Kids with too many activities parented by "that mom"...

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by NJGOAT

Despite having to deal with this mom and apparently her family too, it in no way diminishes my enjoyment of watching my son and the other kids play a sport they all love. I don't think I ever made that clear in my posts. I was posting more as a rant/observation and was hoping to commiserate with others who have dealt with the same. I could honestly care less how this womans comports herself or how bad she screws up her kids. I draw the line when she turns her comments to me and mine, but that's it.

I find some amount of sweet justice in the belief that she is most likely stressing out over this to the point of ruining her weekend; while my family and I are enjoying a water ice and talking about that one good hit my son had and how much we enjoyed watching him play.

I have definitely dealt with my fair share of toxic parents over the past ten years of youth sports. The only piece of advice I can give you is to just distance yourself from the toxic people to the best of your ability.

You are right to be disgusted with her behavior. She is a toxic individual. To the extent that you can avoid her do it. To the extent that there are other families that you do like, keep those families in your life. You cannot control toxic people so the best you can do is to avoid them.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by NJGOAT

So we had our first game this weekend. My sons team got blown out and lost by around 8 runs. I thought the coach did a great job keeping the kids focused on fundamentals, not caring about the score and making sure everyone had an equal chance to play. The parents, with the exception of Super Mom and her parents (apparently it's genetic) were all very well behaved.

As I said earlier, two kids each inning need to be benched as there are 12 on the team and only 10 players on the field. The coach firmly believes that when all 12 players are there, each kid WILL sit one inning. The teams two best players were benched for one inning each. One of the kids was my neighbors son and while their son was upset because he wanted to play, they told him, it was fair as everyone deserves an equal chance to play.

Super Mom's son on the other hand literally broke down in tears throwing his equipment and complaining that it wasn't fair because he was the 'best'. Super Mom, instead of explaining why it WAS fair, paced up and down the sidelines complaining to her parents that it is totally ridiculous that the coach would bench the best players on the team and then her and her parents proceeded to criticize the other kids amongst themselves. I only knew about it since my dad happened to be sitting next to them and they had no idea who he was. Thankfully my son had a good game and they didn't find anything to criticize about him as I doubt my dad would have been able to keep his mouth shut then, though my dad did toss in an un-solicited comment at one point about the fact that these are just kids learning a game, which earned him a stare from Super Mom.

So, the saga continues and I'm just glad that all the other kids are enjoying playing and the other parents are enjoying watching the kids have fun playing and learning.

Have you considered getting a squirt gun?

[maciesmom]

Originally Posted by nightcrawler

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Sorry, but I have better things to do with my time than sit at any (fill in the blank with any activity my child is interested and involved in, even if I'm not)
ugh, I rather eat nails.

Really?

Not me. I've sat through orchestra and band recitals, gone to photography exibits, any number of scouting activities, youth group as well as sports. It's about them. Not me.

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by mimimomx3

One of my pet peeves is the kids and parents who are overscheduled with sports and extracurriculars who complain about too much homework! Hey, if you didn't do all those activities, you'd have a lot more time for homework!

I hate homework. They just spent 7 hours at school, and they have to come home and do more work? In kindergarten even? Activities have nothing to do with it. Homework sucks.

Originally Posted by nightcrawler

I was a happy Papa, out of the 3 boys I have not one ever wanted to be on any team what so ever, yay !!
They played ball in the street with the neighborhood boys like I did when I was younger...and that worked for me, luckily we had a lot of parks around.

The last thing I ever wanted to do was sit at a children's ball game listening to their retarded parents cheering....a ball game is supposed to be fun for the boys, not a freaking competition.

Sorry, but I have better things to do with my time than sit at any sporting event.
ugh, I rather eat nails.

In case you aren't aware it is considered very rude to refer to people as "retarded". you sound like a 9 year old.

Originally Posted by somebodynew

I feel bad for this woman's kids.

me too

Originally Posted by maciesmom

Really?

Not me. I've sat through orchestra and band recitals, gone to photography exibits, any number of scouting activities, youth group as well as sports. It's about them. Not me.

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by maciesmom

Really?

Not me. I've sat through orchestra and band recitals, gone to photography exibits, any number of scouting activities, youth group as well as sports. It's about them. Not me.

How about a high school weightlifting tournament? It's like watching paint dry but it means a lot to him that we go watch him, even at 18 years old.

[NJGOAT]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

Have you considered getting a squirt gun?

lol, not a bad idea, maybe a super soaker filled with ketchup...

[mimimomx3]

Originally Posted by Kibbiekat

I hate homework. They just spent 7 hours at school, and they have to come home and do more work? In kindergarten even? Activities have nothing to do with it. Homework sucks.



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If the alternative is just hanging out, I'm fine with that. I just find it odd that people who complain about homework (and BTW kinder homework is NOT ok!) have no problems about 3 hour sports practices....

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by mimimomx3

If the alternative is just hanging out, I'm fine with that. I just find it odd that people who complain about homework (and BTW kinder homework is NOT ok!) have no problems about 3 hour sports practices....

What does a 3 hour sports practice have to do with homework? Studies show that kids who get more exercise do better in school NOT worse.

Let the Kids Play: They'll Do Better in School | Healthland | TIME.com

Kids don't need more hours sitting around doing homework.

[somebodynew]

Originally Posted by mimimomx3

If the alternative is just hanging out, I'm fine with that. I just find it odd that people who complain about homework (and BTW kinder homework is NOT ok!) have no problems about 3 hour sports practices....

Sitting at a desk...or getting exercise. Huh.