10 Rules For Dating My Daughter (BF, teenagers, baby, support)

[ChocolateCity2001]

Have any of you ever seen this list? Better yet, have any of you ever cleaned your guns while your daughter's date answers the door?


10 Rules For Dating My Daughter

[ohiogirl22]

My dad has 2 girls and he was thrilled anytime a boy came over. Someone to talk about sports with.

[Lucidkitty]

Originally Posted by ChocolateCity2001

Have any of you ever seen this list? Better yet, have any of you ever cleaned your guns while your daughter's date answers the door?


10 Rules For Dating My Daughter

I really can't stand the men who are actually like this with their daughters too

[SCGranny]

LOL my DH could have written this.

He would not allow our daughter to date anyone until he took them out to dinner first. We would sit in a nice public restaurant, and talk about sports and politics and all sorts of things. At the end of every dinner, DH would get very quiet (DD and I knew what was coming). He would look the boy in the eye, and say very quietly, "This is my baby. If you hurt her, I WILL kill you." One boy laughed and DD told him, "I wouldn't do that if I were you. He means it."

Most boys who dated our daughter would visibly shake and sweat when DH showed up. One would simply say, "G'bye" and flee. This pretty much eliminated the boys who were not/could not behave as gentlemen, who thought that our daughter was a notch to put on their gun, so to speak, and those who did not/could not respect her as a woman and as an equal (as her father has always done me).

When DD had graduated from college she was dating a real a**hole. We didn't say a word; it was her life, she was an adult who could make her own decisions, etc. He thought it was funny to put her down, even hit her 'in fun'. We said nothing, even when he told us how glad he was that we had put her thru college so that when they got married she could support him. However, when she turned 21, we took her to our local gun shop and got her a .9 Glock, even had the accessories and fittings so that it was comfortable and easy to shoot. Her BF disappeared in six weeks. Apparently knowing that she was armed and knew how to use it was TMI for him and his 'plans'.

Right now she is engaged to a man who is a 100% gentleman, and a gentle man. He treats her as an equal, and she respects him and herself. They are a cute couple. He would not ask her to marry him until they came out to the farm and spent a week with us, and he asked her father if he could marry her. He treats her like a queen, and she treats him like a king, and they are very happy, productive, and do everything together (when they are not working) including work on the house that they bought together. They run in marathons for charity, and both are employed in jobs that pay six figures. He is a weapons instructor, and brings his new acquires out to the farm, where we all go into the back 40 and shoot; he enjoys having a future wife who can shoot as well as he.

Too many girls today are taught that they have to do anything for love, that drama means passion, that disrespect means love, that makeup and 'adjustments' and beauty masques and clothes are the key to winning a man - or keeping him. Their fathers treat them like boys or ignore them, and their mothers raise them to be either dolls or drama queens, begging for attention, demanding romance, not respect.

A REAL man knows that the value of a woman goes deeper than her looks or her (or her parents') wallet, lasts longer than a butt-lift or a makeover. And a REAL man treats his daughter (and his wife) with love and respect, lets her know that he is always there for her, encourages her to be everything she wants and can be, and does not tolerate any man insulting, making fun of, or taking advantage of her.

[brit3218]

Originally Posted by SCGranny

LOL my DH could have written this.

He would not allow our daughter to date anyone until he took them out to dinner first. We would sit in a nice public restaurant, and talk about sports and politics and all sorts of things. At the end of every dinner, DH would get very quiet (DD and I knew what was coming). He would look the boy in the eye, and say very quietly, "This is my baby. If you hurt her, I WILL kill you." One boy laughed and DD told him, "I wouldn't do that if I were you. He means it."

Most boys who dated our daughter would visibly shake and sweat when DH showed up. One would simply say, "G'bye" and flee. This pretty much eliminated the boys who were not/could not behave as gentlemen, who thought that our daughter was a notch to put on their gun, so to speak, and those who did not/could not respect her as a woman and as an equal (as her father has always done me).

When DD had graduated from college she was dating a real a**hole. We didn't say a word; it was her life, she was an adult who could make her own decisions, etc. He thought it was funny to put her down, even hit her 'in fun'. We said nothing, even when he told us how glad he was that we had put her thru college so that when they got married she could support him. However, when she turned 21, we took her to our local gun shop and got her a .9 Glock, even had the accessories and fittings so that it was comfortable and easy to shoot. Her BF disappeared in six weeks. Apparently knowing that she was armed and knew how to use it was TMI for him and his 'plans'.

Right now she is engaged to a man who is a 100% gentleman, and a gentle man. He treats her as an equal, and she respects him and herself. They are a cute couple. He would not ask her to marry him until they came out to the farm and spent a week with us, and he asked her father if he could marry her. He treats her like a queen, and she treats him like a king, and they are very happy, productive, and do everything together (when they are not working) including work on the house that they bought together. They run in marathons for charity, and both are employed in jobs that pay six figures. He is a weapons instructor, and brings his new acquires out to the farm, where we all go into the back 40 and shoot; he enjoys having a future wife who can shoot as well as he.

Too many girls today are taught that they have to do anything for love, that drama means passion, that disrespect means love, that makeup and 'adjustments' and beauty masques and clothes are the key to winning a man - or keeping him. Their fathers treat them like boys or ignore them, and their mothers raise them to be either dolls or drama queens, begging for attention, demanding romance, not respect.

A REAL man knows that the value of a woman goes deeper than her looks or her (or her parents') wallet, lasts longer than a butt-lift or a makeover. And a REAL man treats his daughter (and his wife) with love and respect, lets her know that he is always there for her, encourages her to be everything she wants and can be, and does not tolerate any man insulting, making fun of, or taking advantage of her.

Beautiful post Granny!!!!

[JustJulia]

While I appreciate the humor in joking about being a protective parent, I don't live in a world where my husband and I have to threaten teenagers with murder and give our daughter a gun. We have a few simple rules, one of them being, "If he pulls into the driveway and honks for you to come out, you're not going."

My parents were strict, but they did not pull the intimidation card much. I don't think it's necessary, and I'm not one for bluffing. Still, I know my dad can be physically imposing, just as my husband and I can be, without saying anything. There's nothing wrong with looking like someone you'd rather not cross, but I see no reason in my own family's life to make empty threats or brandish weapons. I realize that the article was a joke, though, and I laughed.

[somebodynew]

We have laughed about this one as well. But in truth, I would rather teach my daughter how to handle herself than threaten some poor teenaged boy.

[PoppySead]

Very funny! I laughed through that whole thing.
I think a lot of dads feel this way and joke about it. Thankfully I haven't had to deal with much but when ever boys come over my husband gets a bit uneasy. We stressed school work as priority early on so my daughters haven't really had "dates" yet. I'm looking forward to their choices, I am pretty sure they will find a good fit or they'll skip it. Kids now a days don't look at marriage or family like we did. Who knows what they'll do.
They will be dating a school book until they are out of school for the most part. lol Busy, busy busy.

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by Lucidkitty

I really can't stand the men who are actually like this with their daughters too

Most people who post stuff like this don't realize how sexually aggressive their teen daughters really are.

[Lucidkitty]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

While I appreciate the humor in joking about being a protective parent, I don't live in a world where my husband and I have to threaten teenagers with murder and give our daughter a gun. We have a few simple rules, one of them being, "If he pulls into the driveway and honks for you to come out, you're not going."

My parents were strict, but they did not pull the intimidation card much. I don't think it's necessary, and I'm not one for bluffing. Still, I know my dad can be physically imposing, just as my husband and I can be, without saying anything. There's nothing wrong with looking like someone you'd rather not cross, but I see no reason in my own family's life to make empty threats or brandish weapons. I realize that the article was a joke, though, and I laughed.

And personally i think it ends up backfiring a lot because you never teach your daughter how to handle the situations on her own. Daddy or Mommies threats always chase off the bad boys, so when they are old enough to be in the world themselves they now lack the ability. Also another downside is there is a good chance that the daughter will end up dating the type of guy you try to push out due to spite, and the fact they know it gets a rise out of you.