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Old 02-10-2012, 01:46 PM
 
Location: 89074
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I won't watch the video but they showed a clip of it on the news. It must have been embarrassing AND painful. The snow stinging his bare skin. My husband and I were in tears. Dads should be a rock for their sons. Lead by example, not videotaped torture.

And if I hear one more person try to use culture as an excuse. Please. Your culture dictates you act like an animal? I'm sure I'd be called a racist if I said child abuse is just "how those people act".
I don't think anyone is implying the cultural aspects are an excuse, just an explanation for those not familiar with Asia. Believe me, the approach is by no means accepted across the board; many people in China are outraged at this video.
Video of Chinese toddler sobbing in snow sparks outrage over parenting - CNN.com
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Old 02-10-2012, 02:07 PM
 
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Although by our standards this is like child abuse/neglect, remember that this family is visiting from China and their schooling & approach to childrearing is more militaristic & competitive. In their country 5 year olds may need to complete timed obstacle courses, sprints & gymnastic tricks to secure spots in top academies. In a country with 1.3 billion, it really is dog eat dog to get a piece of the pie.
Very well said.
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Old 02-10-2012, 02:21 PM
 
Location: Central, NJ
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I don't think anyone is implying the cultural aspects are an excuse, just an explanation for those not familiar with Asia. Believe me, the approach is by no means accepted across the board; many people in China are outraged at this video.
Video of Chinese toddler sobbing in snow sparks outrage over parenting - CNN.com
I should not have said "your culture" because I haven't heard any Chinese people saying this. Only other races saying 'eh, that's how they are'. Like this is some little nuance we should accept.
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Old 02-10-2012, 03:43 PM
 
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Although by our standards this is like child abuse/neglect, remember that this family is visiting from China and their schooling & approach to childrearing is more militaristic & competitive. In their country 5 year olds may need to complete timed obstacle courses, sprints & gymnastic tricks to secure spots in top academies. In a country with 1.3 billion, it really is dog eat dog to get a piece of the pie.

YIKES! What next? toddlers in the slalom skiing event half dressed?

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This is the best. Ran into some Chinese co-workers at lunch and brought the topic up. All of them had seen the vid. They shrugged it off, "no big deal, we have known worse cases
Croc- I'd run from these coworkers!! YIKES! It isn't normal. Sorry.
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Old 02-11-2012, 10:08 PM
 
Location: TX
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I don't suppose the father would consent to his being stripped to nothing but his underware and tossed out onto the snow to be video taped for viewing on Youtube.
Nope! But to prove he is as tough as his son who wasn't given a choice, he shouldn't be given the choice either. In fact, BURY tha ****er in snow and let him show his son how tough a real man is. How else to keep a cold heart from melting? Then show his son to an actual parent
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Old 02-12-2012, 08:53 AM
 
Location: Hyrule
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It's all cultures, all cultures have creepy parents. I'm sure they watch this in China and think we're creepy parents. This isn't China's way........it just reminds us that even creepy people can become parents.


Judge William Adams beats daughter for using the internet - YouTube



Abusive mom on the Dr. Phill Show - YouTube

Let's not forget what other countries see on youtube about our parenting. I bet that teacher feels really bad about giving that kid a blue card.

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Old 02-12-2012, 05:09 PM
 
Location: Wherever life takes me.
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I can't watch this last video.
It makes me so angry, this rage just fills inside me every time I see it.
I seriously would like to beat the stupidity out of every parent like this.
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Old 02-12-2012, 05:57 PM
 
Location: Toronto
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Some people should really just not have/raise kids if they are going to treat them badly.
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Old 02-13-2012, 03:13 AM
 
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my heart breaks when a person has the gift from god to pro-create and abuses it .
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Old 02-13-2012, 08:52 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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While I think it's appalling to make a small child run around in the cold with no clothes on, the vehemence of some of the these replies are stunning. You'd think the parents were whipping the boy on camera or something. The boy would not suffer any long-term effects from being outside in the cold. I think the biggest potential effect is that the boy grows up thinking that his parents do not care for him or are eternally disappointed in him, but let's face it--that's a potential issue regardless. There are kids with every luxury who feel that way.
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