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I wouldn't be worried about losing the "friendship" as it doesn't seem like there really has been one for years. I would put my foot down on having her, this minor, come stay in your house when you really don't know her who she has grown to become. I would think much more frequent get togethers would need to be had before allowing her to come stay in the home for a short while. Why would her parents go off to Yellowstone without her and it seems weird that they are just ok with their minor childing leaving home. Something seems fishy
I agree that the parents probably have no clue that this kid is planning her own trip without them. Unless they are completely lax in their parenting, they would logically contact anyone their child is staying with, make plans for them, and make sure it is okay. Nobody with common sense and courtesy would even send their kid to a family member without calling first, let alone friends they haven't spoken to in years. Just tell your dd, or tell the kid yourself, that her parents will need to contact you first. And you can tell them that you and your family have plans that week, you have to work, or whatever.
Thank you everyone for your advice. I guess I was worrying about losing the friendship I remember us having... not the one we actually have (sort of) now.
It's my understanding that she moved in with an adult boyfriend and some other roommates. Not sure how she dropped out of school, as it is not legal to leave school that young in the state she's in.
I've always known our friends were "lazy" parents that didn't enforce much in the way of rules, but this really is over-the-top.
If they contact me, I will tell them they are welcome to visit on their family vacation, but we aren't in the position to host a teenager for any length of time.
besides all that, what would a 15 year old drop out and a 18 year old senior have in common anyway? I think this kid is just looking for a place to crash and thought of you. I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole.
besides all that, what would a 15 year old drop out and a 18 year old senior have in common anyway? I think this kid is just looking for a place to crash and thought of you. I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole.
That's what I think, too ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
I think she is out of places to stay and if she comes to "visit," she will have no reason to leave, cause she has no place to return to . . . good luck with that! I agree w/ Kudzu (and others) who say NO WAY.
Depending on how responsible your 17 yo is this could actual benefit the 15 yo. She wont know anyone else around your area to hang out with so her and your 17 yo would spend alot of time together and may show her the "right" way to act.
Depending on how responsible your 17 yo is this could actual benefit the 15 yo. She wont know anyone else around your area to hang out with so her and your 17 yo would spend alot of time together and may show her the "right" way to act.
Well I would think it could be good for the girl except for the 15 year old boy who finds her creepy and stalkerish.
I think it may be the boy she's after more than the 17 year "friend". She might think he's cute and a good prospect and because of that more than anything, I think it's not a good idea.
I've had kids stay in my house because things weren't right at home, and I wouldn't kick a kid out, sometimes it's good for them to have a safety net, but in this case, the girl sounds like trouble.
Thank you everyone for your advice. I guess I was worrying about losing the friendship I remember us having... not the one we actually have (sort of) now.
It's my understanding that she moved in with an adult boyfriend and some other roommates. Not sure how she dropped out of school, as it is not legal to leave school that young in the state she's in.
I've always known our friends were "lazy" parents that didn't enforce much in the way of rules, but this really is over-the-top.
If they contact me, I will tell them they are welcome to visit on their family vacation, but we aren't in the position to host a teenager for any length of time.
Something doesn't feel right about this story to tell you the truth. Have you thought about calling them and letting them know about all of this
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besides all that, what would a 15 year old drop out and a 18 year old senior have in common anyway? I think this kid is just looking for a place to crash and thought of you. I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole.
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