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Old 02-23-2012, 01:21 PM
 
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Kudzu, my neighbor has those formal portraits of her three children, and yes, they are wearing hand smocked clothing. Truly gorgeous paintings, in large, ornate frames.

I have a few framed photos, on display mainly because we have several built in bookcases that needed filling. I prefer current pictures. We have boxes of studio pictures of the kids as babies and young ones, somewhere. Probably stored with the school pictures we bought for years. I don't even have our wedding portrait out.
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Old 02-23-2012, 01:26 PM
 
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I'm wondering if this is a regional thing. My mother was born and bred in the south and as I remember her parents didn't have photos either. Now it is not at all uncommon for a family to have a very expensive portrait of a young girl in a hand smocked dressed above the uncomfortable settee in the seldom used "formal living room".

While she did not like photos I do remember she insisted on displaying several beautiful silver services in the dining room and I was the one who had to polish the stuff. Funny where people place their priorities.

i do appreciate your responses. I find it interesting the different attitudes about public display of photos. To each their own.
Well, if it were "regional" then you'd find MORE pictures in the south than anywhere else.

Even the poorest of the families in the south have always prized family photographs and paid to have them done however they could going back for generations.
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Old 02-23-2012, 01:27 PM
 
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I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, and I wouldn't judge someone either way.

That being said, I do have a point of view on it that I've had to defend to my MIL when she gave us one of those digital picture frames with a gazillion pics of MissFR on it. (I realize that's not the same as some permanent hung family pics, but it's not too off topic I hope.)

I find that if I see a picture too often, my memory of the event starts becoming more of the picture of the event than the actual event. If I look at the same picture over and over, it's kind of like saying "stick" over and over, eventually you can't remember what on earth a stick is or what it means.

So for a while I used the picture frame to be polite, but I've turned it off because if you ask me to remember MissFR's second birthday I started to see in my head the pictures of her second birthday, and was losing the memory of the actual birthday. Same thing happens if I let the screen saver on the computer mine my photo album. I become totally numb to the pictures.

Plus, I like the surprise of remembering something you've totally forgotten when you go through photos you don't look at very often.

I hope that made sense. Not sure if it's just me or if someone else can relate.
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Old 02-23-2012, 01:41 PM
 
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I display photos in my living room that are good memories/conversation pieces.

One of my husband with his two buddies from 20 yrs ago is my favorite. It's one of those old-fashioned sepia-looking photos where they are all dressed in western wear. Classic.

Another is my son when he was 7 yrs old with a lion cub on his lap at the MGM Grand in Las Vegas.

Regular old "portraits" with the frozen posed smile never did much for me personally.
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Old 02-23-2012, 01:52 PM
 
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Waow, fascinating view - and such a springboard for deep philosophical discussions!

If I didn't know any better I would ask you "what do you feel it's wrong about the past?". But we would get off topic.
nah, I just don't like to think about the past. no particular reason.

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Old 02-23-2012, 02:49 PM
 
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Kudzu, my neighbor has those formal portraits of her three children, and yes, they are wearing hand smocked clothing. Truly gorgeous paintings, in large, ornate frames.

I have a few framed photos, on display mainly because we have several built in bookcases that needed filling. I prefer current pictures. We have boxes of studio pictures of the kids as babies and young ones, somewhere. Probably stored with the school pictures we bought for years. I don't even have our wedding portrait out.
That's in our bedroom

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I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, and I wouldn't judge someone either way.

That being said, I do have a point of view on it that I've had to defend to my MIL when she gave us one of those digital picture frames with a gazillion pics of MissFR on it. (I realize that's not the same as some permanent hung family pics, but it's not too off topic I hope.)

I find that if I see a picture too often, my memory of the event starts becoming more of the picture of the event than the actual event. If I look at the same picture over and over, it's kind of like saying "stick" over and over, eventually you can't remember what on earth a stick is or what it means.

So for a while I used the picture frame to be polite, but I've turned it off because if you ask me to remember MissFR's second birthday I started to see in my head the pictures of her second birthday, and was losing the memory of the actual birthday. Same thing happens if I let the screen saver on the computer mine my photo album. I become totally numb to the pictures.

Plus, I like the surprise of remembering something you've totally forgotten when you go through photos you don't look at very often.

I hope that made sense. Not sure if it's just me or if someone else can relate.
I can kind of. A few years ago we went on a week-long vacation with my in-laws. My MIL printed out all of her photos and made an album for us and one for my SIL. It was thoughtful, but it is the trip through her eyes, not mine. Not to mention it takes up 5x as much space as a digital album would have, but that's not how she rolls.
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Old 02-23-2012, 03:17 PM
 
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I display photos in my living room that are good memories/conversation pieces.

One of my husband with his two buddies from 20 yrs ago is my favorite. It's one of those old-fashioned sepia-looking photos where they are all dressed in western wear. Classic.

Another is my son when he was 7 yrs old with a lion cub on his lap at the MGM Grand in Las Vegas.

Regular old "portraits" with the frozen posed smile never did much for me personally.
I prefer this kind of photo as well. I have a candid photo of our eldest at three, wearing a bathing suit on my grandparents' back porch. She is holding a cat (the cat is not entertained) and has short, fat little legs that make me smile every time. She is tall and womanly now, and I like to see her as that little blondie with her funny face.
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Old 02-23-2012, 04:08 PM
 
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I am not a fan of ALOT of pictures all over the walls. We have one wall that I have framed photos on and a few on our computer armoir in the office, but that is pretty much it.
I would love to have a really nice professional picture done and have that up someday.

I went to pick up my oldest at a friends' house one day and noticed that they had shadow boxes in their family room with infants clothing in them. There were 3 and they have 3 children, so I am assuming they had some type of significance, but in my op, it was a bit tacky looking....
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Old 02-23-2012, 05:05 PM
 
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Except for some old snapshots stuck up with magnets on the fridge, the only place we have any photos is on the stairway. I love the ones there. They are a combination of art shots, travel photos, and family pics and take up most of the wall. My father went to RISD so I have one of his pen and ink sketches framed and matted over the couch, and one of his prints (I have no idea where the originals are) in the den. My sisters congressional art winner (sorry had to brag a bit) I just got back from our congressman and its also in the den. Aside from that I try to support local artists so I have some small stuff in the hallways and bedrooms.
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Old 02-23-2012, 05:05 PM
 
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I prefer this kind of photo as well. I have a candid photo of our eldest at three, wearing a bathing suit on my grandparents' back porch. She is holding a cat (the cat is not entertained) and has short, fat little legs that make me smile every time. She is tall and womanly now, and I like to see her as that little blondie with her funny face.
That reminds me, I have another one of my redhead when he was about 2 yrs old at the beach. You have to picture: auburn hair sticking up in all directions full of sand, WHITE skin glowing in the sun, playing with the sand squinting up at the camera.

Priceless.
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