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I just see so much over the top excess now in birthday parties for kids. Everything is scripted, choregraphed, and planned to extreme. $500 for a party for a five year old child?! My question is....kids emulate behaviors of parents and siblings at that age, where did she get the idea of not liking the party planned for her? My daughter would have been thrilled. Just something to think about....
You don't give a five year old 5 choices on what they want for breakfast. It will take forever to get the task done..Don't even hint that there are choices...cos' in there simple minds there are none..why put a choice in their sweet little heads...Just give them want you want to give them...and that's that.
My three year old has no problem selecting her breakfast from a list of choices.
First off, your son should have asked his daughter what she wanted. Though his intentions were good and good for him for taking the initiative here since most men wait for their wives to do this stuff, he still should have asked before putting down so much money, so that was his fault. I always asked my kids what theme they want, but we have our parties at home and I don't tend to buy the supplies until a couple weeks prior, so if they change their minds, which they have, its not a problem.
However, that is alot of money to lose and I would tell her to deal with it or there won't be a party. Tantrums = no party. $200 or not. She will love her party if she loves the princesses and he can always take her to the zoo another time.
So am I. I did not want 20 preschoolers at my house. No one got bent out of shape by having only 4 or 5 kids.
It's not rude to leave kids out when you want a smaller party. It's rude to think that every parent has to invite all 20 kids at that age, imo. Also at 3 or 4, you probably would need to have all the parents too. With 4 or 5 kids we knew well, the kids could be there without the parents.
Not to mention some cannot afford to have parties for that many people, like me. My son invited 4 kids from his 2nd grade class for his party this week. Goodie bags are expensive so I started doing some candy, that I always make for the parties anyway, in a bag. Good enough and if not tough crappola.
My son put down a deposit on a party place that has Disney princess parties. This is for a birthday party for his daughter (my granddaughter). This was about 2 months ago. Well now, in the last couple of weeks, my granddaughter has started (tearfully) telling my son that nooooo, she doesn't want a princess party, she wants to have her party at the zoo (which actually is cheaper). But if my son cancels the princess party, he loses a couple hundred dollars of deposit. What should he do?
My opinion is that 5-year-olds do not get a say in such things and he should stick to the original plan (princess party).
I didn't read the whole thread...shoot me...but here is what I would say...
Do 5 year olds get to choose what kind of party they want? Within reason absolutely yes. No, we aren't taking your whole class to Disney World, but you get to pick the theme and where it will be held from a list of choices. I would not plan a party without first finding out what my child wants.
If my child decided to have a princess party and we made all the arrangements, but then they changed their mind...I'm not accomodating that request. They made the choice, it is what it is and we are sticking with it. If their advice was never sought, then I would apologize, but explain that the party needs to go on as planned, but would be sure to include them in future planning.
I agree she most likely will have no issues the day of the party, and logically because of the money he can't really get out. However i think it's pretty much a stretch saying letting your child choose where they want their birthday party is the key to her walking over her father later in life. Sure she does not call the shots, but it's still her birthday, and within reason she should be able to choose what she wants.
I can't imagine why you wouldn't ask the child her opinion. I mean...it is a party celebrating her birthday, right? Isn't the point of a birthday party to make the birthday child happy? So why wouldn't you want to know what she would like? The idea of not asking and then getting angry that you picked the wrong thing is just bizarre to me. Yes, they're both stuck with it now, but hopefully the dad will be more open next year.
My three year old has no problem selecting her breakfast from a list of choices.
Good grief, the lack of respect for young children on this thread is amazing, isn't it?
My son was getting his own breakfast when he was 3 years old (out of some pre-arranged choices discussed with him in advance).
Parents who do not know how to teach their kids how to make good choices only handicap them in the long run.
Even worse are the parents who don't allow their kids to form their own opinions and insist that the parents opinion should be their opinion. We see evidence of such handicapped young adults ALL around us these days. It's disgusting
I think it's quite a leap from "Jenny likes Disney princesses, so I bet she would love a princess party" to disrespecting children and stifling their desires to the point of handicap. It's not like the dad is dragging his daughter to Joe-Bob's Llama-rama and Pointy Stick Emporium.
I think it's quite a leap from "Jenny likes Disney princesses, so I bet she would love a princess party" to disrespecting children and stifling their desires to the point of handicap. It's not like the dad is dragging his daughter to Joe-Bob's Llama-rama and Pointy Stick Emporium.
From what I understand and I agree, I dont think the poster you are referencing is talking about the OP. They are talking about the people who say a 4 year old cant even decide that they want for breakfast, much less what kind of party they want. Or the ones saying that children dont get a say. I do find that disrespectful to the children and I tend to think that most people with toddler age children would agree that not only do they know what they want, they usually find creative ways of acquiring it. A 4 year old is a child but not incapable of doing anything.
I think it's quite a leap from "Jenny likes Disney princesses, so I bet she would love a princess party" to disrespecting children and stifling their desires to the point of handicap. It's not like the dad is dragging his daughter to Joe-Bob's Llama-rama and Pointy Stick Emporium.
I don't think that's what the poster meant by lack of respect. I think it was the reference to the post where someone said that 4 year olds can't make decisions. Well of course they can't make decisions-their parents never let them try.
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