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I work in a small office of seven women and we are 99% sure on of them is in denial and we are wanting to help her. I'm posting this on the parenting forum because it is in regards to her child. Her son will be 5 in June. From what we have heard and seen from him, we think he is autistic or possibly mentally challenged. We try and talk to her about it but she doesn't want him labeled. She has him in a speech therapy with her local school for speech delay and they tested him recently for kindergarden and he had a very high iq (he taught himself to read and can use a computer) but tested very low on some other test and they were trying to tell her they think he is autistic and needs to be in a special school. She doesn't believe them, says they are not qualified and makes excuses, hes too smart he cant be autistic. And this has been going on for a cpl years. We thought with the diff. teachers and drs she would get it by now but she just gets so mad. So shes not putting him in k this year and will send him back to daycare and if it comes to this next year she will home school him instead of getting him help. Has anyone dealt with someone else like this? How can we help her?
I'm not sure if there is anything you can do. I don't understand why some people keep their heads in the sand about these things. I think maybe a very close friend could encourage her to accept the dx and get help for him, but not a coworker.
I work in a small office of seven women and we are 99% sure on of them is in denial and we are wanting to help her. I'm posting this on the parenting forum because it is in regards to her child. Her son will be 5 in June. From what we have heard and seen from him, we think he is autistic or possibly mentally challenged. We try and talk to her about it but she doesn't want him labeled. She has him in a speech therapy with her local school for speech delay and they tested him recently for kindergarden and he had a very high iq (he taught himself to read and can use a computer) but tested very low on some other test and they were trying to tell her they think he is autistic and needs to be in a special school. She doesn't believe them, says they are not qualified and makes excuses, hes too smart he cant be autistic. And this has been going on for a cpl years. We thought with the diff. teachers and drs she would get it by now but she just gets so mad. So shes not putting him in k this year and will send him back to daycare and if it comes to this next year she will home school him instead of getting him help. Has anyone dealt with someone else like this? How can we help her?
I agree with the above posters who say there's not a lot you can do. The flip side is that maybe the professionals conducting the evaluation did miss something or misdiagnose (it's been known to happen), in which case perhaps encouraging her to seek out a second (or perhaps 4th or 5th, depending on what feedback she's been given so far) opinion from another professional, like a developmental pediatrician, could help. Even if the original evaluators were correct, the additional evidence confirming this might help mom change her mind (i.e., it's less likely for 2 or 3 or 5 evaluations to be wrong than one). ETA: It is also hard to say without knowing the situation - sometimes parents have a better handle on what is going on with their kids than professionals do; some professionals wrongly discount or assign lesser value to parental input, which IMO is a mistake.
Last edited by eastwesteastagain; 03-16-2012 at 10:57 AM..
I'm not sure if there is anything you can do. I don't understand why some people keep their heads in the sand about these things. I think maybe a very close friend could encourage her to accept the dx and get help for him, but not a coworker.
What Dx? Honestly, to me there is no one at that office who has the information to butt into her business. Now they have just made her angry. Why would she talk to them?
Coming at this from someone who was in the position similar to the coworkers. For years everyone told me my son had ADHD. For years his pediatrician would say he is too young to test, and he shows no signs of ADHD. This one would talk to that one who knows a friend who is a special educator who says he has ADHD, so it must be so.
He is in 5th grade now. I got the ADHD eval just to **** the nay sayers up.
Mind your own pints and quarts. For better or for worse, she is his mother. She loves him. She will do for him as she sees fit.
What Dx? Honestly, to me there is no one at that office who has the information to butt into her business. Now they have just made her angry. Why would she talk to them?
If I understand correctly, the child was evaluated and the mom told he has autism. Read my post again. I said said "a very close friend" could talk to her, not a coworker. I did not encourage the OP to talk to this person about her son.
If I understand correctly, the child was evaluated and the mom told he has autism. Read my post again. I said said "a very close friend" could talk to her, not a coworker. I did not encourage the OP to talk to this person about her son.
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She has him in a speech therapy with her local school for speech delay and they tested him recently for kindergarden and he had a very high iq (he taught himself to read and can use a computer) but tested very low on some other test and they were trying to tell her they think he is autistic
whatever. You don't know what he has any better than I do. In any case I agreed with you that the coworker shouldn't bring it up so
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whatever. You don't know what he has any better than I do. In any case I agreed with you that the coworker shouldn't bring it up so 
