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View Poll Results: Do you cover your kids eyes at the movies?
Yes 6 20.69%
No 23 79.31%
Voters: 29. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 01-11-2012, 04:47 PM
 
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Do realize that many of the parents who do monitor the movies their kids watch, also have parental controls on their computers? There is a difference between an underage child taking it upon themselves to sneak around and satisfy a curiosity....while it's a whole different matter to CONDONE and contribute to it. By not monitoring or censoring what underage children watch, and watching "age inappropriate" movies with them, you are condoning the behavior..placing your stamp of approval on the material.
This is a really interesting topic! I can see why someone would want to use parental controls, especially with a 15yo whom you tend to supervise less than say a 10 year old. But on the flip side, I wonder if you (one, someone not YOU) are missing out on some teachable moments and discussions. One movie that immediately comes to mind as one I would not let me kids see is Deliverance. Is it what you mean by censoring to simply say "No honey, you can't watch that. It has some extremely disturbing scenes and themes. I still get nauseous when I think about it, and I watched it 20 years ago." I am in agreement that that is what a parent is about, if that is what you mean.

The condone thing. I wonder what I would think about my kid seeking out porn. I should start thinking on that now, since it is not that far around the corner!

But the parental controls on the computer are dead necessary for keeping the unwanted stuff form popping up. I don't want my child googling cinderalla and coming up with a fantasy porn!



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It is none of my business if other parents allow it. It IS however, my business, how I raise my own children. I never have and never will, allow anyone else's opinions, dictate how I choose to raise my own children.
Why would someone else having some thoughts in any way imply desire to dictate anything to you? I will never understand why that always comes up on boards. If I say, I think that kids should be allowed to watch whatever they want uncensored (which I don't! I actually have not formed my opinion on this one at all, purely hypothetical.) I don't see how that somehow says that I am telling YOU what to do with YOUR family? For all you know, I could be completely full of bunk. But it seems that that is what a lot of people think. I don't get it.
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Old 01-11-2012, 06:48 PM
 
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Why would someone else having some thoughts in any way imply desire to dictate anything to you? I will never understand why that always comes up on boards. If I say, I think that kids should be allowed to watch whatever they want uncensored (which I don't! I actually have not formed my opinion on this one at all, purely hypothetical.) I don't see how that somehow says that I am telling YOU what to do with YOUR family? For all you know, I could be completely full of bunk. But it seems that that is what a lot of people think. I don't get it.
You took the thoughts right out of my head. Would someone please answer this? I've seen this in other threads as well as this one and it confuses me every time.
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Old 01-11-2012, 06:50 PM
 
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You took the thoughts right out of my head. Would someone please answer this? I've seen this in other threads as well as this one and it confuses me every time.
I just got hammered hard with this and the I know the one right way in another thread. Darned frustrating to not be able to discuss the point at hand.
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Old 01-11-2012, 07:16 PM
 
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I wouldn't cover my DD's eyes at a movie I have taken her to because by the time I decided to take her to the movie, I would know what it is about. If something unexpected came up in a movie, I would talk to her about it later. As an example, I took her to see Up when she was 5. After the movie, she asked me why I was starting to cry during the black and white scenes (where the wife finds out she can't have kids). I used that as a good opening to explain to her that I was told at one time that I wouldn't be able to have kids and that she was my miracle baby. Then we went more into an age appropriate discussion on how kids are made.

She will cover her own eyes if we are watching a TV show and suddenly there is blood. She doesn't want to see that, so she asks me to tell her when that is over. There have also been times when I am watching a movie, she wanders into the living room after bed time and I quickly have to change the channel or shut off the TV. That is because I was watching alone or with DH and I know some of these things aren't appropriate for her.

Personally, I loved the books and am planning on going to see the movie, but I don't think I will ever watch it with her even when she is 40. There are just some things you can't watch with your kids or your parents.
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