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Old 03-26-2012, 05:40 AM
 
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Default Helicopter Parents?

Have never heard this term. I was taken back by reading this article about an Easter Egg Hunt that was cancelled because of the parents. I hope this isn't the norm today in parenting.

Aggressive parents force egg hunt cancellation - NEWS10 ABC: Albany, New York News, Weather, Sports
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Old 03-26-2012, 05:50 AM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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The norm? Maybe not but it is common. My school (a high school) always plans on breaking even or making a profit on the Prom from the tickets sold to the parents at $90/person/$150/couple. Yes the kids go in the rented limos but their parents show up in their own cars.
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Old 03-26-2012, 05:51 AM
 
Location: Devon, England
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I've never heard the term before either but sadly i know exactly what they mean. Overbearing is the term used over here in the UK.
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Old 03-26-2012, 06:07 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA... where the nest is now empty!
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Have never heard this term. I was taken back by reading this article about an Easter Egg Hunt that was cancelled because of the parents. I hope this isn't the norm today in parenting.
Not the norm here.... our egg hunt goes well with minimal parental involvement.

Only the toddlers get to have a parent help them... they are clueless as to what they are to do.
The toddlers have their own area too.
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Old 03-26-2012, 06:10 AM
 
Location: Nebraska
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I've heard the term for over 10 years; it is nothing unusual. 8 years ago a church in SC where I used to live tried the same thing; people came from 20 miles away and were literally shoving small children onto the ground, stealing eggs out of children's baskets and fighting over the eggs. The next year, we had the "hunt" done for age groups, and any parent who crossed the rope was immediately hauled off and their children were disqualified (except that some didn't even bring children!).

It is called the greed and selfishness of those with an entitlement mindset. Now where I live a local church does it in a local park; the children are well-disciplined and the parents stay out of it.
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Old 03-26-2012, 06:11 AM
 
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That is really sad but you see evidence of that in sports and all extracurricular activities with kids these days. Pushing for success that my kids are the best. Does that make me the best? Who am I concerned about being the best? Driving the kids and taking away the fun so the kids can be winners! These parents need to be in therapy. I don't believe in pushing kids and it has worked with my two boys, grown boys. What happened to "fun"?
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Old 03-26-2012, 07:50 AM
 
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It is more prevalent than people would like to admit. It happens all the time in the schools where mommy calls to talk to the teacher about something that happened in school vs having the child talk to the teacher, or mommy calling about a grade and how her child is so smart and the teacher should give her a better grade. In high school parents are all over teachers because of grades, etc. Heck, parents are even calling potential employers about why junior didn't get a job, etc. There is a fine line between being an involved parent and being a helicopter. The helicopters swoop in to prevent any disappointment or wrong turns by their kids--which in the long run is very damaging.
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Old 03-26-2012, 07:58 AM
 
Location: hunt valley
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It is more prevalent than people would like to admit. It happens all the time in the schools where mommy calls to talk to the teacher about something that happened in school vs having the child talk to the teacher, or mommy calling about a grade and how her child is so smart and the teacher should give her a better grade. In high school parents are all over teachers because of grades, etc. Heck, parents are even calling potential employers about why junior didn't get a job, etc. There is a fine line between being an involved parent and being a helicopter. The helicopters swoop in to prevent any disappointment or wrong turns by their kids--which in the long run is very damaging.
^that. My little sister has an event at school called field day, that was nearly ruined by helicopter parents.
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Old 03-26-2012, 08:32 AM
 
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Ellwood...always been that way...remember when the first cabbadge patch kids came out?
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Old 03-26-2012, 08:53 AM
 
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It's the sign of the generation cycle at work. Noticed how the article mentioned the trend started when the "babies on board" sign came out? That's when the Millennial generation began to born. The parents of the Millennials were underprotected by society during their childhood and try to undo this by being more protective of their own children. According to the Fourth Turning, "As HEROES replace Nomads in childhood during an Unraveling, they are nurtured with increasing protection by pessimistic adults in an insecure environment." The Millennials belong to the Hero archetype and are on par with the GI generation. The era from 1984-2008 were the Unraveling.

Then the trend towards greater protection eventually reaches a point of over-protection. Something that may happen with the current generation of babies being born, known as the Homeland generation. The Homelands are on par with the Silent generation, who were also over protected by society due to the Depression and WWII. The Homelands and Silents both belong to the Artist archetype. According to the Fourth Turning, "As ARTISTS replace Heroes in childhood during a Crisis, they are overprotected at a time of political convulsion and adult self-sacrifice." We're in the Crisis era right now.

In between the Silents and Millennials are the Baby boomers and Generation X. The Boomers belong to the Prophet archetype and Xers belong to the Nomad archetype.

Prophet archetype- http://fourthturning.com/html/archetypes_0.html (broken link)
Baby boom generation- http://fourthturning.com/html/boom_generation.html (broken link)

Nomad archetype- http://fourthturning.com/html/archetypes_1.html (broken link)
Generation X or 13th- http://fourthturning.com/html/13th_generation.html (broken link)

Hero archetpe- Archetypes (http://fourthturning.com/html/archetypes_2.html - broken link)
GI generation- GI Generation (http://fourthturning.com/html/gi_generation.html - broken link)
Millennial generation- Millennial Generation (http://fourthturning.com/html/millennial_generation.html - broken link)

Artist archetype- Archetypes (http://fourthturning.com/html/archetypes_3.html - broken link)
Silent generation- Silent Generation (http://fourthturning.com/html/silent_generation.html - broken link)
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