U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Happy Easter!
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Parenting
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 12-18-2011, 11:49 AM
 
3,287 posts, read 4,938,689 times
Reputation: 6046

Advertisements

My very smart niece excelled at a very mediocre high school, did great on her SAT's and had diverse community service and internships. Bottom line, she earned a full ride to an Ivy League college and is now a happy, successful young adult. I know this won't happen for everyone but I tell it just so you'll have some hope.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 12-18-2011, 01:55 PM
 
5,210 posts, read 8,809,237 times
Reputation: 5865
Pick up an SAT study guide and see how much of the information your son already knows. Ex: If he has had algebra at school, he should be able to answer all of the questions about algebra. If he has been writing papers at school, he should be able to write a decent essay.

As far as the homework goes, have him sit at the dining room table, away from all of the electronics and have him complete the work to your standards. Ex: If he is giving sloppy one word answers to history questions, have him erase and rewrite the answers in complete sentences (in his own words).

It'll be good practice for him even if it doesn't effect his homework grade.

Last edited by springfieldva; 12-18-2011 at 02:13 PM..
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-19-2011, 07:36 AM
 
11,230 posts, read 9,231,004 times
Reputation: 14654
Quote:
Originally Posted by asdfqwerty View Post
Hello. My son is currently in 9th grade and I'm pretty worried. He goes to a suburban school that's supposed to be "academically rigorous", but I learned that his school is a complete breeze. He NEVER has homework and spends obscene amounts of time on the computer, often playing Civilization 4. He barely studies and is able to coast by with straight A's. When I confront him about his work ethic, he always brings up his grades, saying that they're great. I've seen him operate-he does his homework extremely quickly with no regard to accuracy, quality, or neatness. But the teachers choose to grade it on COMPLETION, meaning he just has to write scribbles and will get full credit. He often gets grades in the 80-89% range on simple tests involving just memorization and I know he can do better than that. Despite getting B's on the tests, he still gets A's due to stupid homework completion grades. I can't believe how they call his classes "Honors" when you can just scribble down random answers for homework and barely study for tests and still get an A. I am scared about how my son will survive college when they won't take this BS. And this "completion mindset" isn't going to fly in the real world.

We've tried forcing him to study for a measly 90 minutes a day, but he finds ways to sneak around it by playing with his Nintendo DS under his textbook. I have ZERO support from the teachers, who say he's "doing great", even though they've never actually seen his homework and just do cursory completion checks. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

I would be WAY more concerned about his crap education that his "work ethic". He is right, why SHOULD he study? Get hims somewhere NOW where they won't accept this bs.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-19-2011, 07:56 AM
 
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
9,486 posts, read 13,344,036 times
Reputation: 19912
Quote:
Originally Posted by cleasach View Post
Seems like OP isn't quite as clever as s/he would like us to believe, lol.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-19-2011, 09:39 AM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
16,469 posts, read 33,425,465 times
Reputation: 15198
Quote:
Originally Posted by asdfqwerty View Post
Well, the DS has already been sold, but he has friends who lend him theirs. As for his computer, it's been taken away, but his sibling lets him use theirs when I'm not looking.
Remove ALL Nintendos from your house. Then start making him try new hobbies and activities. Eventually, he will find things that he will enjoy doing. Your son needs to find interests that he is passionate about pursuing. And don't place an emphasis on him finding interests that have to turn into money making ones.

And have him do things that have him making new friends (of all ages) and ones that aren't addicted to Nintendo.

Another suggestion is to find him volunteer work to participate in. Helping out at an animal shelter, wildlife rescue or senior home. He will resist at first, but you have to be the parent and the one in charge.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-19-2011, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
24,718 posts, read 59,596,711 times
Reputation: 26823
GEt some ACT and SAT test samples. See how he does. If he is learning what he needs to know, then he is probably OK. I have a daughter in college who does not even buy the book sometimes and still gets As She had aterm paper due today. Last night she asked to use my computer to do the research. Still she will get an A on it. She always does. It is a decent college. Some people just fly through certain subjects.

I almost never did any homework when I was in high school. At first I got poor grades, but once I figured out how to work the system, I got As. I struggled in college at first until I realized that I actaulyl had to work. It was a difficult transition, but evnetually I did fine.

You need to find something to challenge him or he will get bored and do stupid things (like I did - making explosives in the basement for example) Can you get him into a hobby? (Band, dram, sports, chess club, service club - anything). Give him a focus.

One of my sons was like this, did nto work, bored at school, nothing but computers - could not get him to go outside. At first he got good grades, but then they started to slump. Then he got into crew. It gave him a focus and drive. Now he works out every day and does his homework becuase his teammate get on him about it. HE has to keep his grades up (3.0 or better) to stay on the team. Suddenly he is getitng all As again.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 12-19-2011, 09:56 AM
 
Location: tampa bay
6,449 posts, read 6,460,651 times
Reputation: 9482
This is a troll post...last time the OP was the kid...this post he's the parent!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Parenting
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2018, Advameg, Inc.

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top