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Old 01-12-2012, 09:45 PM
 
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When I pick up my son from school after I get off work, it is straight home and then homework first before he can have a snack and then he can play, after we get him out of his school uniform, if he doesn't have karate classes. I guess I am a mean mom...
Since kids come home from school hungry, I'd opt to a snack while doing homework instead.

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Remember Hopes these girls are only 9 and homework does not take hours like high school. I'm not using food as reward or punishment. It is all a matter of our schedule and timeline.
It was the "before they could eat dinner" part that was troublesome.

You made it sound like they didn't get to eat dinner if they didn't get their homework done.
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Old 01-12-2012, 09:57 PM
 
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When they pay for 'em.
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Old 01-13-2012, 04:47 AM
 
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Since kids come home from school hungry, I'd opt to a snack while doing homework instead.


It was the "before they could eat dinner" part that was troublesome.

You made it sound like they didn't get to eat dinner if they didn't get their homework done.
valid point. I could have worded this part better.
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Old 01-13-2012, 05:08 AM
 
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Thin does not equate to healthy. Just reading a few of the posts, the message seemed to be that parents were thrilled their kids were thin and while overweight is a problem so can being thin. I see kids walk by our house everyday from the middle school. Some are so heavy they basically have to throw 1/2 of their body forward just to move forward and others thin and pale so extremes are bad. We have always had healthy snacks so letting them choose their own was not a problem from the shelves at home.
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Old 01-13-2012, 06:42 AM
 
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Thin does not equate to healthy. Just reading a few of the posts, the message seemed to be that parents were thrilled their kids were thin and while overweight is a problem so can being thin. I see kids walk by our house everyday from the middle school. Some are so heavy they basically have to throw 1/2 of their body forward just to move forward and others thin and pale so extremes are bad. We have always had healthy snacks so letting them choose their own was not a problem from the shelves at home.
I think this is a great point. Developing healthy eating habits is worth being a goal in and of itself, regardless of body type or weight, IMO.
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Old 01-13-2012, 07:05 AM
 
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Question why did you ask her a question you knew the answer to? Now you have to deal with a lie AND the homework. While she should not have lied, why set her up?
I am not the OP but I can answer for myself. We ask the question because we want to see what the child will say. Believe it or not kids don't ALWAYS lie.

Given the experience of lying and the consequences my kids usually tell the truth now that they are older. They know better than to dig themselves deeper into the hole that they created.

It is interesting to notice that kids usually rise/fall to your expectations. If you expect them to lie they will. If you expect them to tell the truth they usually (not always) will.
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Old 01-14-2012, 09:14 AM
 
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I always had healthy snacks in my home, fresh fruit, veggies, milk, cereal. I hardly ever had junk food, ice cream, cake, even soda. So, my kids were sort of forced to pick a healthy choice, because that is all there was...although, I did sometimes have to "educate" my daughter, that while a PBJ sandwich was "healthy", maybe an apple was a better choice, if she did not want to weigh 300 pounds. It is all about balance.
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Old 01-14-2012, 09:19 AM
 
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I have had friends with anorexic kids and I know alot of that problem has to do with control issues.

I have a 9 year old we are having some food issues with. She has a great metabolism, is even skinny, will eat anything put in front of her and is learning how to cook. She does however dawdle over her meals and if we have the small TV on in the kitchen for breakfast - I like to see the news shows- she ends up watching TV and doesn't eat all her breakfast. Oh I know- turn the TV off you say but I enjoy the news and she must learn everything is not geared towards her.

She seems to be in her own world even with the TV off and I'm saying "Come on, eat".

When they come home from school, I have a healthy snack out for them, baby carrots/celery with dip or dressing, fresh fruit, healthy crackers. Inevitable she wants "Something else" which usually means chips which we rarely have on hand but if she knows they are there, she really wants them.

I don't like harping at kids especially at the table. I don't want to set us up for food conflicts.

Do you let your kids this age just go in and get whatever they want whenever they want? i can't remember having this problem with my other FIVE kids. Maybe we did but I've got selective memory.
Mom.........How will your child learn "everything isn't geared towards Her" if you don't. Turn off the TV, talk w/ her. Make mealtimes family times....
And, choices should start early. Give only couple options, you may have this, or this. Too many choices are overload for little kids. Just like choosing clothes, etc. Give 2 choices...
And talk to your kids, that is the biggest issue for the longest time, communication.....Teach it by doing it......news can wait.
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Old 01-14-2012, 11:01 AM
 
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Well, I must say, when I had little kids, no tv during any meals. It sure made everything go much smoother, especially mornings.
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Old 01-14-2012, 11:30 AM
 
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Since kids come home from school hungry, I'd opt to a snack while doing homework instead.


It was the "before they could eat dinner" part that was troublesome.

You made it sound like they didn't get to eat dinner if they didn't get their homework done.
They have snack time 45 mins prior to being released from the day (morning snack, lunch, then afternoon snack). He can mange another 15mins after school to do homework first before getting a snack Besides, if he eats first, he completely forgets about his homework and homework in our household comes first. (His father and I both work full time jobs and are in college full time as well)
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