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Old 02-10-2012, 07:55 AM
 
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No it's not a big deal, people blow the "you need to spend every instant with your infant" out of proportion". A small amount of disruption in her life is not going to have long lasting consequences.
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My mother and father left me when i was 4 weeks old for a week. I mean not all parents have the same bonding needs. Personally being a woman i find infants quite boring and can't understand the desire not to want to be away from them.
You're not a mother, though. You wouldn't know.
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Old 02-10-2012, 07:58 AM
 
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Way too young. I would wait until the child was at least three to four years old.
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Old 02-10-2012, 08:22 AM
 
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You're not a mother, though. You wouldn't know.
No but my sister is a doctor and she will tell you the same thing . As for the part about infants what can i say, i'm not real maternal.
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Old 02-10-2012, 08:27 AM
 
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No but my sister is a doctor and she will tell you the same thing . As for the part about infants what can i say, i'm not real maternal.
Your sister will tell me what--infants are boring? Newborns don't need their moms? It's normal to be disinterested in one's child? Sorry, I don't believe you.
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Old 02-10-2012, 09:07 AM
 
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My mother and father left me when i was 4 weeks old for a week. I mean not all parents have the same bonding needs. Personally being a woman i find infants quite boring and can't understand the desire not to want to be away from them.
You are not a mom. Someone can find infants boring, and still want to be around their own.

A mom even considering letting someone else take such a young baby makes me thing she must have postpartum depression. It is not normal to feel that way about your own child.
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Old 02-10-2012, 09:50 AM
 
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You are not a mom. Someone can find infants boring, and still want to be around their own.

A mom even considering letting someone else take such a young baby makes me thing she must have postpartum depression. It is not normal to feel that way about your own child.
I had ZERO interest in infants before I had my daughter. Once I had her, it was painful to be away from her even just to run to the store ... I even "missed" her when she was sleeping. I was BF'ing so being away wasn't really an option but even so - there is no way a new mom would entertain this offer unless something else was going on, like PPD. And if that is the case, OP's wife (gf?) should get help.

And I can't imagine that a DR would say this is ok, I'm pretty sure that if I had told this to my Dr - she would have sent me for a PPD consult pretty quick.
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Old 02-10-2012, 10:42 AM
 
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It's not too young to travel. I flew with my son when he was 5 weeks old (and my parents flew with me when I was that young too). The separation is some thing you need to be comfortable with. Two weeks is a long time away from a baby that young. Is there any way you could go too?
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Old 02-10-2012, 02:33 PM
 
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In my opinion, yes, that is too young. My husband and I had to go on a business trip when our daughter was 2 months old, and she stayed with my mother-in-law for 4 days. Trust me, I am never doing that again!!!I felt like I missed so much - she changed in those 4 days - learned how to put her little thumb in her mouth etc - and I wasn't there to see it first. I think your daughter needs her parents aka you and your husband much much more at this stage, then she needs to meet her relatives ( she won't even remember meeting your relatives at this stage ).
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Old 02-10-2012, 02:46 PM
 
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You're not a mother, though. You wouldn't know.
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You are not a mom. Someone can find infants boring, and still want to be around their own.

A mom even considering letting someone else take such a young baby makes me thing she must have postpartum depression. It is not normal to feel that way about your own child.
Couldnt agree more.

@ OP - yes 2 months is too young. Even if the misses were open to the idea, i sure as hell wouldnt!
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Old 02-10-2012, 02:53 PM
 
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Lucidkitty aside, seriously its obvious something else is going on here. I'm thinking you may be a very young mother and not bonding so well and so this doesn't seem like a big deal, but it is. These first few months are imperative for the bonding necessary for a truly loving relationships between parents and baby regardless of what "Lucidkitty" says. Have your relatives come to you....as they should naturally want to do. Or they need to arrange for you and the baby come to them if need be. Hopefully you will reach out to a mothers group for help in establishing your bond with this baby, or determine why it might be a little too easy to let the baby go away from you at this critical stage in its life. Something isn't passing the smell test here and I'm a little worried for you.
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