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Old 03-24-2012, 09:26 PM
 
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Tell me your thoughts on this; because I don't want to make a big deal of it but this is beginning to really disturb me. My 6 year old kindergartener son told me 2 months a go that a boy chased him and tried to kiss him during recess. Then yesterday, a little boy, the one who has been bullying him kissed him on his back as they were standing in line. My son mentioned it to me so it must have really bothered him. I wanted to tell him to punch the kid but I asked him what he did in response and how it felt. He said he didn't know but told him to stop.
I know all parents think their kids are the cutest but my son is really cute, I mean beautiful cute. He gets an awful lot of attention because of his looks. Could it be that?
I'm a 5th grade teacher but as far as I know this doesn't seem common. Is it? Anyway, how would you have responded?

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Old 03-24-2012, 09:37 PM
 
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Personally, I would report this to the principal and talk to the child's parents. This is completely inappropriate. Sounds like this bully has psychological issues that need to be addressed. You don't want it to get to the point where your son may be sexually harassed which is something that nearly happened to me once in elementary school. The fact that the's a boy and he's trying to kiss your son is very disturbing.
 
Old 03-24-2012, 09:46 PM
 
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Is this the same kid both times?

Anyway, believe it or not, I wouldn't make a big deal of it unless your son indicates he is really bothered rather than mildly irritated. If it really bothers him that much tell the teacher and he/she should be able to take care of it.
 
Old 03-24-2012, 09:54 PM
 
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Wow, two completely different perspectives. You know kindergarteners really don't know how to articulate it when something bothers them. it bothered him enough to mention it to me. I also get not wanting to make a big deal of it because I don't want to draw attention to it to not give it more importance; know what i mean?
Thanks for the feedback.
 
Old 03-24-2012, 10:03 PM
 
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If it bugs your son, tell the teacher and put a stop to it, just as you would if a girl kept bothering him like that.
 
Old 03-24-2012, 10:11 PM
 
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If it bugs your son, tell the teacher and put a stop to it, just as you would if a girl kept bothering him like that.
Thanks. something to think about.......the T.Paine quote.
 
Old 03-24-2012, 10:16 PM
 
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Thanks. something to think about.......the T.Paine quote.
Ha, it's pretty heavy for a parenting thread! It's just a quote I like, and moderators are allowed to have signature lines. Good luck!
 
Old 03-24-2012, 10:20 PM
 
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Wow, two completely different perspectives. You know kindergarteners really don't know how to articulate it when something bothers them. it bothered him enough to mention it to me. I also get not wanting to make a big deal of it because I don't want to draw attention to it to not give it more importance; know what i mean?
Thanks for the feedback.

I have a kindergartener too! LOL. There have been times my kid told me something and I thought he was upset then the next day he didn't even remember what he said. Or sometimes he's upset and I think it's because of X, and its really because of Y. Like say, I tell him he can't play with a toy, he gets mad, I think its because it's his favorite toy and it turns out he's really mad because he thinks I'm punishing him for something he did yesterday, he has a new favorite toy now anyway. Did that makes sense?

Anyway, what I am saying is make sure he's really specifically uncomfortable that this kid is kissing him and not that the kiss itself means less than some other aspect of it. He may not be processing the kissing the way you are. But still, it is the kind of thing you tell the teacher to me. They are trained to handle these things.
 
Old 03-24-2012, 10:23 PM
 
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I have a kindergartener too! LOL. There have been times my kid told me something and I thought he was upset then the next day he didn't even remember what he said. Or sometimes he's upset and I think it's because of X, and its really because of Y. Like say, I tell him he can't play with a toy, he gets mad, I think its because it's his favorite toy and it turns out he's really mad because he thinks I'm punishing him for something he did yesterday, he has a new favorite toy now anyway. Did that makes sense?

Anyway, what I am saying is make sure he's really specifically uncomfortable that this kid is kissing him and not that the kiss itself means less than some other aspect of it. He may not be processing the kissing the way you are. But still, it is the kind of thing you tell the teacher to me. They are trained to handle these things.


Thank you. This was very helpful. I will most certainly talk to the teacher.
 
Old 03-25-2012, 02:17 AM
 
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Tell me your thoughts on this; because I don't want to make a big deal of it but this is beginning to really disturb me. My 6 year old kindergartener son told me 2 months a go that a boy chased him and tried to kiss him during recess. Then yesterday, a little boy, the one who has been bullying him kissed him on his back as they were standing in line. My son mentioned it to me so it must have really bothered him. I wanted to tell him to punch the kid but I asked him what he did in response and how it felt. He said he didn't know but told him to stop.
I know all parents think their kids are the cutest but my son is really cute, I mean beautiful cute. He gets an awful lot of attention because of his looks. Could it be that?
I'm a 5th grade teacher but as far as I know this doesn't seem common. Is it? Anyway, how would you have responded?

If the schools can have a "zero tolerance" policy, so can we parents! I exercised mine by pulling my daughter out of second grade and homeschooling.

I'd be pulling my child out of the school if they won't exercise a zero tolerance policy towards any kids kissing other kids.

The operative comment of yours is that it must have bothered your son a lot. Of course it did! At that age this type of thing is a huuge issue, it feels as gigantic and may make him hate school. This is his huge drama to deal with.

Is there a grandmother or anyone that can teach him at home, for now?

I'm a no tolerance gal when it comes to my kids. We have two daughters and had any girl at school kissed one of them and it bothered them terribly then it would NOT have been allowed to happen again.
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