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Old 01-17-2012, 04:32 PM
 
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Oh lord did i reply in that one too ? ~having a blond moment~....and i'm not blond.
LOL
We all were involved in that one.

Anyways, if they believed in god, I would be ok with that, deep down I wouldn't be happy but I am a whatever floats your boat kind of person so I could accept it and respect them in their decisions.

Now, however, if like you said they went a total 180 then I would have a little bit more of an issue, like the whole quiverful and mennonite or whatever it is.....I would SERIOUSLY deep down hate hate hate hate hate it but I wouldn't say anything to them, same as anything middle eastern, if they started with the whole headscarves, women aren't equal crap, or if they went fundamentalist anything, I'm pretty sure I'd die a bit inside each day.
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Old 01-17-2012, 04:34 PM
 
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How upset would you be with them? And i mean a 180 sort of situation, not they switch churches sort of deal. They become pagan, or Islamic, or Hindu
I think it is wasted energy to be angry with someone because of their own beliefs. You cannot will another person to have the same religious beliefs that you have.

I would be upset if my children were involved with a group that I thought was unhealthy (like a cult), but I can live with my kids having religious beliefs that are different from my own.
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Old 01-17-2012, 04:37 PM
 
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like the whole quiverful and mennonite or whatever it is....
"Quiverfulls" and Mennonites are NOT the same.
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Old 01-17-2012, 04:39 PM
 
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Quiverfulls and Mennonites are NOT the same. At all.
Never said it was...
I know the duggars are quiverful and I could not cope watching grandchildren have to live that way.
And I was watching Wife Swap last night and one family was like SUPER mennonite and they had the whole no pants for women, women belong in the kitchen crap going on....
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Old 01-17-2012, 04:41 PM
 
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Is there a way to write a will that the kiddie gets nothing if he becomes atheist?
Congrats, you brought up the evil atheists. Now we just need someone to bring up the evil Mooslems and we'll be on track.
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Old 01-17-2012, 04:45 PM
 
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Congrats, you brought up the evil atheists. Now we just need someone to bring up the evil Mooslems and we'll be on track.
Mooslems?
That's awesome.
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Old 01-17-2012, 04:46 PM
 
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I don't have children (nor am I a religious person)... but I'd be okay with my future children to follow a religious path that they see fit for themselves, given that their belief doesn't attack my belief.
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Old 01-17-2012, 04:53 PM
 
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I honestly don't plan on exposing my children to religion at all.
I am pretty sure I will get asked one day some questions because they heard kids at school but I will simply tell them that some people believe, some people don't and don't believe ANYTHING till you have concrete proof, which there is none, which is why I don't believe.

Maybe I am horrible for this but I really hope my kids stay atheist/agnostic like I am.
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Old 01-17-2012, 05:32 PM
 
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I honestly don't plan on exposing my children to religion at all.
I am pretty sure I will get asked one day some questions because they heard kids at school but I will simply tell them that some people believe, some people don't and don't believe ANYTHING till you have concrete proof, which there is none, which is why I don't believe.

Maybe I am horrible for this but I really hope my kids stay atheist/agnostic like I am.
Concrete proof would no longer make it just a belief. Just sayin.'
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Old 01-17-2012, 06:14 PM
 
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I think as long as a person (my child or anyone else) commits to a path, and it was a commitment done freely and because of no reason other than the belief system helped them be a better person, then that is their decision.

If my son were to tell me he is agnostic, I would assume that at some point, he would figure out that there is a higher power at work in the universe, so I would keep my mouth shut and only discuss the matter if he asked questions.

If he were to say he is an atheist, I would feel I had failed him in some major way. But other than blaming myself for failing, it would have no effect on our relationship. I would just do a lot of praying that something would occur to open his eyes to an awareness and a personal relationship with what I believe is a "higher intelligence" that is active in the universe.

Espousing an organized religion is not as important to me as knowing my child is a spiritual person. To have him miss out on that would break my heart, as spirituality is at the very core of our humanity.
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