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Old 01-05-2012, 11:36 AM
 
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An adult doesn't "have to" do anything. You and txt are free to post whatever you want, but there will be consequences like comments of disapproval from mom and grandma. You can decide to deal with the comments and disapproval, or you can choose to censor yourself because showing off to your friends isn't worth the drama of dealing with the nay sayers.
Or you can choose to use security features.

BUT what I cannot understand is why one would want to do and be someone that they would need to hide from the people close to them.


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I used to post a lot of political stuff. They sometimes resulted in pissing matches between my MIL and I or a couple friends and I.
We call that FUN in our house!

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One of the "friends" deleted me, which is fine. But I'm stuck with my MIL. I decided it isn't worth the drama and raised blood pressure, so I've cut back quite a bit. this person will be part of my life for the next 20+ years. I know her feelings. She knows mine. I'd rather not discuss it with her.
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Old 01-05-2012, 11:44 AM
 
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Or you can choose to use security features.

BUT what I cannot understand is why one would want to do and be someone that they would need to hide from the people close to them.



We call that FUN in our house!


Lists are your friends.
Gawd, it was NOT fun! It still makes me mad to think about it. It's not like I asked for her opinion specifically!

I don't know what it is like to be a 20-something with FB. We didn't have it. I do know my mom didn't "like" the 22 year old "me" and I probably would have caught a lot of crap from her. But I don't know how much I would have been posting about... whatever... drinking, etc. What is there to say about it?

I also know that FB etiquette isn't all about age either. I have a group of relatives that are my age (late 30's), and the mom in her 60's that post the most inappropriate crap. It is unbelievable. I mean stuff that is not for public consumption no matter who you are or what age, like a facebook post about coming home and finding your wife and kids moved out that escalated into accusing one of being pregnant by someone other than her husband!
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Old 01-05-2012, 11:49 AM
 
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I mean stuff that is not for public consumption no matter who you are or what age, like a facebook post about coming home and finding your wife and kids moved out that escalated into accusing one of being pregnant by someone other than her husband!
Ah I guess I don't agree with you. Appropriate is in the eye of the reader not the sayer. If you don't like what you are seeing, hide it.
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Old 01-05-2012, 11:52 AM
 
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Ah I guess I don't agree with you. Appropriate is in the eye of the reader not the sayer. If you don't like what you are seeing, hide it.
In most cases, yes. I said that in an earlier post. There is no way, ever, for anyone that it is ok to go on facbook and say "Jane Doe wasn't even sure John Doe was the father of the baby until she was born." Maybe that's Jane's problem for letting the poster in on that secret in the first place...

Hiding it from MY view doesn't help in this situation. It is still out there for the world to see. My problem isn't that I'm reading it. The problem is someone actually spread that info for hundreds of people to see.
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Old 01-05-2012, 11:53 AM
 
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Regarding 'folks over 40' not knowing what they are doing.....many of the current generation fail to realize which generation(people) created the internet, which ones have been there since the beginning and which ones also have a deep understanding of the inner workings. I'm 52 and have been internet savvy for more years than some of the posters have been alive here.....just sayin'...something to think about. :-)
I am finding the over 40 comments amusing. Way back in the stone age when you needed a phone line to get onto the internet I was there. Most of these 20 somethings were toddlers but they are lecturing me about not knowing what I am doing. Funny right?
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Old 01-05-2012, 11:55 AM
 
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I don't think it's that cut and dry. What if someone's parents are exceptionally more conservative than they are? Are you saying that person should have to censor themselves on their own FB page?
When you are an adult you shouldn't have to hide things from your parents (or anyone). If you are living life hiding things from your parents then you have a problem whether it is on FB or not. You need to grow up and stand up for yourself.
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Old 01-05-2012, 11:57 AM
 
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Ah I guess I don't agree with you. Appropriate is in the eye of the reader not the sayer. If you don't like what you are seeing, hide it.
Sounds like you OWN what you decide to post. Which is a GOOD thing!

This is such a weird thread to me.

Why do people post something then complain (some MUCH more than others) about having to deal with the consequences? I really don't get that part.
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Old 01-05-2012, 11:57 AM
 
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I am finding the over 40 comments amusing. Way back in the stone age when you needed a phone line to get onto the internet I was there. Most of these 20 somethings were toddlers but they are lecturing me about not knowing what I am doing. Funny right?
ha ha! We had a really long phone cord my dad would run from the outlet in the kitchen! I better not need to call home for a ride because I wouldn't be able to get through.
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Old 01-05-2012, 11:58 AM
 
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When you are an adult you shouldn't have to hide things from your parents (or anyone). If you are living life hiding things from your parents then you have a problem whether it is on FB or not. You need to grow up and stand up for yourself.
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Old 01-05-2012, 12:04 PM
 
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What does "have to" mean? Once you are a grown person, there is precious little you "have to" do. If someone is more conservative than I am, that is there problem when reading what I have to say. I would not change myself or what I think simply because my mother thinks differently. My ultra conservative SIL comments on my ultra liberal posts all the time.
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An adult doesn't "have to" do anything. You and txt are free to post whatever you want, but there will be consequences like comments of disapproval from mom and grandma. You can decide to deal with the comments and disapproval, or you can choose to censor yourself because showing off to your friends isn't worth the drama of dealing with the nay sayers.

I used to post a lot of political stuff. They sometimes resulted in pissing matches between my MIL and I or a couple friends and I. One of the "friends" deleted me, which is fine. But I'm stuck with my MIL. I decided it isn't worth the drama and raised blood pressure, so I've cut back quite a bit. this person will be part of my life for the next 20+ years. I know her feelings. She knows mine. I'd rather not discuss it with her.
I don't disagree, which is why it's a lot easier to just say "mom, I would rather not add you as a friend on FB" or "no Mom, you can't follow me on twitter"
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