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Thank you guys for everything! Everyone of you had great views and points on every post.It really did help.I don't know everything,(even as moms we think we do sometimes) and I know thats okay.And this was a great learning experience for me and for my child I think. And I couldn't have done it without yall!!
I think this thread is absolutely amazing and I do mean that in a good way, the different ways we all parent. Seems that if we all had kids that were all a like we would be one boring world. Some childrens personalities require a firm manner others can get the message with a bit of communications.
That's pretty easy to figure out. It's that the slammer is not secure in their own beliefs and, therefore, any opinion that is contrary to their own is perceived as a threat. Hence the slam in retaliation.
I was not the one who is slamming ..It was Miborn that HAD to mention my name and say "that is not parenting". How would you react?
I am proud and VERY SECURE of the way I parent. I have three good children. One who is now 18 and is attending college. I have a 16 year old, very happy, autistic child and I have a 9 year old who is doing very well in school.
Don't judge the way I parent. The original poster wanted an opinion and I gave it to her AND I did not "BASH" anyone elses opinion.
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sandlovertoo: I think that you did a truly wonderful job with your daughter. I just now came across your post and the many responses. I am so glad that you had a good talk together. And that is the most important part: together.
Communication between parent and child is number one in my book. No matter what we think happens when our children are away from us, be it at a party, shopping, wherever and whatever, you have to trust.
Without trust, nothing else really matters. She now KNOWS how you feel and how you will respond when the time comes again that she slips, and she very well may. I agree with your remark about not having a book of instructions on parenting. Maybe some of us should get together and write one for all new moms and dads. I know that there are books concerning parenting, but all cases have just that little bit of difference that would make a general handbook lacking in something.
My youngest son did a few things that I know that now that he is a dad, he would be upset if ever his son repeated his misadventures. I have always loved and respected my sons unconditionally. They have both known that no matter what, they could and can come to me and I will listen. If, and only if, they want my advice, would I offer it. I want to be the one constant that they have in their lives. They both have/had significant others and this is a good thing and they both have children and that is wonderful. Now I am a grandmother and that is a wonderful thing to be.
Long story here, I am aware, but just wanted you to know how thankful your daughter is and will be, knowing that you are there to listen to her, no matter what. You have to be there, no matter what. Good going mom.
sandlovertoo: I think that you did a truly wonderful job with your daughter. I just now came across your post and the many responses. I am so glad that you had a good talk together. And that is the most important part: together.
Communication between parent and child is number one in my book. No matter what we think happens when our children are away from us, be it at a party, shopping, wherever and whatever, you have to trust.
Without trust, nothing else really matters. She now KNOWS how you feel and how you will respond when the time comes again that she slips, and she very well may. I agree with your remark about not having a book of instructions on parenting. Maybe some of us should get together and write one for all new moms and dads. I know that there are books concerning parenting, but all cases have just that little bit of difference that would make a general handbook lacking in something.
My youngest son did a few things that I know that now that he is a dad, he would be upset if ever his son repeated his misadventures. I have always loved and respected my sons unconditionally. They have both known that no matter what, they could and can come to me and I will listen. If, and only if, they want my advice, would I offer it. I want to be the one constant that they have in their lives. They both have/had significant others and this is a good thing and they both have children and that is wonderful. Now I am a grandmother and that is a wonderful thing to be.
Long story here, I am aware, but just wanted you to know how thankful your daughter is and will be, knowing that you are there to listen to her, no matter what. You have to be there, no matter what. Good going mom.
Thank you!We also need a pat on the back sometimes, and yall have done that for me.And for all the Mothers out there,Here's your pat!
well i would have to say its a little harsh all teens are going to experiment i would say maybe grounded for like 1 month and i would let her get her permit after shes ungrounded because thats something you can take away if she does something like this again lol after the groundation i would also cut down on the freedom i would ground from everything for a month then after that untill she can be trusted cut back on curfuee other freedoms like partys and such. but its really a matter of opion of what to do and you no your daughter best and wht would work best for her just remember what you did when you were a kid and all people make mistakes
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Now I am a grandmother and that is a wonderful thing to be. 
