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Old 02-06-2012, 06:53 AM
 
Location: 20 years from now
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Sorry my friend, we are going to have to agree to disagree.

Planning to have a child without a father for that child is the reckless action.

There's a reason it takes a man and a woman to create a child - God designed it that way.

In his plan every child would have a mother AND a father to love them.
I totally agree and I would rep you again if I could.

Personally OP, I think LMs is right...

However, I would agree with others that it's OK to have a child w/o being married as long as the right amenities are in place. Remember a child can have a father without his parents being married. IMO ideally they should be married, but men can still be fathers without it nonetheless

Since you really don't have any marriage prospects in mind, do you know of a man who is interested in having a child with you who could still be a father and take on half the responsibilities without being in a relationship?
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:00 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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I understand you exactly OP. I'm 34 and have one child but want another. But seems relationships aren't my for-ta.
Think about adoption. So many children that deserve a good mom full of love.
I hereby volunteer my services to help you make that 2nd child Raena!!!!!!!!
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:06 AM
 
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If she can afford to have a child and raise that child alone, why the hell shouldn't she be able to??
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:33 AM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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The red flag for me is your first statement that you have been "fantasizing" about having a child. Children are not fantasies to be put away when you find something else that interests you more. At 33 you really don't have a clue what you are wanting to get into alone without the support of a husband (and yes I said husband).

You need to think longer and harder about this before you do anything, children are a full time job when Mother and Father are both involved let alone when Mother or Father are raising them alone.
For the win. +1000
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:34 AM
 
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ADOPT.

But please, do not bring another fatherless child into this world on purpose. That's just selfish.

Dads are not disposable.

Huge reps to you.
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:36 AM
 
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I find it rather discouraging how irrelevant fathers appear to be as of late.........
Especially to the "family" courts...........
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:46 AM
 
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If she can afford to have a child and raise that child alone, why the hell shouldn't she be able to??
Because every child needs two parents.
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:48 AM
 
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Leave the woman alone! Not everybody wants to adopt! Most people who want children want their OWN children and there's nothing selfish in that.

If she wants a child and feels she can take care of him/her, there's nothing wrong with going for it. There are plenty of single mothers who used to be married. It's not like getting married is any guarantee. If anything, the father being in the picture only creates a bigger mess after the divorce.
I get it........just eliminate the middleman ahead of time. Saves a step or two.
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:49 AM
 
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Because every child needs two parents.
Says who?
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Old 02-06-2012, 08:50 AM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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There is no such thing as Mister Right...find someone reasonable - not to damned ugly or stupid and get on with it _ I don't see the problem.
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