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Old 12-03-2011, 08:27 AM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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You have a 3 year old? Get ready!
Hahaha! I know, I know. I'm practicing deep breathing already to prepare!!
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Old 12-03-2011, 09:16 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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I'm with the others...."WHAT did you just SAY to me!?" If I give them a chore and they stop, grumble or complain about it, I say, "That's too bad....you know, all I was going to do was have you take out the trash, but since you've got a negatude, you can also (add chore here)" If I get backsass from THAT....add another chore! After those chores get done, I'd call them in and say, "It's a good thing your attitude changed (if it did), cuz I coulda kept you busy ALL day!"
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Old 12-03-2011, 10:33 AM
 
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You have a 3 year old? Get ready!
I've had 3 year olds roll their eyes at me -- it's the funniest thing to see. I try to be tough but it's hard when you want to bust out laughing.

Is eye-rolling an innate behavior or is it learned?
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Old 12-03-2011, 10:42 AM
 
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I've had 3 year olds roll their eyes at me -- it's the funniest thing to see. I try to be tough but it's hard when you want to bust out laughing.

Is eye-rolling an innate behavior or is it learned?
Pretty sure it's learned. Since I can't see people's eyes, I'm awful at trying to roll my eyes. It comes off as awkward or just looking blind, so I think it's one of those things people pick up on and imitate.
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Old 12-03-2011, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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I've had 3 year olds roll their eyes at me -- it's the funniest thing to see. I try to be tough but it's hard when you want to bust out laughing.

Is eye-rolling an innate behavior or is it learned?
Haha! I know, it's like "don't reinforce by laughing! Don't reinforce by laughing!"

That's a good question re: learned v. innate. I am reasonably sure it's not part of Ekman's eight universal emotional expressions (which are innate and demonstrated even by infants cross-culturally), so I'm guessing it's learned? Although it seems to be a pretty common behavior, at least with kids in the US?
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Old 12-03-2011, 10:45 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Haha! I know, it's like "don't reinforce by laughing! Don't reinforce by laughing!"

That's a good question re: learned v. innate. I am reasonably sure it's not part of Ekman's eight universal emotional expressions (which are innate and demonstrated even by infants cross-culturally), so I'm guessing it's learned? Although it seems to be a pretty common behavior, at least with kids in the US?
Ya wanna REALLY tick them off? When you respond back to them, roll your eyes back at them. Oh they HATE that! At least mine did!
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Old 12-03-2011, 10:45 AM
 
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back talk = back hand, just once, well placed to get their attention.
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Old 12-03-2011, 10:48 AM
 
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Ya wanna REALLY tick them off? When you respond back to them, roll your eyes back at them. Oh they HATE that! At least mine did!
Haha! I like it!
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Old 12-03-2011, 11:04 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Haha! I like it!
When I'd do it, I'd do it REALLY dramatically....so they knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that yes....yes, I WAS making fun of them. It's amazing how that drives into them, just how obvious it really is. "I WASN'T rolling my eyes at you!" "Oh...yep, I beLIEVE you...and I'm not rolling my eyes at YOU either ***rooooooolllll***" ...now go do what I told you to do, and unless you've got some time to kill, doing some extra chores, I'd advise you to learn how to control your face and tongue."
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Old 12-03-2011, 02:28 PM
 
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Is eye-rolling an innate behavior or is it learned?
Definitely learned. It's a type of non-verbal communication. Eye rolling expresses something specific in our culture. (Though other cultures may have it because of TV and movies.) But no child knows what eye rolling means until it is taught to him by someone else. (Or he/she just picks up on it from being exposed to it.)
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