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Old 02-23-2012, 03:11 PM
Location: Austin
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Originally Posted by GraniteStater View Post
You are very misguided if you think that. Most people are childless these days because it costs so much to raise a child and their wages are not increasing as fast as inflation. It is not selfish at all to look after one's one interests first before ever thinking about reproducing. Period. Also, DINKS and singles subsidize the costs for those that have large families who consume more resources.
The high cost of child rearing was one of my Top Three Reasons to be CBC, and the same is true for my S.O. Both of us would make exemplary parents, but we would also be on the verge of broke! Not to mention, we wouldn't have been able to save up for our own retirement, placing that financial burden on our (hypothetical) children. Of course, this wasn't the only reason we are CBC, but it is, as I say, a HUGE factor in our decision.

I commend the parents here who are perfectly OK with their CBC children's decision. My own mother (my father has passed away) wasn't although I've accomplished more in my lifetime than most people ever will, she still believes that I won't be happy until I have a "little baby to love." It breaks my heart that she thinks that my life is so worthless, but bringing a child into this world so she can be a grandmother, or because she thinks this is "best" for me, is not a valid reason to become a parent. The older I get, the more relieved I am that I'm CBC, and the same is true for my S.O. We're financially stable (yeah!), have great careers, an extended family of like-minded CBC friends, and have quality time together (and apart). I've never felt that there was anything "missing" from my life.
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Old 02-24-2012, 05:54 PM
Location: IN
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Originally Posted by JustJulia View Post
I don't know. I think the majority of people who choose to be childless do so because they don't want children, not because they want them but can't afford it. Although ... I can see some having the mindset that they don't want children yet and thus do not have them at the moment.

I agree with this.

Likewise, people with children subsidize health care costs for the aging population by spreading risk across a broader population. The majority of health care costs come from seniors, not children.
I read information that indicated that the birth rate has continued to decline for several years in a row, likely due to the recession so it will be interesting to see what happens in the next few years. You could be correct that some people might be waiting longer to have children due to financial reasons or job security concerns.
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Old 02-27-2012, 06:43 AM
Location: Lehigh Valley, PA
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I told my mother when I was in my early twenties that I didn't want to have children.
She was OK with it.
I'm an only child.
Now I'm 45 and the feelings have not changed.
My wife and I have always been in full agreement on this.

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Old 02-27-2012, 10:10 PM
Location: Outer Space
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Whatever she wants to do with her life. I'd rather her have no kids than 5 with 4 deadbeat fathers.
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