for her. Mom did make some neat costumes for us kids, though, when we were very little. As we got older, it was mostly throw together stuff we had around the house.
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Old 11-02-2011, 09:06 AM
 
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I agree. Unless your inner child is a hooker, axe murderer, pedophile, or beatialist. Then it is probably better to keep them inside. You children do not need to see that inner child.


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Old 11-02-2011, 09:08 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Your mom sounds a lot like my mom (may she rest in peace). Plus, my mom grew up on a farm during the depression, and the contsraints of living in a rural area plus having no money meant Halloween wasn't a biggie for her. Mom did make some neat costumes for us kids, though, when we were very little. As we got older, it was mostly throw together stuff we had around the house.
Yes, my mom was poor and lived through the depression as well. There was little time and even less money for "nonsense". She then had a house full of children and had "no time" for frivolous things. It's sad to me though, and I try to be so very careful, to not forget how to have fun and to laugh.
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