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Old 07-03-2012, 01:56 PM
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Originally Posted by hml1976 View Post
Agreed and also maybe change your perspective, an 18yr old is a man not a boy and should act like one.
Funny, this is the first person that noticed that: what's up with all the folks treating 18, 25 and 30 yo as being still kids??? If you treat somebody like a kid he or she will never grow up.
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Old 07-04-2012, 09:38 AM
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As a step parent...you should MYOB. Stay out of it...unless asked....and when asked...bite your tongue...and say, "this is really something you need to discuss with him and his Mom.". Trust me...just listen...offer no advice.
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Old 07-04-2012, 10:49 AM
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I also read into this that perhaps the step-mom is behind wanting to cut financial "losses" with her husband's child . . .and this seems like a good excuse to do so.

Parents should assist their children in launching . . .and if that includes school and a car, then help out . . .

The issue of not returning calls - I can see where that would be upsetting . . .maybe some family therapy is in order . . .get everyone on the same page, develop a game plan, actually support the bio mom in her efforts, and make good on whatever "contract" you have agreed to so that the son may become educated.
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Old 07-04-2012, 11:13 AM
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In many states child support is mandated to either age 21 or 22 if in college. Providing a car might be the father's way of continuing to support his child's education.
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