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Old 01-21-2012, 08:30 AM
 
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Please remember that this is the Parenting forum, not Religion. The topic is about your children changing religions.
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Old 01-21-2012, 09:23 AM
 
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If he were to say he is an atheist, I would feel I had failed him in some major way.
I'm so sorry you feel that way. I'm an atheist. My children all decided to go the atheist route as well. Lack of belief in a god has not stunted our ability to love others, do good things, and feel connected to the natural world. I actually wish everyone could experience the freedom and joy that comes with atheism. But I guess I can understand your sentiment, because if my kids had turned to a fundamentalist religion, I would probably ask myself where I went wrong.
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Old 01-21-2012, 09:55 AM
 
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If he were to say he is an atheist, I would feel I had failed him in some major way.
I think my Mom felt that way too. Worse was when I became a Unitarian Universalist. She had some pretty uninformed opinions about them. Until my nephew actually swayed her. Now she is a non believer as well.

Now she could not care less. She is just proud that I and my siblings are good people.
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Old 01-21-2012, 04:53 PM
 
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If my daughter changed her belief system, I would be glad she had learned enough from me to think for herself. And be happy that she was comfortable enough to tell me. Aside from that I would not care.
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Old 01-21-2012, 05:24 PM
 
Location: Southern NC
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I would be devastated if my kids changed beliefs.
We are an Atheist family, and I would be shocked if they suddenly started believing in Gods.
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Old 01-21-2012, 07:02 PM
 
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I would be devastated if my kids changed beliefs.
We are an Atheist family, and I would be shocked if they suddenly started believing in Gods.
I predict this will be applauded here.
If it were vice versa, the criticism would go on for pages.
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Old 01-21-2012, 10:12 PM
 
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I wouldn't care if my child changed religion. Religion is supposed to be something special and personal to each person. Me trying to dictate what my child believes in goes against what most religions are supposed to be about, IMHO.

I once went to church with a friend who wanted me to see what her church is like (We are of different faiths) and her pastor stated something along the lines of how you are not supposed to get people to follow your faith through force or by words, but by your actions. He said that your actions will lead more people to seek the lifestyle you choose versus the words and force you try to impose on people
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Old 01-21-2012, 10:31 PM
 
Location: Jersey
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We are open to any sort of belief. Me and DH kind of jump around on what we believe and we also dont believe the same things. My son is introduced to many different things, in our library we have The Gospel According To Judas, Paganism for Dummies, Witchcraft for Dummies, A Book of Shadows, A Demon Dictionary, A Bible, Christ the Lord out of Egypt and a couple more. We dont limit his choices, he can be who he wants to be. He may be my child but he isnt me and thus is afforded the right to decide for himself.
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Old 01-22-2012, 12:51 AM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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So, all Lutherans do that. I just thought my parents church (the one I was raised in) simply practiced their own form of "strange", lol.

In defense of the Lutherans though, a lot of the Protestant churches do the whole potlock, social gathering thing. My parents briefly became Episcopalean do to better roast beef and spaghetti dinners, lol. I've tried to convince them that quality of potlock dinners is not what one should base their religious beliefs on, but they just don't listen. I swear if they didn't have an aversion to matzo, they might have even had a brief go at Judaism.

My wife who was raised Catholic found a lot of things in the Protestant churches to be odd. She didn't want to go to church to socialize and eat Ms. Betty's string bean casserole. She wanted to go, be told what a horrible sinner she was, get doused in incense and holy water, eat some Jesus, pay her tithe and be on her way, lol.
Thanks for defending us! We are all very involved with our wonderfully sane and reasonable religion.

To answer the question, I would not be thrilled, especially if it was Fundamentalist Christian, or Roman Catholic. Churches that think of them selves as "the one true Church" and do not ordain women or celebrate an open table inviting all Christians to partake of communion strike me as arrogant. I am fully aware that there are many good people who are Catholic (perhaps there are some nice born again Christians, but their political beliefs would be so divergent from ours, that I doubt that they would even think of such a thing, or of any religion that is legalistic and not inclusive.

Episcopalian and Methodist are quite close to Lutheran, and that would not be so bad.
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Old 01-22-2012, 10:55 AM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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I wouldn't care if my child changed religion. Religion is supposed to be something special and personal to each person. Me trying to dictate what my child believes in goes against what most religions are supposed to be about, IMHO.

I once went to church with a friend who wanted me to see what her church is like (We are of different faiths) and her pastor stated something along the lines of how you are not supposed to get people to follow your faith through force or by words, but by your actions. He said that your actions will lead more people to seek the lifestyle you choose versus the words and force you try to impose on people
I agree with this, 1000%. We're exposing our kids to all kinds of religious institutions and will support them in whatever they choose, including agnosticism or atheism. We won't be thrilled with anything cultish or super rigidly fundamentalist, but ultimately, it is their own choice, not ours. As long as they are behaving morally and ethically, I have no right to try to dictate their personal beliefs.
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