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Old 01-06-2012, 09:54 AM
 
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Odd situation all around, but the neighbor is most likely mad as he wanted to remain anonymous out of fear of being the "bad guy" in the eyes of the father and the teen son. He contacted you to intervene because he knew your kid was at the party and hence you had a vested interest and line on information about what was going on. He most likely was trying to make a point without having to make it himself. I understand why he would be perturbed, but overall everyone seems to be working towards doing the right thing.

If I was you and talking to the mom, I would have left the neighbors name out of it and relayed the information in a way that wouldn't implicate anyone. Some people are nosey, but they want to be nosey in private.
Exactly!! I think he wanted things known minus his name!!i. I am not even sure his name was mentioned though but he knows everyone's business

I don't think it will happen ever again!
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Old 01-06-2012, 10:08 AM
 
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My opinion is you should stop worrying about the neighbor and put all that energy into making sure your son isn't hangin' at a house where everyone knows the kids are sneaking alcohol.
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Old 01-06-2012, 01:39 PM
 
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My opinion is you should stop worrying about the neighbor and put all that energy into making sure your son isn't hangin' at a house where everyone knows the kids are sneaking alcohol.
My thoughts exactly! Everyone should be thanking their lucky stars that something didn't occur that ended up with legal action being taken against all involved.
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Old 01-09-2012, 12:19 PM
 
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Tough to get the facts straight here:

Neighbor's son had a party while Mom was out of town, and Dad didn't supervise. A different neighbor told you about the party, and you passed on the info to the Mom of the host, and let her know your source, who is upset you broke what he felt was a confidence? Not sure what the SIL has to do with anything?

Who do you consider nosy? The neighbor who is mad you outed as your confidential source?

Teen parties where alcohol is consumed frequently turn out badly, not just for the teens and the homeowners, but also for neighbors, the parents of the attendees and anybody who might be on the road afterwards. There should be no assumption of privacy. I don't think the "nosy" neighbor was out of line at all, nor do I think you did anything wrong by letting the mother know.

The only ones in the wrong were the teens, and to a degree, the Dad who wasn't keeping an eye on things. A crime was being committed. I think the real parenting issue is whether or not neighbors have the duty to let parents know what there kids are up to. In this case, I think they do.
Very nice!
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